No bother at all. It was good to know that I could be honest and be understood. Thanks for that. I wasn't expecting to be quite that upset, but I guess I was. Not your fault at all.
The whole notification thing is just one aspect of the whole accident situation that is, frankly, stupid. :-(. We were camping away from home, and neither the police nor the family knew exactly where we were. They had to collaborate in order to find us, I guess, which meant that we were the last to find out about the accident. I don't think it was intentional on anyone's part, but it is upsetting. I feel like we have been left behind while the rest of our family has gone on ahead, and it breaks my heart. Being notified last just makes it feel even more like that. I would give my life to bring them back. We would all do that for the people we love.
Hi Charles. Tbh, I am completely overwhelmed. :-(. I will be making a 5.5 hr trip on Wednesday to talk to the police about my husband and son's accident. My in-laws are getting information about the accident, but I am not. I feel sick. I don't have the same regrets you have, but I have my own. Neither my daughter nor I got a last hug or kiss that day from either of the guys, but I have had to listen to my mother-in-law talk about how thankful she is that she got a hug and a kiss from them. My older brother-in-law has said to me, "Well, you probably didn't need one (a hug or a kiss) anyway." For whatever reason, my husband refused to take me and my daughter along the day of the accident, so they died away from us. We were the last of my husband's family to be informed of their deaths. There are too many regrets to be listed. I feel horribly like I am betraying them by even mentioning any of this. :-(. I wish you all the best. I hope and pray for all of us that we find our way to peace.
Diana had you to reassure her when she needed that comfort. I would imagine you did the same for your mom. They were fortunate to have that. I hope that you will be able to talk here. Honestly, it is what has kept me alive over the last year. I talk with friends about anything and everything, just to keep a connection to life. Don't forget to look after yourself and what you need.
Charles, I am so sorry. I can't imagine facing that kind of situation with a love like that and having to make such a terrible decision. My husband and son were killed in a car accident a year ago, so I haven't gone through exactly what you are going through. I do know that had they not been killed instantly, i could have been faced with signing those papers myself for them. Had I been faced with that choice, I know they would have understood my anguish. Please forgive yourself. You are carrying such a terrible, heavy load. Allow yourself to put it down. Diana surely knows that she was the love of your life and that you did not want to have to ever make that choice. I am very sorry to hear about your mom as well. A double blow on such an awful date. Let us know how you are doing. We're here for you.
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The whole notification thing is just one aspect of the whole accident situation that is, frankly, stupid. :-(. We were camping away from home, and neither the police nor the family knew exactly where we were. They had to collaborate in order to find us, I guess, which meant that we were the last to find out about the accident. I don't think it was intentional on anyone's part, but it is upsetting. I feel like we have been left behind while the rest of our family has gone on ahead, and it breaks my heart. Being notified last just makes it feel even more like that. I would give my life to bring them back. We would all do that for the people we love.
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