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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Lost Dad to Lung Cancer

Started by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

I feel worse 2 and a half years on, than I ever did. 11 Replies

Started by Michael Thompson. Last reply by morgan May 12, 2019.

Give yourself time to heal

Started by Felicia Evans May 8, 2018.

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Comment by Shirley on May 27, 2015 at 12:17pm

Michael,  Thanks for the information. We did not have British National Health here in America. We had private insurance when he passed. Sorry , never thought about the different Countries that post on here.

Comment by Michael Thompson on May 27, 2015 at 12:12pm

Shirley, the British National Health system is funded via direct taxation, all health treatment is completely free.  We value our NHS.  It was founded in 1945-48 and its still going.

Comment by Shirley on May 27, 2015 at 11:52am

If they found a cure for Cancers...look how may people will go broke.  Doctors (specialists)..drug manufactures, drug stores, nurses, office staffs, and  etc.  Therefore they keep asking for money to help find the cure. Vicious game that is being played.  When my hubby passed last year there was cancer cells in five areas of his body, yet Doctor bills, the medicines, the trips to the treatment centers, the hospital stays, etc., all had to be paid. Seems like they are all bilking Insurance Companies and Medicare. Just my opinion though .....

 

Comment by kathleen akin on May 27, 2015 at 11:13am

I agree Heath. (I have a son by that name)  No matter how many marathons or other awareness events for cancer...seems like they could have at the very least gotten better at diagnosing cancer when its RIGHT THERE! So many times I've heard stories like this. And now it's happened in my life. We put way too much trust in Dr's and they continually let us down. We go to the Huntsman Cancer Center in Salt Lake City UT, which is supposed to be some premier cancer hospital. Sorry, I don't see it. Drs won't even return an email or a phone call. Rocky's oncologist sits there and asks the same question he asked at the last appointment like this is the first time all over again. Never fails. I remember EVERYTHING he says, and he contradicts himself all the time. I don't care that he has more than one patient at a time....have less patients, don't try and make so much money, help people. How about that? Who said you had to be rich? Your not curing cancer!

Comment by Heath Dorian Papp on May 27, 2015 at 10:59am

People say malpractice suits are out of control.  I've not known anyone who has ever even sued.  We want to spend time with our loved ones who are approaching the veil.  Doctors, insurance, and big pharma are in it for profit.  Otherwise, cancer would be cured.  It's a 85 billion dollar a year industry.  They don't care about us or our loved ones.

Comment by Richard G on May 27, 2015 at 10:31am

I think many of us are mad at the doctors. I don't think that Cherie's oncologist ever looked at her CT Scans. The first CT Scan showed two small tumors in her right lung. But the cancer was in the fluid outside the lung so that meant it had spread and was stage four. Two months before she died she had a CT Scan and the report we got back was that there was no significant change. Five weeks before she died she woke up and couldn't breath. She was airlifted to a regional hospital. The initial diagnoses from the ICU doctor was she had a bad case of pneumonia in her right lung. He said he was going to call in specialist because she had cancer. The specialist looked at all her scans and said that the tumors had consumed 80% of her right lung and had spread to the left lung. Three weeks before that we were told the tumors hadn't changed and the left lung was clear. Five weeks later she was gone. I have very little faith in doctors. 

Comment by Michael Thompson on May 27, 2015 at 9:25am

So am I Kathleen, so am I.  I am going to send you an article I wrote to my local paper about cancer from the left behind spouses point of view, and a tribute to my wife.

Michael UK

Comment by kathleen akin on May 27, 2015 at 9:16am

Anyone angry at the doctors besides me? Every single doc we saw in our town didn't bother to look any further than the end of their nose when Rocky went to see them. He was one of the few who really took his health seriously and had blood tests done every year. He had them sent to his doc. This person never even looked at the results. If he had he would have noticed something was seriously wrong. Rocky confronted him. Asked "what do you think of my results?" the doc said "oh I'm going to have to check those" and did right then and his whole attitude changed when he saw. The liver was not where it should be....by a long ways. The cancer has been right there for some time if only someone had looked.  If they had looked 4 years ago when Rocky started going to doctors for the pain in his abdomen. Again and again he was told "I don't know". Then last Feb Rocky decided to just get a CT Scan and there they were, huge tumors. On his liver and adrenal glands. They were there this whole time.  I'm so mad I could hurt someone. So frustrated! He is all I have.  All I have is going to die and leave me here...I don't know what to do. And having to watch people go along with their lives while I sit here silently falling apart.

My kids live so far away, and they have their own lives to live. I wanted a life to live, but not alone. I finally meet the one person I was meant to be with and now he's being taken from me and I'm just so mad at the doctors, at God, and the universe.

Comment by kathleen akin on May 26, 2015 at 5:17pm

So many have lost or are going to lose their loved one due to mis-diagnosis.  Same with my husband.  He did do a sleep study! Jeez!

Comment by Elizabeth on May 26, 2015 at 4:45pm

Hello, all. My name is Elizabeth and I am a 23 year old nurse in Alabama. I have not physically lost my mom yet but she is very quickly losing her battle with metastatic colon cancer. It was found in her colon in early October 2014, but should have been caught much earlier. She had struggled with gastrointestinal issues for a year or so before the diagnosis. Doctor's always said "try eating gluten free" or "add more fiber to your diet" when actually, the issue was aggressive cancer growing inside of her. In March of this year, we found out the cancer had spread to the pleural sac around her lungs and that she was in congestive heart failure, then in April, we found out there was another mass in her stomach. She was suffering more than I could ever imagine. Her oncologist put her on hospice care, saying nothing could be done. That is where we stand today. My mom can barely whisper words out to you, sleeps all the time, doesn't eat or drink much, and is ready to leave her physical body. It's time. I will miss her so much; my whole family will. Thank you for taking the time to read this and offer any support. I am so sorry for all of your losses as well. God bless.

 

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