Friends are important thank you.

Only the Lord can make things easier. I have learned that we all our his children and when he is ready to take us home it is in his time and not ours. In my worst pain I am reminded that my husband was a proud Catholic man who taught youth ministry. He was living his life the way God intended him too, so he could spend all eternity in paradise. :) I only hope that I can live a good honest life, and keep reminding myself of the fond memories I have of my husband. When I look at his picture I can cry or I can be thankful to have had such a wonderful person to spend my life with. Of course, I welcome the tears as much as the smiles. I guess that is part of my grief.

i am new to all this but a friend I could use to make things short my father passed away 3 months ago my husband passed away one month ago today and my mother passed away last nite the holidays are coming and i really aint sure how to deal with and try to move forward thanks for listening any advice

Diana,
Thank you so much. I will be writing to you soon.
Best,
Jenny

Hi Diana,

I just got on the site and wasn't real sure how it worked. I am trying to understand your loss because it is something that I have never experienced before and it must be terrible.

I will keep checking this out. By the way, I love your photos. Just things you chose or did you take any of these? Very unique!


Rosemary

Thank You so much Diana.I am so very sorry for your loss as well.
Email me anytime as well
Hugs
Kathy

I was wondering how do you make sense of everything? I said before that I know my mom is in a better place, but I wonder if I am just trying to convince myself of this in order to not feel guilt or blame. I am aware of the stages of grief and really it is almost like I am going on like always. This could be too because my father is such need right now that i have not had time for myself. I don't know. I saw an old friend today and she gave me her condolences, I told her is was ok, i was alright and this is how life is to be. I tend to see things in a very logical sense. I was told that function like dresser drawers. I open one drawer, close it before opening another. I don't know. Time is passing too fast and my mind seems all jumbled.
I empathize with your grandmother. Dimentia would be very tough for anyone to handle especially the ones we love. You should be proud of yourself for giving up your "life" right now for her. I am sure you will be grateful that you did when she passes. No one can care for our loved ones like ourselves.

Thank you. It is difficult. I know that my mom is in a better place. I really do believe that. However, selfishly I wont her here. Death is inevitable, which we all know, but it is so hard to express the feeling that I have (or actually maybe have lost). My father is very ill and unable to be alone for a long period of time. I am in the midst of trying to find caregiveres for him. He feels guilty and is deep denial. I live 3 hours away and I do have to return to my home. Even with all the wonderful support i have, I feel very alone and lonely. I have heard people say how hard death is to those still living, but wow, I don't think one can ever explain it. Just how can one really explain love?

Thank you Diana