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Comment by Sharon Robertson on June 27, 2015 at 7:19pm

does anyone struggle with just the everyday things around the house, today I would rather drown myself with the computer watching catchup tv I find life to hard and I just seem to go round and round.

I was a very capable women before the accident .. I have run a womens shelter, and a drug rehab... cooking cleaning counciling ... I feel like im nothing now and when I see a mess I just stare at it and think ...later.

Why does grief render us so useless Does anyone else feel like this or have I gone a little bit nutty in my mind

Comment by gramaokie on June 24, 2015 at 9:52am

Sharon:  I can't imagine the pain and suffering you've been through.  So many traumas at the same time.  I'm so sorry for each of your losses.  Be kind and gentle with yourself.  This is a great place to vent and not be judged.  Thoughts and prayers. 

Comment by Sharon Robertson on June 24, 2015 at 5:23am

I am a new member, and am so thankful I can share and no one runs a mile.... because they have been there too.

On the 10th March 2008  my life changed forever.

My youngest daughter 18 months old was run over by my 17 yr old son, we were in hospital till the Wednesday .... then on Saturday my husband decided to take our japanese student and the rest of our family to a bird park up the coast........we had not had much sleep that week and thought that he was too tired to do something like that, as a result of his decision he fell asleep at the wheel hitting a large tree which killed my 17yr old daughter instantly, and left him fighting for his life and my two other children who had gone with him that day taken to another hospital... my eldest son was point 1 of being in coma and the japanese student was in another hospital for about 3 months.

All I wanted to do is see my daughter but they had lost  lost her .... they couldn't tell me where she had been taken to ... two days later they informed me that she had been taken to the John Tong Centre it is a place where people have died by murder or MVA.

I have since lost a marriage 0f 26yrs ( he didn't want me anymore)

He has a frontal lobe injury ....... lost a beautiful 17 year old daughter  Lost my eldest son to frontal lobe injury from the same accident ...........lost my other son to grief, he doesn't want anything to do with me because I divorced his dad.

Loss of financial security as I am only on a carers pension now and trying to pay off a house loan.

Loss of my beautiful 7 bedroom, 2 kitchens, 2 bathrooms, rumpus media home

Loss of dreams and hopes for the future

With all these losses in one I have not really dealt with the death of my daughter, have been busy helping my two youngest daughters, helping them work through grief especially Zoe as she was in the accident..... so I have had to support her as her mind slowly unlocks that awful day.... not had much sleep for about 7 years... feel so tired sometimes.

the shock of everything took my ability to cook away, and even to sign my name (just couldn't do it) and driving... well I had to buy an automatic so I didn't have to think about changing gears.

Wow that feels good to be able to write this down... hope you don't mind me venting all that I have longed to share to someone

 

Comment by Melinda Silva on May 16, 2015 at 10:14pm

I lost my mom six months ago and my best friend of 34 yrs two months prior to that. I've also lost my big brother, another brother, and a nephew to suicide a few years prior to my mom's and my best friend's death. I am really needing a support system. I don't have much which is why I've come here hoping for some sort of moral support. Please help.

Comment by Michele on May 12, 2015 at 7:55pm

I lost my sister and brother in law in a house fire in March. It is such a devastating life changing tragedy it is really just so hard to wrap my brain around this. They left behind 4 children. My sister and I were so close and our families vacationed and did everything together. Ive been trying so hard to do things with the kids but it literally shatters my heart into a million pieces everytime I am around them. I have such a hard time sleeping and trying to function with this dark depressing cloud hanging over my head. Ive never gone this long without talking to my best friend/sister. I broke down and cried at universal standing in line behind sisters just talking about nothing, knowing i will never have that kind of conversation with anybody ever again. Has anyone else experience this and how on earth do you go on and be happy again. I cant imagine how the holidays or anything will ever be again. 

Comment by dream moon JO B on May 8, 2015 at 4:01pm

im so sorrry trudy multi loss suckss it doze 

Comment by Trudy F. Evans on May 8, 2015 at 10:09am

I lost two of my sons and I'll never be the same again. One son left me two grandchildren and it's painful to see him gone. His son looks a lot like him and it's very painful.

Comment by Wendy (Boabie) on May 6, 2015 at 9:10pm

My mom was born on May 10th.  So Mother's Day is her birthday. She hasn't been gone for two years, and it is still painful.  My dad died exactly 1 year and 1 week before mom. I work and try and take care of my family, but it's still tough some days.  Hugs to all!

Comment by Misty on May 6, 2015 at 6:50pm

I always thought I could handle anything because I had my family always their always supporting me in everyhing. My brothers widow asked me how I can keep it together. What she doesn't know is that I focus on anything but how I feel. Work is everything and making sure my family is ok. We got through Dads birthday 2 weeks after Mom passed and their 40 th anniversary was Sunday.... I keep thinking that I will take time for myself and so many people say they are their if I need to talk but they will never understand and the only other person that does won't talk about it. My middle brother says nothing he just says whatever you want Misty. Neither of us wants anything. My Dad just says when your ready we will go through her stuff.

Comment by Felicia Evans on May 6, 2015 at 5:15pm

Yesterday was my nephew's birthday. His older daughters and went to the grave site. We let go balloons and they placed flowers on his grave. It was sad yet healing too. He would have been 47 years old yesterday. I have comfort knowing he is out of pain. His girls brought me much comfort. We laughed, cried and hugged it out. I can't believe its only been 5 months since he passed away. Life goes on...somehow.

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