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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Sheila B. on August 9, 2013 at 2:39am

Becky, 

I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength on your son's birthday today. 

Comment by Becky Lock Smith on August 8, 2013 at 4:22pm

 On September 25th, 2013 It will be one year ago our beloved son Adam at age 32 commited suicide. He left behind a family that loved him and an estranged wife and small child. The first two months after he died I couldn't get out of bed. I wanted to die myself. I had lost my mother when I was a teenager and it took me years and years to deal with the pain of losing her mental illness and suicide. She too was 32. The searing pain of losing a child who struggled with bipolar disorder is almost unbearable at times. I am bipolar and I feel repsonsible for his death, I have times when I aske myself over and over if I could of done something to change what happened to him.  He simply could not bear the pain of living with a mental illness, his wife rejected him, which completely broke his heart. I have come to the conclusion that the pain of his loss will never leave me. We still have his ashes. His 33 birthday would of been August 9th 2013. 

Comment by Michelle H on August 8, 2013 at 8:43am

Carol, that was so beautifully expressed.

Comment by Connie K on August 6, 2013 at 10:16pm

I still can't believe how quickly ours lives changed. It was 8 months this week and I feel more panicky as I move farther away from the time when my sweet boy was here with me. I just don't know how to cope. I feel like I'm going to burst with sadness all the time. Just having a really rough day...

Comment by Amy Reed on August 6, 2013 at 9:51pm

I lost my Husband 16 Months ago. We would have been together 10 years. Since I was 15. I am now 26 with our 2 year old daughter. 

Comment by l on August 4, 2013 at 4:49am
Thank you Michelle hudson, Jo b and Connie for your comments. It helps
Comment by l on August 4, 2013 at 4:47am
Thank you for all your comments. I am here after a gap of two weeks. My nephews were visiting my parents house and i also was there.They were very close to my father who we lost in may. We tried to do all the fun things they did with their beloved grand father. My older nephew is 15 and he did not say much but joined in all the activities and said nothing about his grandpa. My younger nephew is10 and he expresses that nobody can hug like grandpa, nobody can comfort him like grandpa when he had a small bruise on his knee. He makes sure all the doors are locked before he goes to bed. He asked me where is grandpa's grave. I explained that he was cremated. He said we should have kept his body till he visited us now in July. I told him we want him to remember grandpas happy, healthy and smiling. He said he saw grandpa when he was playing and he wanted to touch him to see if he was real. I told him he saw grandpa because he loves grandpa and grandpa loves him. Then he said grandpa will come back in 7 years. I told him he will always be with us. I hope I am telling him all the right things. Please advice. His mom my sister in law just tells him life has to go on but the child is grieving. We all hug him a lot.
Comment by bobbie on July 27, 2013 at 12:29pm
I just found this forum.i lost my sister in oct of last year.She had a heart attack.I talked to her on the phone one night.And 3 hours later my nephew called and told me she had a heart attack. i am lost without her.She was my support in dealing with my husband cancer.Now my only support is my dog
Comment by Connie K on July 26, 2013 at 11:26am

Good morning everyone. O  my way to tend my son's memorial garden at his school. I will send prayers up for all of you and your children. I always try to imagine a large beautiful angel standing up on the mountain above our house and garden , watching over, smiling. It is good to work the earth, to get out of myself and connect with all that is spirit. How I miss my Daniel. This has been an especially hard week. I also wanted to send hugs to Deborah Nancy Evans Galloway, someone who left a comment but I cannot find the comment to respond to her.

Love and peace to you all today.

Comment by Rachael Nella on July 25, 2013 at 9:45pm

My parents are gone. I am my own parent now and im only 22. What now?

 

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