"Brett how awful!
Well I am not impressed with the group our church had, but what I did get from it was the idea to volunteer for one hour of my time at Adoration with the Blessed Sacrement.
Can I just tell you after I leave Adoration each Friday…"
"Sue I went to a grief support group at my church do you know what one guy said to me and he was a surgeon when I was telling my moms story he said well what did you want she was 92 how about that I never went back
He acted like I…"
"Brett I agree with you 100% the same exact thing occurred with me my friends my family for goodness sake half of my mothers family never even acknowledged her passing
I feel a special connection with you something has brought us to…"
"Sue My mom was the same way I never realized how many peoples lives she touched until she was gone all the way down to the guy at the 7-Eleven the guy at the Acme everywhere in her hometown she was kind compassionate caring she always calmed…"
"Yes Brett I suffer with anxiety, I worry constantly.
I think my dr is tired of hearing me, he prescribed some SSRI, but I am afraid to take it, go figure.
You brought tears to my eyes, I miss my mom and love her so much, sometimes I just shut my…"
" I am just sitting here reading what everyone has written and it’s just peaceful to know that we all feel the same
I only could wish that I could have a dream of my mom I have no dreams
Avi hope your daughters birthday…"
"So true Brett and Sue, people have no idea what we have went through until it happens to them.
Brett, I have become bitter, I have so much anger inside, and no tolerance for people at all.
Sometimes I think about quitting my job and looking for…"
"If it’s hot maybe just sit outside on your deck/patio with Her after she has done her business. I live in an apartment and I sit outside with Darby each morning. When I read what you and Sue have written I think I’m 10 times worse…"
"That is so hard to hear especially when you are leaving.
Is this a recent thing?
How old is she again?
It seems as though it’s always something new every day
I am agonizing over watching my boy get old. Before I always had my mom there for…"
"Sue I know exactly how you feel I still cry three years later it just hits me so hard some days I just try to keep going 1 foot in front of the other I’m getting ready to leave for church letting you know I’m thinking about you and…"
"Me too Brett, I sit here an look at my 12 year old Labrador and I know he is on borrowed time, and my heart breaks, losing him will be something that I am not looking forward to.
As you said Brett, we have the live our lives until we are called…"
Very sudden, Thursday mom said she felt constipated, Friday same to the dr, xray no obstruction, Saturday called dr he told her go to hospital, she called me I told her I would meet her there this was at 8:45am, as I was pulling in the hospital parking lot I got a call from them stating "your mother is in FULL CARDIAC ARREST" do you want us to do CPR.......that was it, I did not get there to say goodbye, I love you, nothing. We were very close I went there every Sunday, we talked at least ten times a day and every night before bed. There are no words to describe how I feel.....
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I am so sorry to hear you lost your mom but my heart breaks for you being unable to talk to her and say some final words. One thing I know for sure she loved you and felt your love for her. My mom and I have this kind of relationship. My husband and I are living in Ecuador as volunteer missionaries. The phone or faceTime is our constant friend. She always tells me how proud she is that we are serving and teaching the Bible to people who want to know the Bible.
I am glad to see you found this website and have made comments. Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2,18, 19;10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth:“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.” (quote from When Someone You Love Dies under the subtitle How Can I Live With My Grief? )
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I am truly sorry for your sudden and devastating loss. My mother and I were so very close as well..I feel; a lot for you...I too find this missing part-the biggest part of me, an unarticulatable force....
Theresa, I know how you feel about being sick or hurt the first time without your mother to call. I fell down on the sidewalk on the way into the hospital for routine check ups and ended up in ER for X Rays. My mother was the first person I thought to call. It really hurts. For me I am coming up on 5 years and can say for me I still feel a huge void in my life. Feeling sad.
Theresa, I hope things get better for you. Don't blame yourself for not seeing that something was wrong. I'm sure you would've done everything in your power to help your mom had you known. The love between you and your mom will last forever and that love will carry you through. I cry everyday too. I hate the anxiety and the loneliness and that my life has been turned upside down but I have to get through it somehow.
"Hello to all of you who are here for the same unimaginable reason as I am. I found this website last night after another night of going to bed where instead of sleep, pain sets in that I was able to escape from all day by being busy. Jess's…"
"Joe, I have seven tattoos one for each year Julian has been gone. It is my way of honoring him People make fun of me saying I am too old (71) to have them. Glad to hear I am not the only one still honoring their spouse after death."
"Wow..you suicide yourself there us no place for you in heaven. You will find yourself again and life will go on without your dearly departed. Learn to love yourself find what you like to do there has to something. Think of it like this he…"
"It is a tradgedy to lose a loved one. But it does get better. Not everyday will be the same some days burn to the core more than others. Find a hobby or volunteer or help someone basically find something to do to ease the monotony of the day. In…"
"Thank you Linda. It's beautiful for you to had done that. I have tattoo of our names in a heart. I wear two sets of our wedding bands on both pinkys and ring fingers. We're still married and always will be forever.…"
"Yes I still miss her terribly. I am still sad and angry. I was left with two boys ages 12 and 8 at that time. What kept me going was making sure they were provided for and raised well. I still have full on bawls when the…"
I am curious because I am within a week of being a widow of seven years how you are doing it allotter eight years? Today, and more often lately (lets say for about the past six months) I have become more angry and more hateful of having…"