I loved your winter poem. May I use it in my local Compassionate Friends newsletter? I am having such an awful time this year. Feel like I've gone backwards in my grief sometimes. So glad to have folks who understand.....
Oh gale you are so right. What a sad time it is with this first holiday without larry. I still fussed over him at every holiday. Easter was no different. Today i would be out buying things for his easter bag...his favorite candy, a nice new spring shirt and some gas and gricery money to put in his easter card. My greatest gift was being larrys mom, like you...i dont know what to do with it. What is my new role in this place, i am just existing, thats it. I sm going to read healing after loss...i need something, anything!
Thank you gale. Oh the pain is so great, i miss larry so much. I am sorry for your loss also. You are still breathing and living so perhaps there is still hope for me yet. April 1 is fast approaching, 2 months, seems like a lifetime ago at times. Every 1st day of the month will be torment and sundays....sunday is the day i got the call. Much love
This site and all these people united in loss and helping each other is helping me get through each day without her. I am so so sorry for your loss too and thank you for your words. It means a lot tome that someone over the other side of the world cares too.
May you receive the kindness and compassion you have showm me today in spade loads!!x Peta
I know it kills that everything I did wasn't enough. My daughter keeps reminding me that addiction is a real illness and it was just too much for Taylor to conquer. I too believe in heaven. I have to go on because I have two other children...I also read in one of the books I have been reading to think about what I will say to Taylor when I die about what I have been doing since he died. I know he wouldn't want to stop living or become bitter. He had such a heart and compassion for the underdog. I guess that is keeping me going, although I feel you, a walking shell of a person.
Gale, I am sorry for the loss of your dear son, Michael. Year one was pretty much spent in shock and disbelief...from there some of reality starts to begin...I am more in a state of deep depression right now...my body is less reactive but this is all so hard to take in...sending gentleness for the days ahead.
We should not have to through this. My son has been dead 2 years September 30, 1912. He is a Son, Father, & Brother. He was 20 years old when he was shot.
I noticed that you said, "Any books, advise, etc., would be greatly appreciated." I have some suggestions... Please contact me? I sent a friend request and look forward to talking to you.
Gayle, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm two months in. I lost my only child. It still seems so surreal. I know; we all know what each of us are feeling. Going through. I'm thankful for this site. It helps to know we're not alone in this. I send you love and hugs.
Thank you Gale. I think the only people who understand this pain are those of us who are going through it. It is nothing like when I lost a brother, grandparents and parents. This does not even come close. I have no words of wisdom or anything I can say. Except I am here reaching out, reading, and will be trying to help others as I can. Huggles
hi gale, im so very sorry for your loss, I to lost my only child my son shawn 7 months ago , it was his heart, I was with him when it happened, I feel so empty, lost and unbelieveable pain. its good to talk about it with people that know what you are feeling. I cry all day everyday, I miss him so bad, and feel so very empty. please take care kim
I am so sorry you lost your beloved son. You must be in shock and disbelieve. I too lost my 26 year old child. Kyra was 26 and killed in a freak car accident. She died last August in Montana. Her father and I had just spent the week visiting her and were going to see her sister who lived five hours away. Kyra was an hour behind us driving her own car. For the first three months I just wanted to die and be with her. I thought life would never be worth living again. You are right, the pain and devastation take over your physical and emotional self. You will get through the deep ache, survive and in time will be able to feel happiness. I still cry everyday and miss her physical presence, but the pain does ease. Parents on this site are a great support and help each other when we are down. I am here if you need to talk. Sending you hugs.
Lynn
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Hi Gale
I loved your winter poem. May I use it in my local Compassionate Friends newsletter? I am having such an awful time this year. Feel like I've gone backwards in my grief sometimes. So glad to have folks who understand.....
Thank you Gale,
This site and all these people united in loss and helping each other is helping me get through each day without her. I am so so sorry for your loss too and thank you for your words. It means a lot tome that someone over the other side of the world cares too.
May you receive the kindness and compassion you have showm me today in spade loads!!x Peta
Hi Gale,
I know it kills that everything I did wasn't enough. My daughter keeps reminding me that addiction is a real illness and it was just too much for Taylor to conquer. I too believe in heaven. I have to go on because I have two other children...I also read in one of the books I have been reading to think about what I will say to Taylor when I die about what I have been doing since he died. I know he wouldn't want to stop living or become bitter. He had such a heart and compassion for the underdog. I guess that is keeping me going, although I feel you, a walking shell of a person.
Hi Gale,
I made it through trying to drink myself stupid. I don't even drink and I just wanted to punish myself because he was no longer here on earth.
When he turned 18, I said to myself, "I made it".
Two years later, my 20 year old son dead. I want to destroy myself. Just being honest!
Gale, I am sorry for the loss of your dear son, Michael. Year one was pretty much spent in shock and disbelief...from there some of reality starts to begin...I am more in a state of deep depression right now...my body is less reactive but this is all so hard to take in...sending gentleness for the days ahead.
Gale,
We should not have to through this. My son has been dead 2 years September 30, 1912. He is a Son, Father, & Brother. He was 20 years old when he was shot.
Dear Gale,
I noticed that you said, "Any books, advise, etc., would be greatly appreciated." I have some suggestions... Please contact me? I sent a friend request and look forward to talking to you.
Brenda
Thank you Gale for your kind comments...
Thank you Gale. I think the only people who understand this pain are those of us who are going through it. It is nothing like when I lost a brother, grandparents and parents. This does not even come close. I have no words of wisdom or anything I can say. Except I am here reaching out, reading, and will be trying to help others as I can. Huggles
Hello Gale,
I am so sorry for the loss of your son, Michael. I understand the devastation that happens and it is a very hard journey.
I have a lot of material that I collected posted on another grief site...here is the link:
http://forums.grieving.com/index.php/topic/4873-grief-healing-my-journey/
I find that I just take what I need and leave the rest...we all grieve differently but we all walk the same path...
Laurie
hi gale, im so very sorry for your loss, I to lost my only child my son shawn 7 months ago , it was his heart, I was with him when it happened, I feel so empty, lost and unbelieveable pain. its good to talk about it with people that know what you are feeling. I cry all day everyday, I miss him so bad, and feel so very empty. please take care kim
Lynn
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