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At 12:24pm on July 18, 2013, l said…
Thank you for your comment. It helped. I am sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.
At 10:41am on June 21, 2013, Patricia Hoffman said…

I lost my mom 2 weeks ago as well, I dont think I can through all this, we were very close

At 1:10am on June 21, 2013, l said…

Thank you Patricia for your thoughts.. on Need help healing...

I am so sorry regarding the loss of your grandchild. I will pray for you.

At 4:38pm on June 4, 2013, Connie K said…
Patricia
I Am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mom. It must be so hard to deal with all of this grief. please a know you are not alone and we are all sending prayers.
At 6:45pm on May 22, 2013, Bonnie Jacobs said…

I want to thank you all for your warmth and comments.  At a time like this you can't have too many friends and I think of you all as my friends.

 

At 12:04pm on May 17, 2013, Dennis C. said…
I am so very sorry about your terrible loss.

Grandchildren are such a wonderful gift.

If there is anything that we can do to comfort you, please let us know.
At 3:38pm on May 10, 2013, Connie K said…

Hi Patricia
 My name is Connie and I lost my only son in a tragic car accident 5 months ago. He was seventeem. I am so sorry for your horrible loss. I can ralte to the overwhelming feeling of grief consuming your while being. I sometimes feel I am going to go instantly insane when that nightmare reality seeps in. It helps me to read meditations from others who are making their way through life with this loss. Being outside and hiking help me. I know it is hard and I just wanted to send you a cyber hug. Try to have faith that your grand daughter is still alive in spirit and is with you and help you get through things when you just don't know how you will. This is the only way I survive.Energy never dies it just changes form. And the love you shared with her will always be there and never change.

At 11:19pm on May 7, 2013, theresa ouellette (wells) said…

thanks for the chat i hope you things get better hugs to you

At 11:57am on April 19, 2013, Dennis C. said…
Sometimes we can feel absolutely helpless and hopeless.

But when all is said and done, it is ok to grieve, but you also need to develop HOPE.

Here is a scripture that describes a resurrection of a twelve year old

* Mark 5:41,42 — And, taking the hand of the young child, he said to her: “Tal′i·tha cu′mi,” which, translated, means: “Maiden, I say to you, Get up!” 42 And immediately the maiden rose and began walking, for she was twelve years old. And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy. *

Notice that the family "they were beside themselves with great ecstasy"

One day we will be reunited with our loved ones. I know that doesn't take the pain away, but it does give us HOPE!
At 6:38am on April 19, 2013, Dennis C. said…
Also - go to this discussion

http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topics/when-someone-you-love-dies

Please follow the link you find there to a brochure on grieving etc.
At 6:34am on April 19, 2013, Dennis C. said…
Patricia

I am so sorry for your loss.

I have a dear friend who experienced something very similar. Her granddaughter died in her arms from an asthma attack. Of course she was, and continues to be devastated.

I do know that what helps her is to focus on the hope she has for the future. She believes that she will be reunited with her granddaughter. She does therapeutic things like keeping a journal so that when they meet again she will give the journal to her. We must fight back by having HOPE. We already feel helpless, we must, MUST not feel hopeless as well.
At 12:05pm on April 17, 2013, Angela Scott said…
Hi Patricia I'm Angela new to this site i feel your pain and
The way you was feeling can't eat can't
Sleep didn't wanna play with my 2
Granddaughters i lost my 20 year old son in February and this has been the worst for me i wanted to kill myself that pain it me som hard and i am still sad every day but it gets better with time i still don't no how to handle it but i deal with but but
Patrica i am so sorry for you're lost i feel
You're pain i do my granddaughter is 3 years old i
No how i will feel i hope you feel better i
Do because life is to short to waste feel better love ya Angela Scott
Feel better.
At 11:26pm on April 15, 2013, anna l. said…

Hi Patricia,

My losses are very different from yours but we all share the same feelings of what if, if only, guilt, horror, anger, anxiety, etc.  I never had panic attacks until my husband died and then they were a terrible part of my every day life.  You have my sympathy for all you are going through.  The way I handled my panic attacks was to walk, hard, fast, and as long as needed until my brain and heart calmed down.  I would head out onto our street day or night, sometimes in my pjs and jacket and walk up and down up and down up and down.  It was the ONLY thing that worked for me.  Now I have some other strategies but in the early days it worked and why mess with what works.  I hope you find something that works for you.  Please know that many people here can relate to what you are going through.  Sending hugs of understanding and care. 

Anna

At 9:24pm on April 15, 2013, Bern said…

Hi Patricia,

I loss my son 20yrs, 6mths ago.. The panic attach are like what I experience. I am scared of the unknown. I am trying to just survive everyday. Losing a child is hard and unreal. Sometimes I can not physical comfort to my grandchildren...because it hurts so bad. But, I hold them anyway. So, be there for yourself, husband and children.

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