Crystal, You know how you were talking about wishing there was a way to talk to your Grandma? That need to see and touch something tangible is a good thing. Sometimes a shrine, a candle, a photograph works.
Sometimes it doesn't, making the person even sadder because that object is associated with Death. What I would do - as a healing artist - is create a brand new scene where you're with Grandma doing something you always loved to do with her. We'd pick a specific photo of Grandma doing that activity and you'd tell me what age you would have been roughly at that time. Then I put the two of you together! This way you can continue the relationship and talk with her. Diane Young has put an example up on Blog Features. Have a look-see and write back, Nancy
Thank you for your friendship, Crystal. I lost my grandpa back in 2006. He was also like my father as well. I hope you find comfort here dealing with your losses and if you need a friend, feel free to reach out to me, if you're comfortable with that :)
I saw you post of Wednesday..........how is your uncle? my God, I pray he is ok, and I pray you are ok. Please let us all know. there are people here that may have never met you, honey, but we love you anyway.......
my heart bleeds for you sweetie....as i am sure many others here do, too.......we are praying for you and your uncle.
Hi Crystal, how have you been? have'nt seen you on in awhile. Sorry u hadto meet me on such a bad evening. not usually that bad. any good dreams about your grandma? See ya later i hope. Linda
I'm am so sorry for your loss, but know that your Grandma is with you at all times. My spirituality, God, and my loved one who is now gone are the reasons I've made it through. Reading books on where are loved ones go after this life has also been a huge comfort for me because it confirms that are loved ones are never really gone.
Greetings Crystal, thanks for your support, I am so sorry for the loss of your grandmother, I have lost my paternal Grandmother 3 yrs ago, so I know that pain also. My maternal grandma is still here with us, thank goodness......she will be 94 yrs old in October! I just felt so helpless watching my son lay there, also looking so helpless, it was tortuous for me but I would have NEVER left him there, I had to be by his side.
I'm sorry to hear that. Losing a loved one is sooo hard, losing a loved one to murder is even harder. Your grandma sounds like a really wonderful woman. I bet she raised you with the highest values and morals. Be proud of that, after all, it takes a special person. I will keep you in my prayers, Kandi
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Crystal, You know how you were talking about wishing there was a way to talk to your Grandma? That need to see and touch something tangible is a good thing. Sometimes a shrine, a candle, a photograph works.
Sometimes it doesn't, making the person even sadder because that object is associated with Death. What I would do - as a healing artist - is create a brand new scene where you're with Grandma doing something you always loved to do with her. We'd pick a specific photo of Grandma doing that activity and you'd tell me what age you would have been roughly at that time. Then I put the two of you together! This way you can continue the relationship and talk with her. Diane Young has put an example up on Blog Features. Have a look-see and write back, Nancy
crystal, thank-you so much for friending me. I havent been on line since the night we chatted.
its been to hard to type & cry at the same time. I make to many mistakes. Ill chat to you soon. but thanks for reaching out to me. june
your poetry is so beautiful......God Bless you sweetie
love you from afar...im In SC...
distance so does not matter :)
Crystal,
I saw you post of Wednesday..........how is your uncle? my God, I pray he is ok, and I pray you are ok. Please let us all know. there are people here that may have never met you, honey, but we love you anyway.......
my heart bleeds for you sweetie....as i am sure many others here do, too.......we are praying for you and your uncle.
kisses, hugs and love,
would give in person if we could....
xoxoxoxo
susan
I'm sorry to hear that. Losing a loved one is sooo hard, losing a loved one to murder is even harder. Your grandma sounds like a really wonderful woman. I bet she raised you with the highest values and morals. Be proud of that, after all, it takes a special person. I will keep you in my prayers, Kandi
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