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At 11:00pm on June 15, 2018, AnneJ. said…

Kathleen, I really miss you. Love, AnneJ.

At 6:16pm on January 9, 2017, Carl accomando said…
Hi thanks for your comments we were married 43 years we met in school and I knew then she was the one.She lost her battle with cancer after a brave fight .I took care of her every day while she went through treatment.When she passed I got to lay with her and hold her as she went to someplace much better.I miss her so deeply words can't express the part of me that died with her.So I have to be here for my grandkids who were her life if not for them I would want to be with her now she would never forgive me if I didn't.
At 5:24am on December 19, 2016, Kenna said…

Hi Kathleen, I am so shocked that your colleagues, especially given their profession, aren't being more understanding and supportive. I am sorry that they are being that way.

I am at 9 months too (today) form when I lost my Dad. It doesn't get any easier, does it?

I have had comments recently from colleagues or friends about how well I am doing and I get so frustrated. I know life goes on etc but grief never leaves us. It is a wave that we ride every day. I wouldn't wish it on anyone but I sometimes wish they could feel a fraction of it to help them be more supportive of us.

I hope you have people who do help you. I am always here and I was happy when you said you get what I say and that you appreciate my words. That is what we are all here for, to help one another. I will listen anytime. Thank you also for listening to me xxxx

At 8:16am on December 13, 2016, Kenna said…

I got your message thanks Kathleen but it seems to have vanished from my page. 

People do seem to assume that you are "ok" after a certain amount of time or if you smile or anything. I know they are not going through the same things as us but it's hurtful that from then on they think you are fine. Or worse yet, say something like "You are doing well" Argh! I am not doing well, I am still grieving and my heart still aches every moment but I have to smile every now and then otherwise I would break down. As long as we know what we are feeling, that is all that matters. I am glad you talk about him. I love talking about my Dad and it gives me such comfort. I understand what you said about smiling and then on the other hand crying so hard you can't breathe. It is an emotional roller coaster but is all part of grieving some one you love so much. 

I can't remember all your message I am afraid but I hope you are coping and if you need to talk just get in touch. Take care, Kenna xxx

At 10:14am on December 8, 2016, Kenna said…

Thank you for your message Kathy. I am so sorry about your Husband. You are right in everything you said. It is what it is! Take your time and grieve how and when you want to. You won't ruin anything. You need to feel these emotions and let them flow when they come. I always speak about my Dad and people do look at me funny or go quiet but I do it anyway. It is far too important to me so I just do what I have to. Speak about your Husband because it is a way of keeping him close to you. You need this more than anything. 

It is still so new to you and my Dad passed in March and I still feel the same. I am glad you are with family at Christmas. We are both experiencing Christmas for the first time so let's not put pressure on ourselves to feel or act a certain way and let's just do what feels right at the time. Take care xxxx

At 12:12am on December 8, 2016, kathleen akin said…
Having a bad day. Well, really a bad bunch of days. Might as well call it a bad bunch of weeks. I keep obsessing on the fact that Rocky is really and totally GONE from my life. Just gone. For the rest of my days. I don't know what has see me off so badly. I am missing him. My heart aches for the need of him. Literally it's pain and heavyness in my heart, like a physical thing!
My eyes flood constantly. If asked how I'm doing my face crumbles and it's not a pretty site.
My soul yearns for him, calls out for him!!! Just one last kiss, a look in his eyes, the sound of his voice, the smell of his neck and the feeling of his whiskers against my lips. I'm hanging onto these sensations as if my life depended on it, and it just might. What else do I have other than these things? My pain has become a real and physical sensation and I have no idea what to do with it.
Please come back to me...you are my most precious man, my heart and my soul. I am lost here. Please come back and find me. All I can do is wait. I'm waiting Rocky!! Please!!
At 8:46am on May 11, 2016, Fran said…
Kathleen,
I'm so sorry to see that Rocky is gone! I've been wondering how you and he were doing but was afraid to ask...and I haven't been on here as much as last year. I know you have a huge hole missing in your chest. Know that you did everything you could for him. Now you have to take care of yourself...and I'm the one calling the kettle black. Be kind to yourself.
At 9:16pm on May 7, 2016, Sara Schwartztrauber said…

Kathleen

I haven't been on in a long time. I'm so very sorry to hear about Rocky's passing. No matter how long you know it's coming, you are never ready for it. There is nothing that I can say to make you feel better, but please know I care.

Sara

At 9:56pm on April 3, 2016, morgan said…

Oh Kathleen, I am sooo sorry.  You have been through the wringer with watching your love slowly fade away.  I wish there was anything to say or do to make this easier for you but I am still without answers myself.  Right now you are entering a very surreal place and you will find it impossible to believe where you are.   I would advise you to try to just do the basics.  Just the things you have to do because that will be more than enough.   Small steps to get through the hour.  Just an hour at a time.  Only what rises to the top of the crisis pile.  And that will include lots of crying.  But I think it is the body's way of relieving the mind of the battle that is going on because you will not understand this loss.  

