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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Lost Dad to Lung Cancer

Started by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

I feel worse 2 and a half years on, than I ever did. 11 Replies

Started by Michael Thompson. Last reply by morgan May 12, 2019.

Give yourself time to heal

Started by Felicia Evans May 8, 2018.

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Comment by Trina Mamoon on August 24, 2015 at 4:08am

Michael,

You asked who here believes in God. I do, I am of the Muslim faith. Believing in the afterlife and that I will be reunited with the love of my life, Joseph, gives me the strength to go on living as much as I want my life to end now. Praying daily and praying for peace for myself and for all the other members on this grief site brings me some comfort. I think my faith has kept me from spiraling into deep depression. Hope this answers your question. Thanks.

Comment by dream moon JO B on August 24, 2015 at 4:00am

s1 sent mesag 2 any of us belev in god

yea but im so mad it him/her i cud slap scream so on i cud

Comment by dream moon JO B on August 24, 2015 at 2:25am

big c has me mad lk im mad it god i wish i cud slap big c lk god coz of sad mess it doze 2 loved 1s we sea thm suffer thn wen thy die we sufffer coz of los of big c

Comment by Trina Mamoon on August 24, 2015 at 12:39am

Dear Shirley and Jennifer,

My heart goes out to you both. As someone who has lost her husband and soulmate to lung cancer (on August 4th, 2014), I totally understand the agony, the pain, the regrets and the grief that come with watching a loved one slowly succumb to cancer. It is a terrible disease both for the patient who is afflicted with it and the relatives and spouses who have to watch loved ones suffer the pain and hopelessness. During Joseph's nine-month-long battle, I felt helpless that I couldn't make it easier for him or somehow prolong his life. I would have given anything to make his less pain and add a few more years to his life. But alas, it is not in our hands, try as much as we may.

I feel for you both and for all other grieving family members on this site. Now all we can do is cherish and honor the memory of our dearly departed. Wishing you peace and (some) respite from grief. 

-- Trina

Comment by Shirley on August 23, 2015 at 11:36pm

Going to post for all the ones on here that have lost a loved one with Cancer,  It is the most heart wretching times we will have to endure as we have to watch our loved ones go through the battle with Cancer.it can move from place to place over the entire body and there is nothing we can do to help them with the pain, confusion and moans and groans from having to move them around to get the in different positions.  My son and i took care of my husband at home with Hospice of the Valley. He passed, at home ,on April 29 2014 and has been gone now almost 16 months. Hospice of the Valley are a  wonderful group, but the ones at home, taking care are their loved ones, are the ones that hurts the most.  It is not easy watching your loved one slip[ away and you cannot keep them at any cost.  My heartfelt prayers go out to all who lost a loved one with Cancer. When God took my husband home, I grieved a lot but was so thankful he was out of  the misery he was in the last part of his life here on Earth. Will see him again on the other side and until then I will continue to honor and respect him for being the man he was while here on Earth with me and  the kids.  Have Faith and continue moving forward a small step at a time.  God will be by your  side all the way. It does get easier but you never forget or get over the loss.GOD Bless each of you.

Comment by Jennifer Schwiertz on August 23, 2015 at 10:27pm

It's hard to believe that 5 months have gone by since I lost my brother to cancer. It still feels fresh and hurts just as much as the day he left. I try my hardest to not see him lying in hospital taking his last breath, but that image haunts me day and day again. It's not fair to lose him and at such a young age. He just got to celebrate his 30th birthday. I think the part that hurts me the worst, is that he will not be able to see his 18 month old grow up. My heart hurts for my little niece. I am sure everyone in this forum understands the pain I am going through and I am glad to be able to join an online community where I can feel free to share about my brother. I miss him so much! 

Comment by Shanna on July 29, 2015 at 10:28am

today is hard day, the hard days seem to come and go but today, for some reason, is hard. I miss my dad who passed away 3 months ago from cancer. I found some cards and messages from him today and it all seems like just yesterday we were in that hospital room saying goodbye. Cancer is such a terrible disease. It breaks my heart that others have to suffer the pain of cancer and what it brings to family and friends.

Comment by Shirley on July 28, 2015 at 11:09pm

Want to write a few words tonight as tomorrow will be 15 months since my hubby took his final Journey into the gates o0f Heaven.  April 29 2014 at  4:15 AM he left with the Angel who came for him. Very hard to let them go but when their time is up, we must say good bye and let the go. We would like to keep them here longer, but GOD says time to come home my child.  My live is slowly becoming accustomed to the absence of his body, smiles, jokes, arguing moods,  confusion, and coughs. Bless his heart he was  one sick man.  Cancer is terrible and so hard on the ones are taking care of them.We are all going to die when it is our time. My hubby had five different cancer cells in his body at the time of his passing, I praised and thanked GOD for taking him home and out of the pain,  confusion and dementia that went along the path he was traveling .  Love him, miss him, but understand Gods Plans are always the right way.  Praying for all who have lost loved ones , some with and some without God . Blessings to all.

Comment by Fran on July 11, 2015 at 6:59pm

Jayne,

My adult children(mid 20's) lost their father this past November. I know it affects them both, but, esp. my son. It's like they were 2 peas in a pod. Now he tries to BE his father by fixing everything he can. He really misses talking with him and admits that his father had a way with words that he truly misses. My daughter misses being a "princess"...It isn't easy on them. I expect it isn't easy on you. Words won't help. Know that your mom IS still with you.

Comment by Jayne on July 9, 2015 at 10:19pm

my mom had Pancreatic Cancer. The pain of seeing her suffer was horrific. My mom was and will always be my bff. I wish someone could relate to how a moms passing affects day to day life. The pain I feel is incredible. Keeping busy is a quick fix to distract me but will never take away this pain. I miss her every day. some people say move on there is nothing you can do and that makes the hurt worse.

 

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