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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by dream moon JO B on May 30, 2014 at 4:24pm

im so sorry for yore loses zelda/ wander or any 1 esl its joind ths web site i am

Comment by Wander on May 29, 2014 at 5:18pm

My soulmate, my heart, my everything, left me and our three kids seven weeks ago precisely-- just three days after his 40th birthday. To say that I'm devastated is the understatement of the millennium. I'm only still here because I have to take care of my children-- I would have followed him the same day, if I'd been allowed. Instead I'm left to wander hopelessly through this existence until I'm lucky enough to die-- my life ended 7 weeks ago. I wasn't ready for my life to be over at 39, but that's what I was given... and I HATE IT. I don't want to do this. I can't. I just want to follow my husband. 

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on April 28, 2014 at 10:04am

Natalie,

That sure is a lot to deal with.  My heart feels for you and your family.  Do the best you can and don't forget to take care of yourself.  My thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on April 28, 2014 at 10:03am

Jacqueline,

I am so sorry for your loss.  That is a horrible situation to deal with.  I hope you all get answers and justice.  Sending my thoughts and prayers to your family.

Comment by Natalia on April 27, 2014 at 8:46pm

2013 was a horrible year for me and my family.  In March, I lost one of my brothers. Then in October, we lost a nephew (34 years young) to a sudden illness.  I have lost my parents and 2 other brothers.  It does not get easier.  My nephew was like a son to me.  I still can't believe that he is gone. His death has been the hardest to accept.  He was young and full of life...He leaves a wife and two young children..

Comment by Connie K on April 27, 2014 at 6:01pm

Lorna

You are carrying such a heavy load. I am so sorry for the horrific tragedy you have had to endure. I lost my only son in a violent car crash 16 months ago and it feels like yesterday.  I wish I had done so many things, anything, that could have changed that moment in time. I pray for you to have the strength to carry on in your new house. And to allow yourself the time to cry or scream or whatever you have to when you need to. I think it's okay for kids to see you cry - it just may give them the opportunity to cry also. I am sure everyone in your family is hurting and expresses it in different ways. You have a right to feel however you feel. I know how hard it is just to get myself to travel and I can only imagine how hard it is to be responsible for getting everyone else together  and holding it all together through it all. I know the feeling of just wanting to run away because it is all so overwhelming.

Sending everyone love and prayers tonight

Comment by dream moon JO B on April 27, 2014 at 3:25pm

im so sorry jacqulin she lket lk a anglel i dont no hw any 1 can hrt kids 

Comment by Jacqueline Mckamey on April 27, 2014 at 1:43am

http://globalnews.ca/news/1045270/family-of-deceased-abbotsford-bab...

 This Is My Precious Angel. Please Watch The News Story About What Is Happening with her death..  ITs the Most traumatic , Horrible, Unimaginable thing that could happen to anyone, and it is my worst nightmare come true.

Comment by Brenda Ann on April 21, 2014 at 10:33am

Lorna,

     I know what you mean about everyone thinking you are so strong all the time, it is exhausting. I call it being the "Rock of Gibraltar". Everyone thinks I can handle it all, BUT I CAN'T!  Who is our comforter? We need help to carry the load.

     Even with helpful friends and family around us, we still find it difficult to cope with daily challenges. What we have to contend with may at times leaves us feeling lost, as if we were in a long tunnel of problems. That is especially a time for us to turn to God, asking for his holy spirit. “When I am weak,” wrote the apostle Paul, “then I am powerful.” (Read 2 Corinthians 4:7-10; 12:10.) Paul knew that God’s spirit can make up for human weaknesses, regardless of their nature. Thus, God’s active force can strengthen us whenever we feel weak and in need of help. Paul wrote that he could “take pleasure in weaknesses.” It was when he was weak that he felt holy spirit operating on him. I  know that I have experienced the same feeling!—Rom. 15:13.

     (Philippians 4:13) "For all things I have the strength by virtue of him who imparts power to me."

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on April 21, 2014 at 7:14am

Lorna,  I am so sorry for your losses.  I can only imagine what you feel and go thru on a daily basis.  And the added challenge of rebuilding a home on the same sight where your daughters lost their lives. 

I do understand always being the strong one and doing the right things.  And yes it is overwhelming at times. 

It is ok to just sit and cry/grieve.  That is what we need some times.  It is also good to share with our loved ones just how we are feeling.  Like letting your husband know that you need help and how you look and think about things like the "just an ember".  And that you are struggling with always putting on a brave face.  You need to take care of yourself so you can take care of others. 

Sending positive thoughts and blessings your way.

 

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