Eat when you can.  I used to take showers when I knew I was going to cry hard because the water helped.  And I would sleep when I could wherever I fell asleep because it is too hard to keep to a routine but try to spend some time doing some of the things you used to.  

You have been here with us while Rocky was sick and I am sorry you are now coming here with the kind of news we all never want to hear.  My heart goes out to you because I know the pain you have and no one deserves this kind of pain.  We are here to help you through the grieving state you are entering and it will seem unimaginable but it is natural especially when we have loved someone as much as we all have.  No one will replace Rocky but you were loved and that is something many never get.  It was truly our gift from them.  Take care. 

morgan

At 10:02am on April 3, 2016, Peggy said…

Kathleen, I am so sorry to hear about Rocky's passing.  I've been thinking about you both lately and wondering how things were going.  If you need to talk, let me know.  I wish I didn't, but I know what you're going through, we all do.  It's probably the worst thing you'll ever experience but somehow, you do keep getting up each morning.  Just keep breathing, hang in there.  hugs to you, Peggy xo

At 1:37am on April 3, 2016, kathleen akin said…
Rocky died March 20th in my hands. I was alone with him and he went quickly. Now I'm alone and mostly lost and can't sleep at night
Thanks
At 12:01am on March 8, 2016, morgan said…

Kathleen,

Just tell Rocky over and over you love him.  He just needs to hear you say it.  Tell him that your love for him will not stop and that you will see him soon.  That none of this is anybodys fault and that you both did the best you could.  That he has been extremely courageous and you love him for that.

I wish for you the least amount of hurt that you will be enduring and please come here to us.  It is the place where we all know what this is like.  We can help you feel a bit less confused and helpless in this journey. 

Just tell him you love him.  The truth of that will set you both free.  

morgan

At 3:38pm on March 7, 2016, kathleen akin said…
Rocky is coming home from the hospital to die at home. Tomorrow morning. Hospice is getting a bed set up at our house today I hope. And the equipment to deliver pain meds. We've been here in the huntsman cancer hospital since last Friday. He started to bleed and they can't get it to stop so they just kept putting more in but that's all they can do. So once he goes home if he starts to bleed he will just bleed to death. And that's that. If feel numb right now but then I have my moment.
This is all so overwhelming and complicated. He is the one who took care of things and took care of me.
I can't stand this
At 10:56am on February 8, 2016, Fran said…

Hi Kathleen,

Just checking in to see how things are going. Haven't heard from you since before Christmas....You are in my thoughts and prayers....

At 3:54am on November 21, 2015, Sara Schwartztrauber said…

Kathleen

I had to be away for awhile. I just wasn't very good company. But...I'm worried about you. I don't see any recent posts.

At 1:07pm on September 27, 2015, Fran said…

Kathleen,

I haven't seen you on here, or heard from you lately. Are you ok? How's Rocky?

Just wanted you to know I haven't forgotten about you....

At 9:35pm on July 1, 2015, Erin said…

i didn't get a chance to say anything to my boyfriend Sean but every night I talk to him and ask him to please come and talk to me in my dreams. Tell me that you love me and that you are ok. I have had other dreams like that from people who have passed in my life. I remember 1 dream I had when he came through a window in a bedroom that I was standing in and he said I'm here. I turned to him and put my arms around him then I woke up. I am hoping I will see him soon in another dream.

At 11:50am on July 1, 2015, Richard G said…

Kathleen,

I'm am doing much better because of a book I read. It is called "Never Say Goodbye" by Patrick Mathews. He is a medium and I believe that 99 percent of mediums are fakes but from what I've been able to find out I believe that Patrick actually has the gift of being able to communicate with those who have passed. I think you would get a great deal of comfort out of the book.

At 7:22am on July 1, 2015, Lisa Y said…

Kathleen,

Every night I go to bed hoping it will happen again. My sister said maybe he was saying goodbye which might be true.  I believe our loved ones stay around for a little while.  I could feel my mom was still with me after she died, but I don't feel that anymore.  I miss my husband and life just feels so pointless without him.  I am just going through the motions until I can be with him again.

At 12:11pm on June 23, 2015, Sara Schwartztrauber said…

Kathleen

Please feel free to private message me anytime you want to vent. I would also be happy to give you my phone number as the nights are so hard, sometimes you just want someone to listen to you, I don't sleep well, I am still on the couch, so if you need someone to just listen, I'm up at all hours, and would be happy to just listen.

I know that everyone is telling you this, and just like me, you won't do it, but try and take care of yourself also. You can't take care of him if you get sick.

Thinking of you

Sara

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