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Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue
Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.
Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family. I…Continue
Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.
Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue
Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.
Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue
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Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.
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2 day is 1 of my low days
me 2 felica sorry 4 evrys loss new 1s on hear as well old 1s on hear
i no 1 thn we ask why me we do we wil ask it evry day why me
Yes, it's very isolating. I've got a good support network of friends but that has dwindled as the months have passed...they are still there but only a few don't look bored when I talk about my sister. I can tell they want me to go back to talking about concerts, dates, holidays, nights out and other superficial things. Not a dead sister, death, the after life. Who wants to talk about that over dinner?
Even those that are willing to listen don't know HER; don't know our relationship, don't know all her little quirks and our jokes and our faultless relationship. Don't appreciate that I was brought up changing her, washing her, putting her to bed because she was 8 years younger than me. Don't appreciate that I watched that person grow into a lovely 22 year old and I know every feature and facial expression SO well. They don't realise the wonderful dynamic of having a motherly, sister, and best friend relationship. So really we do go through this journey alone. Talking to the one we have loved and lost and hoping they can hear us.
I am currently experiencing this divide between those of us in grief and those who are not, as mentioned in the last handful of comments. For some grief is an uncomfortable topic, for some being around a grieving person in general is uncomfortable, but for those who are closest to us it's just that their world didn't stop dead in it's tracks, only ours. Going through deep grief you really are in a completely different world than everyone else. I feel you can't hold them to expectations of meeting you in yours but you can't act like you're in sync with theirs and all is well. It's very isolating.
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