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Missing my Son  or  Daughter

For all of us that are suffering the loss a son or daughter.

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Comment by Maureen on March 1, 2015 at 4:41pm
Dick, I don't know if you believe in this sort of thing or not but my daughter had been having bad dreams about my son and when we saw the medium she told her this: he will NEVER come to you in a bad dream. Any bad dreams you have are All you. Also, my phone rings every once in a while and no one is there. One time I picked up and I swear I heard my son say "mommy" but it was very quiet and sounded far away. The medium I saw confirmed that all of the things or signs that I've seen or heard that I wonder about, are our loved ones trying to let us know they are there.
Comment by Teresa D. on March 1, 2015 at 3:13pm
Dick your not going crazy. I swear I feel someone tapping my head and one day I smelled Michael (the smell he had after a hard day of work) to the point I jumped up and really expected him to be standing there. But he wasn't.
Comment by Dick on March 1, 2015 at 1:45pm

I have had two scary dreams about my son and I heard someone call "Dad" as I was leaving the house 1 month ago. I am going mad, I am sure.

Comment by Jill E on February 28, 2015 at 4:35am
I need/want sleep, please!!!
Comment by Maureen on February 27, 2015 at 8:41pm
Jill, I know it's hard to not be angry at your daughter-in-law. You think she should've taken care of him. As an ex-wife of an alcoholic I know though that she had absolutely no control over the situation. You know your body. He knew his too. This was your sons doing. He did this. Not her and not you. He brushed off the comment about his eyes because he chose to. Maybe he was in denial about how sick he was, but that wS also his choice. He was a grown man and if he chose not to do anything to help himself, that's his choice. Does that make sense?
Comment by Jill E on February 27, 2015 at 7:14pm
Sorry to all the male readers out there but I have to ask...I am 56 years old and have been post-menopause for years. I had what was a very slight bleeding in late December the moth I lost Josh, last month the same thing, just a couple of days, well this month it is full fledged. I have read it can be from stress, back 2 years ago I had just a bit of the same when my husband had his heart attack. OBGYN did tests and biopsy etc. and all was basically well except for a thinning of the lining. So of course I am now freaked out, stressed out because I have it again only worse and of course can't see him for another week and a half. Anyone had anything like this happen?
Comment by Jill E on February 27, 2015 at 7:06pm
I too look back all the times I should have done this or seen that. It kills me that I noticed his eyes turning yellow but he brushed it off, then his wife saw him everyday...she saw his eyes...she had to have seen them getting worse. I want to scream at her so badly and shake her. Ask her how could she not have seen the horrible physical changes he was going through. That he had a drink next to the bed and when he woke up it was empty. When they fought over his drinking for 2 years and I never even knew he drank more than a couple of beers a week. Wow guess I needed to let that out. She is such a procrastinator. I am a doer. She should be looking into why the emergency room staff did not see his purple legs back in October when he had 12 staples put into a gash on his leg. Then when he had them taken out??? Why is she not checking it out?? Mothers don't have much voice when there is a wife. Why did she not ask for an autopsy...
Comment by Sandy Hendrix on February 27, 2015 at 5:13pm

Jill, I feel the same, I can't believe he's one, I miss his smile, his sense of humor, all of it, laughing with his friends...calling me MOM or Mamacita sometimes, these last 2 weeks have practically ben unbearable for me, the pain is so deep and so awful. 4 months today. I want to fix it I want to make him happy and not do drugs. I cancelled lunch on him 2 days before and I am really beating myself up.  I didn't even get to see him.  I don't know how we are supposed to go on, cus I don't even feel like I want to.

Comment by Sharon on February 27, 2015 at 5:06pm
My son has sent me 3 signs... One being a pin that you pin on yourself that says Emmanuel. I walked in my backyard... And it was laying on the grass. I looked it up and Hebrew meaning is"with God". I'm not very religious, but It made me feel a little better...
Comment by Jill E on February 27, 2015 at 12:41pm
I too look for signs. Sometimes I feel like I am looking too hard. The couple I have seen my logical mind wants to pop in and tell me that I am just "imagining it", that it really could not be a sign. Then I look at it again and I think if I had not been there at that time and place at that moment I would not have seen it. Like the car driving by that looked like the car Josh and I bought for him over 10 years ago and it is not a really common car not common color. When I go to bed at night I want to feel his arms going around me and telling me "I love you Mommas" just like he use to. Right before they intubated him he said that to me but since that day I doubt myself...I know I wanted to hear that and I swear he looked me in the eye and said it before he could not speak any longer. I believe it was the last thing he spoke. To me his Mommas. Not to his wife but to me his Mommas. Then like I said I go doubting myself. Did I hear it because I "wanted" to hear it. Did it really happen??? I am so confused. If it really did happen I feel that was his way of saying he was sorry. I still can't believe he is gone. His smile, his laugh, his refusal to smile when a camera was around, his love. How could he be gone so quickly. How could he be gone so young. How can anyone survive a mother's pain like this . These last three months have seemed so long and yet it is all so fresh. How can it feel so long ago but also just yesterday? I lone you my Joshie and miss you everyday more than the one before. I pray to hold you once again in my arms. I pray there is somewhere we will be together. Peace
 

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