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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Wander on October 9, 2014 at 5:38pm

Today is six months since my beloved husband left us. I can't bear this any longer. I'm struggling to hang on for my kids, who clearly need me to be here-- but I need him!! I can't do it, I just can't. I pray constantly for release from this horrible pain. I manage to get through most days, keeping my mask of "okay-ness" in place, but inside I'm endlessly screaming in agony. I hate this. It's not my life. It's not.

Comment by Bern on October 8, 2014 at 11:46pm

The non stop self destruction and the non stop drinking will numb the pain. I blame God too. I ask why Me? I get not answers. I will continue to try to keep my head clear for my Only Son.The tears just tear me apart when I am alone, the grief is after me like a thief in the night.

Comment by dream moon JO B on October 7, 2014 at 4:00pm

so sorry kay my dad died 2012 so srry i am

i got ths pic off antr site i did

i wish my dad wz stil hear i wish evry 1 we lost wz still hear so we wud not hav ths horbl grief pain

Comment by Kay on October 3, 2014 at 4:55am
  • I lost my Dad because of a choking accident

  • It's still unbelievable to me at this point. He was taken to the hospital and was n ICU for 8 days. They ended up doing a blood flow test and declared him brain dead. It still haunts me as to whether I should have taken him off of life support.

Comment by Danny on September 15, 2014 at 2:43pm

Yes in a sense we are alone on this journey but we have ourselves, our loved one is watching us and with us spiritually and emotionally.  Remember these two bonds can't be taken away from us.  Support to all

Comment by Rachel on September 15, 2014 at 3:25am
Will I ever sleep again? Tuesday the 16th will be 3 months since I lost my beautiful girl. And yets it feels like it has been so much longer. The days and nights just drag on. Every day that passes I just miss her so much more. The hole just gets bigger.

I'm still feeling disappointed about my first grief support group meeting called “Compassionate Friends”. I was looking forward to meeting other people like me. And much to my disbelief I was the only one who showed up that night, other than the group leader. I did share with her. I felt as though it was an affirmation to me that I was in fact in this journey “ALONE”.
Oh Lord, please send me someone to lean on, a good friend.
Comment by Wander on August 30, 2014 at 12:25pm

Same here... I'm so lost, and no matter how many times friends and family tell me otherwise, I'm so, so alone. My sweet husband promised me forever-- he left me once a long time ago, and he finally came back to me, and he vowed he would never leave me again. And then he did, and now I'm completely broken. I didn't ask for this and I DO NOT WANT IT. I don't want to go another step without him. I don't want to be here at all, I just want to lay down and wake up in the next world, in his arms.

Comment by maryanne reel on August 30, 2014 at 6:26am

Steve said he would be with me forever and now here comes another stupid holiday. We didnt do much but at least we were together and now Im alone. My kids say Mom go meet someone. Its not the same, you may have some one you can talk to for awhile but then you are alone again. I know you are not supposed to question Gods work but you have to wonder why does he take one and not both

. Steve was my partner and I dont know how to do this life thing without him.

Comment by dream moon JO B on August 27, 2014 at 3:23pm

me 2 connie  1s it say it nver lost any 1

it is danny eash grief is difrent on hear

sorry for oyre loss aw well deborah so sorry

Comment by Deborah Horn on August 27, 2014 at 8:40am

People mean well with those comments.  Nothing they say can really help and they know that.  However, I take comfort in the comments such as your loved one would want you to go on and be happy, because I have said this to myself many times. Sudden death grief, as is all grief, is a horribly lonely journey that each one has to travel on their own timeline.  Sudden death leaves things unsaid and worse yet, things said that you regret.  It is our own unique hell.  But I know in my heart that my Bill would want me to go on and be okay, so that is what I am trying to do.  But what comforts one will not comfort all, and I am so so sorry for everyone here for your loss.

 

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