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The world wants us to move on, but our child is a part of us forever. We had hopes and dreams and they were lost. We learn to live with the pain but there is still pain.
Even if I have living children, my heart still aches. I want to feel comfortable with my pain instead of having to act like it's not there.
I have two beautiful daughters, but today I still feel like a mother with empty arms. No other hugs can replace my son's.
I'm sorry but there is no "HAPPY" Mother's Day for me.
I hope you all are doing better than I.
It takes time and grief work and a commitment to find a new life for yourself.
Be patient with yourself. Remember, you did not love for a few weeks, so do not expect to resolve your grief after a few weeks either.
Remember, love never goes away. It remains in your heart forever, and every day you can renew that love.
And, someday, memories of your child will bring you warmth and joy again.
Sending special hugs to you Connie. This will be my 3rd Mother's day. I found that as time goes by it gets harder. Mainly I think the reason is due to the realization that our child is not here with us anymore. My grief is different from what it was 2 years ago. But it's still grief. My heart will be forever broken. So strange this week, I feel like my son's spirit is with me more this week.... kind of like just letting me know that his spirit is still around. Missing him so much today.
Last weekend my niece got married and I was happy to be able to attend. I was doing okay until the Mother/Son dance and the grief poured in like it had happened that day. It's been5 months and it's just harder. I sometimes think he will be home and with each day that goes by, it is clearer that I will never see him again or hear his voice call my name or laugh. I read another mom say that is like giving birth in reverse - it has a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual affect on us -
in reverse. But what hit home was that she said that when she was pregnant she would say she was eating for 2 and now that her child is gome she has to live life for 2. I strive to find the spiritual courage to somehow embrace my life again but am struggling. He was my only child and it has changed who I am. I am wondering how to get through this Sunday, my first Mother's Day without my sweet boy. I think we have to all remember that we are STILL their parent and celebrate that we had them in out lives for the time we did. Easier said than done however... sometimes I feel like I am just going to die from the grief. Thanks everyone for being here and sharing your journey. Thank God we at least have each other to lean on. I am sorry for the pain you are all going through.
Celena, the thing you wrote earlier about remembering and forgeting... that stuck in my head yesterday..... I almost wrote but did not until now... I read and respond in my head more than I write sometimes..... sorry... because I know how important it is to know someone has read your thoughts here....
FORGET/ REMEMBER.... I think we all worry that we are going to forget special moments or our child as time goes by.... or that if we hurt or grieve less or feel better that we will forget them. We fight to hold each memory because that is all we have left.... memories.
My son died May 2009. It has gotten softer the pain...but I still miss him.... My first husband died in 1983. I still remember him but the pain is much less. My life became a new book.... not just a new chapter. Each experience has become a part of us... that creates who we are today. Sounds like wisdom that I am writing.....
BUT I still grab on to those Memories... Cherish them and worry that I may forget things.... My son was a challenge with his Autism... so I may even make more of my memories the pleasent ones..less of the stressful ones.
I still do not look forward to Mother's Day.... but I will put on my Happy Face for my other 2 adult kids.....
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