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Just got back from placing lilac cuttings on Mom's grave...my heart still breaks every time I go up there... I hate leaving her there, though I know it isn't her, that she is in a better place...just wish she was here...ya know?
Hello Everyone,
It is Mother's Day and the first one without my Mother. She was the most wonderful woman that ever lived. I can't think of anyone who meet her that did not like her. She always accepted anyone of our friends we brought around the house. Most of the time they came to think of her as Mother too.
My husband never had a Mother figure in his life who cared about him, until my Mother. She was the first Mother figure who said "I love you" to him. Her death was much harder on him than I ever thought it would be, but it should not have surprised me.
Now I am going through a crisis and it is so hard not having her here. I lost my job May 1st as part of a workforce reduction. Even when she was not as mentally sharp as normal, she still could go into "Mom Mode" and give you advice. I think that was what upset me more than actually loosing my job, having to go through this without her love and advice.
Now with Mother's Day here, there is not going to be any cards, presents, hugs, special dinners or food. Just a few fresh flowers on her grave, like we used to buy her when she was alive. (She loved fresh flowers and my husband and I would pick out a bouquet or 2 and take to her to look at every payday.)
Happy Mother's Day Mama. I really miss you.
first mother's day for me as well, without Mom. it's been ok up til today.
God Bless
I'm trying to figure out to get through tomorrow, my first mothers day without my mom.
Maddy, I can't speak for you, but I don't think there would be anything wrong or that you would be selfish if you just had a quiet day with your husband on Mothers Day and I really don't think anyone else would be upset if you did not participate in festivities. I did not celebrate mothers day last year since it had only been 2 months since my mother passed away. I basically stayed in bed all day, my husband and children understood. You do what feels right to YOU!
A friend of a friend wrote this to her about grief she was going through and everyone kept acting like she should be "over" her grieving and I really liked it and decided to share here.
"There is no prescribed time to grieve, only until the wound no longer has more pain than life has joy."
I have not yet decided what I'll do on Sunday...it's going to be pretty miserable. Maybe I'll wander around a flea market or something equally distracting from the "holiday".
I couldn't agree more Natalie...Wishing you all strength to get thru Sunday. It's going to be a very hard day for all of us. Stay strong~
May God help us all, especially this weekend.
As much a I would like to hide this weekend I am not sure I can. My husband would like to celebrate Mother's Day with me as I will be a mother for the first time very soon and on top of that, I still have a mother-in-law who we would normally have a family dinner with later Sunday night after Sunday brunch with my side of the family. My husband has said we don't have to go to his mom's this year because he thinks it will be too hard for me to hear everyone wishing each other "Happy Mother's Day" but I don't know. At my in-laws Easter I broke down and I am worried I will ruin Mother's Day for my mother-in-law, sister-in-law and niece. I don't know what to do. Some part of me wants to hide and pretend like the day doesn't exist, but then I think that my mother would tell me to be strong and think of other people - but my mother was a very selfless person. I have to figure it out soon....
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