Hello....just wanted to check in on you. I apologize for not responding to your friend request sooner. I hardly ever access this site from my computer, just from my phone. I couldn't figure out why I couldn't "chat". Apparently, I can't from my phone just from the computer. I hope to hear from you.
I hope that this picture and the message give you comfort. Grief is a journey and each person travels the road differently. You make very valid points about breakups and how people seem to understand the long term agony they can cause but come so short in their understanding of the compelling grief experienced when we loose someone in death. The reality is that even though they have no understanding of what you are experiencing, there will be the day that they will come to "know" what you are going through. They will loose someone so close that they will remember every time they have told someone to "get over it". That will be when everything you have learned can lead you to empathize with them and help them through - even forgive...
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my mom to cancer in December and understand your pain. I agree that it feels like it gets harder before it gets easier. I am in the Bay Area; was your mother enrolled in hospice? I was able to find free support in SF through Sutter Care and Home hospice. Pathways Hospice also offers free counseling and support groups to the community (regardless of whether your family had used their hospice services). Feel free to message me anytime. Sending you hugs.
"I am very sorry for you, too, Eva....and I appreciate so much your reply. It is the first I have gotten so far, though I admit I’ve been too upset lately to check on this. My mother and I had always been so close, I really feel…"
When I was twelve my mother was murdered then my beloved sweet grandmother died when I was 18. My maternal grandfather died when I was 22. My maternal grandmother died when I was 33 and my final living parent/grandparent died when I was 35. I lived with a lot of loss most of it came at a sudden clip. I'm left with incredible feeling of loneliness even though I've been married for 20+ years and have two wonderful children. It's tough to share my true feelings with my wife because it's so hard…See More
When I was twelve years old, my mother was brutally murdered during a robbery of our home. I came within minutes of finding her body but by sheer chance I didn't. It has been over 35 years since that day but it still effects my life today. As a child, I went through the trial of the man convicted of killing my beautiful mother then as a man I went through his parole process finally his death from illness in prison. See More