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Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 6 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Martha Washburn Sep 22, 2022.

Loss of spouse… 3 Replies

For 40+ years we were together…married 39 years….We were to celebrate our 40th anniversary…Nobody who hasn’t been married, and lost a spouse could possibly understand….even though he was into many…Continue

Started by Susan B. Last reply by Connie Sep 1, 2022.

Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3, 2020.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

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Comment by Steve Suehiro on June 30, 2015 at 2:22pm

I was not privy to whatever it was that caused the turmoil here since apparently those posts were taken down.  But I will say that while it is not appropriate for anyone to be insensitive  or rude here to each other, let us please keep in mind that not everyone here on the page is at the same point in recovery as everyone else,  and not everyone here is the same age.   At 47 I think back to my mindset at 20 and I cannot even begin to recognize that person, and in some ways cannot reconcile the actions or behavior I exhibited.  We are all facing some difficult challenges and we all know how this can cause us to react in ways that might seem harsh or intolerant.   We have all been there, so I do ask folks to please think twice before making a comment that might be taken wrongly, and at the same time, please think twice before taking offense at a comment.

Comment by Tildyc on June 29, 2015 at 8:50pm
Thank you for standing up for us Trina. I truly appreciate it.
Comment by Trina Mamoon on June 29, 2015 at 2:32pm

Peace to you. Thanks again.

Comment by Trina Mamoon on June 29, 2015 at 2:24pm

If you are sincerely apologizing, then apology accepted.

Your suggestion sounded like a sarcastic remark. Because what you suggested is impossible to do. The members here are all scattered all over the US. And even if we lived in the same small tow, it still wouldn't be possible. We would have to give up our jobs and other obligations. We would have to buy a huge house. Who would finance the purchase of such a house? And our numbers are always growing. Not all at plausible. So you see how we may have perceived your suggestion as an insult? Anyway, as i said, if you are sincere, apology accepted. Thank you.

Comment by bluebird on June 29, 2015 at 2:19pm
PotatoLord,
I didn't find your comment offensive at all. but I'm not sure George does, either....do we know if he was even speaking about you?
Comment by Trina Mamoon on June 29, 2015 at 2:10pm

To All Fellow Members,

I am thankful for this forum because this is one safe place where we can turn for moral support and understanding. Many of us have faced dismissive responses from people who have not walked in our shoes who have made light of our suffering and mede suggestions on how to heal that are ludicrous. Having this site to come to when I am sad and depressed has helped save me from going down further into depression. So a big Thank You to all of you for your strength of character and compassion. You are able to hear about other people's pain and grief even when you yourself are deep into it. Hang in there, all of you. And may peace come to us when we least expect it.

Comment by Trina Mamoon on June 29, 2015 at 2:04pm

No one on this forum has the right to be insensitive or rude to the other members just because they are in pain and grieving. This forum is for supporting bereaved spouses and partners. If anyone takes a sarcastic tone and tries to be dismissive of us trying to cope with our loss then they have no clue of what this forum is about. It's about compassion, understanding, and support. When Jon-Paul Ackerman created this forum that's what he was trying to achieve: to bring some measure of peace to the members. There is no room here for sarcasm and dismissive remarks. I don't want to come to a site where I have coming for sympathy and support find questionable comments and sentiments expressed. We need to show respect to all of us. We all follow that basic rule.

Comment by George H on June 29, 2015 at 9:15am
I truly don't believe the girl gets it at all
Comment by Tildyc on June 29, 2015 at 1:21am
I wish I knew how to rebuild.... But that is a concept completely beyond my realm anymore. I feel so helpless against this whole thing. I feel so deeply ashamed of what I've become. But I truly do not know what to do- I just cannot overcome this.
Comment by Tildyc on June 29, 2015 at 1:01am
Trina- For me- there is no reprieve and there never will be. And I know I'm not the only one that lives with this burden. This why I keep coming back here. It is the only place I have to go with my greif and pain.

Each day that passes it is more evident that my life has become empty and meaningless. There seems there is no point to all to these things I have to do every day to just exsist in this world without him in it. I hate saying that- it sounds very dramatic and defeatist but I'm truly stating how I feel. It's what my world has come to. I truly wish it weren't the case - but.... it is.
 

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