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My mom died on June 2nd after an 8 month battle with lung cancer. I miss her so much. Our relationship was complicated but in the end we said everything we needed to and I know that she knew how much I loved her. In some ways I am at peace with her death because I knew there was realistically no other outcome. A part of me is so angry at her because she died of lung cancer after smoking for 50+ years. I can't remember a time I wasn't trying to get her to quit. It's just such a waste and as much as I miss her, I feel like she didn't care about me enough to stop smoking. She continued to smoke until just a few weeks before her death. She was only 69 years old. I understand addiction. She had almost 40 years of sobriety from alcohol and prescription drugs but essentially died from her addiction to tobacco. It all just feels so messed up. I love her, I miss her and I can't believe I will never be able to pick up the phone and call her. I just miss my mom so much.
Well maybe not actually but work on your bond all the time and it might be still there in another form ?
Miss you so much Mom.You won't be there ....EVER.
Accept that we will never be the same..also that the world and the city you live in will never be the same in a sense.
Yes Tans as my math professor said, nothing stops us from thinking of the parent 24x7. Yes never the same and while every day is not a grind, its a strange feeling as I walk through the streets and navigate my way through the week. Keep thinking as much as you can and also try to make some new contacts, on this site and elsewhere. Its just not going to be the same and that is the only thing I know. Learning. Surviving.
Even 4.5 years later I'm realising that I still haven't worked through mom's death. It's been affecting my work and I have to get help. Like Danny says we will never be the same. But just trying to get through every day and think of her as much as I can. Miss you mom
Its tough as ever and the key is to understand that I will never be the same. Even years from now the pain is there but as Tans said a few months ago, at least some of the time I try to think of the infinite talks and conversation from the time I was born. The infinite numbers between 0 and 1.
Nacy Dynes,
I understand about your not being able to listen to music. My mother passed almost 2.5 years ago and was a librarian. I still cannot pick up and finish a book. We were reading books by the pound after she retired at age 77. She passed 3 weeks before her 86th birthday. I still miss her every day. I'm sorry for all of us in the group. There is nothing like a mothers love. I plan to gather up all of her books and transform her room at our house into a tribute library. Hopefully after that I can go in there and have peace. I still cannot go in there with out crying. There is much for me to do since she left me in charge but there are still days I just can't get myself to pack up any of her stuff.
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