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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Amy Barnhart on November 30, 2014 at 8:55pm

I lost my husband when our house caught fire one month ago today. I was at work when i got the call. I miss him so much becausewe did everything  together. I'm currently staying at my sisters butam looking at apartments without him. The worst part is that because it was a fire  i dont have one thing  that  survived with his scent  on it.

Comment by Kim Snell on November 26, 2014 at 4:41pm

I lost my oldest son on Oct. 21, 2014. He was shot multiple times and then thrown out of the car onto the street and was left lying there. My heart feels as though it has completely been ripped out. I still feel completely numb and although I know he is gone I have moments where it all still seems so unreal. He is my baby and I can't believe because another human being felt it was ok to take his life that I will never see or talk to him again. He was a beautiful young man with a wonderful heart. We had our rough times but were always there for each other. The hurt, loss, anger that I feel I can't even begin to explain and I feel alone. I am blessed w/two other children but am trying to stay strong because they are hurting so much. I had 26 wonderful years with him but was suppose to be able to have the rest of my life with him. I miss him.

Comment by erin on November 19, 2014 at 5:47pm

I'm right there with you it's been 2 months and one day since Don passed, due to complications from surgery, and yet no autopsy results, except his heart was really bad, and the VA should have NEVER oporated on him, they even postponed it to test his heart, and gave green light. One day I'm married, the next I'm widowed, I have a hard time even identifying myself with that word..  What I do know was it was easy to loose myself in Him, and avoid things in myself that really needed attention.  I have also spent over 30 years in 2 relationships, and now it's my time to make it or break it. I have secluded myself alot, and it actually helps, cuz everytime someone asks me how I am, I burst into tears. Someday I will have my lightness back, and won't let this taint my pure heart! I'm so deeply sorry for all of your losses

Comment by Lynn Boyd on November 18, 2014 at 8:19am
"A million times
I've needed you
A million times I've cried
If love alone
Could have saved you
You never would have died.
In life I loved you dearly,
In death I love you still.
In my heart you hold a place
No one else can ever fill.
It broke my heart to lose you,
But you didn't go alone
Part of me when with you,
The day God took you home."

I would never miss a single meeting of my bereavement group. They are wonderful people who understand, and it's ok to cry all you need. Currently attending "Grief during the Holidays" meetings. Meeting new people who understand my pain and are becoming new friends. It's been 10 months now....sometimes it feels like yesterday....sometimes it feels like forever. I'll never get over it, but with support, love and my new relatioship with God I'm getting through it. I know my beloved would not want me to torment myself, destroy myself and others who love me. Life must go on.
Comment by Danny on November 17, 2014 at 5:08pm

easier said than done Tracy

Comment by Tracy Huston on November 17, 2014 at 3:17pm

My friends.. please, PLEASE stop asking yourself WHY??? You won't get an answer.. you won't know until you're on the other side and can speak to your loved ones yourself.. Stop torturing yourself.. please.

Comment by Tracy Huston on November 17, 2014 at 3:14pm

My son passed away 15 months ago, today. He had just gotten home from a drug treatment center and he was doing so well! He had learned so much and he kept telling me all of this stuff he was learning and realizing and I had taken off work 4 days and we had spent so much time together - except the time he went to meetings- and one night his dog woke me up and I ran in his room and he was on the floor and I couldn't wake him up.. stayed unconcious for 3-4 days on respirator until we had it unplugged... of all the times, so many times.. I thought I'd walk in and see him that way or get that call.. or every time I heard a siren thinking it was for him... this was NOT the time I expected this. Not when his life was just getting back on track.. I thought. He had issues but we were close.. even with everything that had gone on - that goes on with an addict.. we had a special bond. He was the only grandson.. my only son.. He's just. gone.  Somedays it's just hard to go on.. but I have a husband, two daughters and three granddaughters and I have to. For them. 

Comment by Holly on October 20, 2014 at 9:11pm
I lost my second mom a little over a month ago. She had a sudden brain aneurysm. She was my friend, supporter, comforter, mother figure to me for over 13 years. Her death still feels like it happened yesterday. I will never forget that phone call from her best friend. I feel like I lost my mom. My real mom is still alive, but has never been able to provide emotional support to me. This is a huge loss.
Comment by Silva Delphine Reynell on October 19, 2014 at 11:36am

Anyone have any experience with loosing a boyfriend/partner? My boyfriend passed a week ago, totally unexpected after he made a stupid mistake, he was 24 years old. Absolutley devestated and heart broken. The warmest, nicest most genuine pure sou iv'e ever met. What the F to do!!

Comment by Jayne on October 18, 2014 at 12:05am

my ,mom, passed away 8 months she suffered from pancreatic cancer

I am devastated. she was and will always be my bff.

 

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