I just finished reading your blog post about your mother. Your story is a moving one and it truly has touched my heart. I would love to talk to you more about it.
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Hi Rachel , It was a pleasure chatting with you this evening, I am sad for your loss and I hope you feel peace while singing and remembering your mom this weekend. Take good care of yourself . peace xo Niecy
Please don,t break... There is help and comfort... There are people that care like all of us. The greatest help though is from God. Throw your burden on him, he promises to help. Isaiah 41:10 & 13.
I care too! If you email me at firstname.lastname@example.org I will give you my phone number. I will keep you in my prayers.
Hey Rachel, I hope things are still working out well for you with the new guy. Life has its own way of going on no matter how hard our situations are. I know you are so happy and that in itself makes me happy and hopeful that one day, I'll be able to smile with abandon and look foward to the little things life has to offer. God Bless.
Hi Rachel; these are the times I wish I had your number. Is there any way we can talk? I'm so worried about you. I've had some rough days and been sickly but with my little one, I push myself. I'm now out oftown visiting a friend and trying to take it easy.
Hi Rachel; I'm so glad to see you posting again. I understand how hard it can be at times since I too get depressed reading other peoples experience with grief. I was just very concerned about you cause of your previous hosptilizations. Its good to know that you've been able to visit your moms grave lately. I've not been able to do that. I just want to believe that mom isn't there. So many times I wish she was cremated, its so hard to know her remains are in the ground, it just doesn't feel right. Maybe one day I'll have the courage to visit her grave. My yahoo id is kanyoni16; hopefully we can chat sometime.
Thanks for your response Rachel, it was kind of you to take the time to reach out. So nice to hear from someone who understands that one's Mom's clothes aren't "just clothes". When I told my husband that I had given away most of Mom's clothes, he said "oh, that's good." I think he was happy to have one less thing cluttering up the closet!
Rachel; I've not seen you here for a while and I'm starting to worry about you. Please post something so we may know you are ok. I've had a very tough time the last two weeks; my grief is so deep sometimes that I long for death but I know my time is not now and I'll try my best to hold on for now. Please my friend, let me know how you are.
Thank you for embracing me into this community of such loving and caring human beings. I am so greatful to have found this website. That cancer...that damn cancer. I told God the other night that if he needed a soul to take..mine was his. If a mother is sick and her children need her..take me instead. If a father is sick and his children and wife need him..take me. I know this sounds like drama, but I really would give up my life in order to spare someone else of the pain of loss. I have no children and really no close family. I am completely alone. With the exception of my wonderful Golden Retriever Rudy and my 3 kitties Gerda, Will and Petrone. They cover my body at night like a blanket. They feel my pain. Make it through today...she what tomorrow brings.
My mothers name was Nancy. Like you and your mom she and i were the best of friends. Shopping buddies, dinners together, movies, hanging out all of the time. My sisters are not talking to me - lots of drama. I feel completely alone. My dad left us when we were kids. Mom raised us alone. I am so glad to find this site. Sue
Hi Rachel. How long since your mom died did you start to feel any sense of well being? I just feel like my heart is in a million little pieces and my life is so empty. Its just an overwhelming feeling of loss and sadness. I don't know when the sun will ever shine in my soul. Its just so hard. Take care
Hi Rachel; thanks for your message. Weekends are a little crazy for me cuz I'm busy running around and not much time on the computer. You can add me to your yahoo messenger; it email@example.com. I look foward to chatting with you. You are a great inspiration to me, I feel like I've known you a long time. Be Blessed dear.
Just read your email. I'm 55 and lost my mom 3 years ago to he final insult, Alzheimer's. I lost my purpose and meaning in life that day and it has not returned. I miss her so much that it is literally unbearable. I struggle to put one foot in front of the other each day. I have no children so really feel along in the world.
You said you cuddle her teddy, this is really similar to wt i do. except i hold on to a gift she gave to me not long before she fell ill. I no it sounds silly but i hold on to a swimming costume which she bought me and feel so close to her and so special as she chose that for me. She gave me her necklace, she took it off and put it on me. It has an angel on it. it is silver. I had complimented her and said it looked lovely then she said you can have it I want you to have it. Abit like a plastic table cloth i said i liked on her table. She straight away said i could have it. It is now on my table. These things really help cos they were from just her to me.
I know i cant keep feeling angry at my dad and also at myself, but the things he said before she even got ill, like jokes about my mums funeral and a few weeks before she got really ill seemed like, all of a sudden, as she seemed fine a few weeks before. My mum and i were chatting on her sofa, and he walked past, smiled and said, hmm Im making your mums last days as comfortable as possible. Why would he say that, then a few weeks later she can hardly walk, couldnt talk i couldnt believe the difference in such a short time. He was doing her home dialysis. She had a stroke, why didnt he rush her to hospital. Can you see why i keep thinking he was partly or even completely to blame. Although i am confused cos he has cried buckets and has said he has felt he wished he had gone with her. i dont understand. But i do know my mum loved him so much and made excuses for his putn her down, although he was alot nicer to her than years before when we were kids.
"Strike those vacations below, they'll never be another one. Went on a memorial cruise with my daughter and family four months after she passed because she was so looking forward to it. It hurt enough to know they'll be no more."
"Yes Elynn, the loneliness. That's painful. They're not here and always was. Our best friend, lover, and most precious thing we had. We were lucky enough to spend the last 8 1/2 years together, joined at the…"
"Every day for me is the same day she passed. Not a joyful or even an ok moment. I spend a little time with the children and grands and do my best to hide my emotions, but they all know how I am inside, even the youngest grand at age 4…"
"Avi, I don't know if we can rethink our emotions that way. Our emotions are what they are, although reason can help us form our emotions and hopefully change them for the better. I don't know if my mom can hear me or not. I certainly…"
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I had bad last 2 days. Felt lot of guilt and cried. There were some moments which made me remember my mother.
Also I hear comforting words by a lady that people who have gone from this world can still feel your…"
"I wonder how i am managing. Not well and to be onest today I wanted to just set a date with death. I am approaching seven years of being without him and though I function towards the outside world better and my crying has lessened but at the…"
If you have lost a loved one to alcohol, substance abuse or suicide please share your story or feelings here. Share the love and beauty of the one you lost. Losing someone any of these ways is not natural and can be hard to understand and ask why? I lost my Mother to an overdose 9 years ago. She also suffered from major depression. Her doctor got her hooked on pain medication and she was addicted most of my life. These doctors who were suppose to help her ended up killing her in the end. I also…See More
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