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Comment by michael sandoval on October 24, 2012 at 5:52pm

Dr Simin,

My condolences,

Your Dad his way of dealing.  My dad also.  I am very emotional when I think about Mom.  My dad is a man of few word, not a talker.  So I don't turn to him and talk to him about Mom.  But I have caught him crying, so i know he is dealing with it in his way.

much Love,

Mike

Comment by Dr S Gh on October 24, 2012 at 5:41pm

Hi everyone. I still find it too hard to think about mum at all. If i think of her i start getting a panicky feeling and wail and sobb like hell. Tonight i had a very good cry when i went into the living room (where my mum had her fatal heart attack and died). My dad came with me as i have been freaking out going there on my own. It was sooo sad. My dad is not very supportive, all i wanted was for him to come and hug me as i was sobbing, but i guess he finds it too painful. Everytime i cry or want to talk about mum's death he walks away. He's probably feeling too raw to handle it. thanx for bieng here all you lovely epople, it's such comfort to read the comments and i feel so sad and empathic with all of you. Love and hugs to you all x

Comment by michael sandoval on October 24, 2012 at 11:51am

Dear James and everyone,

Our Moms are always with us.  I'm loving my mom more and more as I miss her more and more everyday.

Comment by James D on October 24, 2012 at 1:25am

Brad, I completely agree. Staying busy really helps keep the pain away, albeit temporarily. You want to feel the pain...it helps it go away sooner. 

My first speaking gig was tonight, and I did really well. On the way home, I knew mom would be proud of me, so I started tearing up on the road (NEVER a good idea...) but then I felt something...like a hand on my shoulder, but not really. It kept me from crying. I think my mom was present in the car with me...happy, and comforting me at the same time. It made me smile, whatever it did. Look around the world sometime...perhaps your moms are trying to tell you something. :) 

Comment by Judy on October 24, 2012 at 12:27am

I've been gone a while, too, Brad. I went up to be with my father for a few days so we could be together on Oct. 19th, my mother's birthday. He didn't want to do anything special; I think he can't bear to bring her into his consciousness if he doesn't have to. The pain is too great. Anyway, I do understand about your home being the place where all of your friends went. My mother made our house "the party house," where both my parents' friends and my friends would always gather.

I have been bawling a lot lately. There are so many different ways that I miss my mother. Sounds like most of us are having trouble, and so many of us are only children. I am so grateful for this board -- even though I am very confused by it! When first I came here, it was a message board; now I'm not sure what it is. If you go back just one page, you are taken to an entirely different year. ???  I can't ever keep up.

Comment by michael sandoval on October 23, 2012 at 7:01pm

Dear Brad,

My condolences,  You mom and my mom had a lot in common, a big big heart.

Comment by Brad Busby on October 23, 2012 at 6:40pm

I have been away from the site of late, have been catching up today reading all of your posts, my heart goes out to each of you, I lost my mom on August 30 2012, i feel so alone and empty inside, nights are the worst and being alone does not help, have no family anywhere close, i do have a few great friends who help the best they can, but they have lives and families so i do not get to visit with them as often as i would like. i just watched the funeral dvd provided to me by the funeral home, and of all the people there 3 of my oldest and dearest friends got up to speak about and remember my mom, some of these friends go back to childhood and others back to my college days, they spoke of my mom as being like a second mother to them, our house was the one all the kids gathered at because my mom would give them things she baked (her hobby) she would throw birthday parties for any of the kids even if they already had one at home.

One of my college friends called my mom her college mom, she was here at college a long way from her home and my mom like she always did took her in as her own.

Like most of you i am not really looking forward to this time of year, with all the holidays coming up and my birthday in December, i have no clue what i will do as yet.

I wish all of you the very best, try to stay busy, i find that helps more than anything.

Comment by Kisha on October 23, 2012 at 1:05pm

Thanks Brette! I will try and friend you. Im still getting use to this site.

Comment by Brette Stinson on October 21, 2012 at 7:23pm

Kisha,

My deepest condolences to you and your family. From looking at your picture I see that you are pretty young, like myself I am probably the same age as you. I lost my mom March 17, 2012, which is also sainnt patricks day. Unlike you I was at my mothers side when she took her last breath. So I dont know which one is worse to be there and watch it happen or to not be there. I myself am an only child and she was the best mother and friend that I ever had. This feeling I wish on no one, cause like I talked to my mother everyday unless we upset with one another and we were too sturborn to call the other one. Which was rare. But I saw you on here and I thought I would reply and tell you that I am here if you need to talk.

 

 

 

 

 

kisha

Comment by Kisha on October 21, 2012 at 2:44pm

Thank you Michael, Simin, and Mary for your words. I have read your previous posts and i thank you for sharing your pain as well. I am finding great comfort on this site.

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