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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Lost Dad to Lung Cancer

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Comment by Shirley on March 26, 2015 at 6:41pm

Debbie.....Prayers for you and your boys. It has now been almost six months since your husband had to make his journey alone. As the days pass for you it will begin to ease up a small amount at a time. Lost my hubby last April 29, almost a year now, and my days seem to be somewhat easier to navigate through.  Things will never be the same yet until our time comes to take our journey, we have to do the best we can to move forward.      P.S.   Do you get SS for yourself and your kids now. They are the first ones who contacted me regarding finances coming in for me.

Comment by Debbie on March 26, 2015 at 6:23pm
Hello all my sympathy goes out to all of you, I just have a question, My husband died in August at the age of 48 and left me with two boys when does it get easier every day I cry it's harder and harder it seems. Know job know money and know help from anyone.
Comment by Shirley on March 26, 2015 at 6:16pm

JT....Just a few words to say hello and that I know how you feel about not being able to say goodbye to our loved before they pass over to Heaven. I had the same thing happen to me when my Mom passed. I received a call that my Mom was in a coma and I immediately left my home, in another State, and started to drive home. When we arrived we were told she had passed and they were not going to let me know until I got home. That was quite  a few years ago and today I still think about not being there to say goodbye.  I believe she knew I was on my way home and that I loved her very much. I plan on seeing her again soon and we will have a Joyous time strolling over Heaven together. Will send prayers for you and your family and always remember your Grandfather knew you loved him very much too.

Comment by dream moon JO B on March 26, 2015 at 5:41pm

im so sorry for evry 1 its had a loss coz of evil big c 

its so evil big c

Comment by Jt on March 26, 2015 at 4:16pm

Thank you so much. This means a lot to me.

Comment by Fran on March 26, 2015 at 4:06pm

JT, sorry to hear about your grandfather. It is evident that he meant a lot to you. Even tho you didn't get to see your grandfather before the end, I'm sure he knew that you loved him. Sometimes it's even harder on the person dying to see his loved ones crying over him...Hopefully, while he was alive you let him know how important he was to you. Cancer is an evil thing and cruel to the body. What you can do now is support your grandmother and mom and live your life so your grandfather would be proud. Sending you healing thoughts and prayers.

Comment by Jt on March 26, 2015 at 1:46pm

About 3 months ago we found out that grandfather wasn't feeling very well. He's just not feeling very well today we were told. A month later we kept getting the same store, even though my uncle went down there to help cook and clean for my grandparents. We found out that my uncles and my aunt were taking turns caring for my grandparents, and that myself, my brother, and my mother were not allowed to go down to Florida from Maine. After one of my uncles had gotten home, I called him and he ended up telling me that my grandfather had inoperable bone cancer. After I spoke with my uncle, I called my grandmother and she told me everything that she knew. I, of course, told my mother and my brother. 3 weeks ago today my wife was speaking with my grandmother and was told how hard things are and how much pain my grandfather was in. My wife suggested hospice care since they could control the pain 24/7. My grandmother said that they and the Dr. were considering it. Tuesday night I did my daily phone call to my grandmother to see how things were going and was told that they were putting my grandfather into the ambulance to transport him to the hospice. My wife, my mother, and I loaded up my car and we drove down to Florida. My brother would be flying in on Friday. We left Tuesday night and go to my grandmothers at 10pm on Thursday the 5th. We were told that my grandmother wanted us to go straight there so she wouldn't be alone as my uncle was with my grandfather. We fell asleep with every intention of waking up early to go and see my grandfather. My wife was woken up before 7am Friday morning by my grandmother saying that my grandfather had passed and that she needed to go. My wife was told to stay at my grandmothers home and wait for further instruction. My wife was given the task of telling me and my mother that my grandfather was gone. We never got to say goodbye to him while he was alive. We went to the hospice to see him, but he wasn't the same Grampy that I had know my whole live. I will always remember seeing him in his death bed with his mouth wide open like he was gasping for air. My grandfather was for than just a grandfather. He was like a father to me, he was my hero, and my role-model.

Comment by Trina Mamoon on March 18, 2015 at 5:32pm

Hi Kathy,

My condolences for the loss of your mother. I, too, lost my mother in December 2011. For me, the first six-seven months were unbearable. I would think of her all the time and it would be very hard to make it through the day. Then gradually, after 2 years it got a little bit better. I think of my mother every single day now, but the pain is not so intense. It's more happy memories and regrets that she is not here anymore, but the sharp pain is gone.

Now I am dealing with the grief of losing my husband this past August. This is extremely hard to bear. Sometimes I can hardly breathe.

Sending good ives your way.

Best, Trina

Comment by Kathy Liz on March 18, 2015 at 5:14pm
Hi all, lost my mom in December to cancer. I have moments where feel overpowered of memories of her last few days.. Along with the day she died. I was her caretaker for the last month of her life..how long does this last... It is beginning to be overwhelming.... All I wanna do is sleep .. I am on anti depressants already.. And xanex.. But I am not liking this.

I know she wouldn't want me to feel this way, but I have this huge weight
Comment by Shirley on March 17, 2015 at 2:15pm

 James,  Going to send prayers for you and can say I do relate to with the grief you are going through at this time.  God has brought me through losing loved one so many times. Have lost my parents, five brothers, oldest sister, two husbands ,both with Cancer, and several great friends. My second hubby passed the 29 of April 2014 and there are days that I can get through without any kind of issues and then there are some days I do not think I will make it until time to go to bed. We can not ask any questions about GODS Plans . We have to keep moving forward even if it is at a snail pace. You have friends, here on this thread,  that will be there for you whenever you need to vent or just say hello. That helps to know that too. GOD Bless you and give you all the strength and comfort you need....

 

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