I just don't know what to say, that's a lot to deal with only 2 days apart. I showed my boyfriend the photos of your beautiful daughter. I told him you help me so much just by knowing you are there. I'm new at this so i don't know if I can help you, but I would love to hear more about your daughter also. sandy

HI Laura,
My son died last month and I am struggling to live without him. Do you have any advice for someone like me who has lost their only child? I had another son acually but he was still born.. My other son Jesse would have been 20 next month... he was my best friend. I would appreciate your thoughts.

Hi Laura,
Thank you for the comment you left for me. You have a beautiful daughter, I am sorry for your loss. I love the painting of her, it's really beautiful.

Hi Laura,
Thankyou for the advice. My mom and I werent exactly on the best terms when she passed, so sometimes it's hard not to feel guilty. But, I know that it's just how girls are with their moms when their in their teens. I just didnt get the after part, the part where I realize how much she did for me and I get to reconnect with her and have an adult relationship with my mom. I had the realization, just didnt get the comfort part.
I am really sorry about your loss. A friend of mine, his 15 year old brother died 4 years ago. I remember his mom always talking about it with me. We connected because of it. From what I have been told, loosing a child is the greatest loss, I couldnt ever imagine. I am so sorry.
I am here as well, If you ever need to talk!

Laura Thank you for your response. I am still trying to come to terms with the fact that this is real, and she won't be here anylonger. My heart aches for her, we had a very special relationship also. We lost her Dad in 2002 and she and I have had to grieve for him the last 7 years. We were so happy at Christmas and then this. I'm not very computer literate, but I'll try to stay in contact. Thank you again Pat

Thank you for the beautiful comment you left for me. I am so sorry for your loss and I seen what my Mom and Dad are going through. It is terrible! I have a daughter and I can not imagine the pain. I know how it hurts for my Sister, but my Daughter...wow! God Bless you and know I am thinking of you. Thank you for sharing your story with me.

Laura...it is hard to explain but i know exactly what you mean. maybe he is doing the very best he can right now too. sometimes that has to be enough. i know at the time i wanted my husband to share in my depth of grief. of course he couldn't. he will only understand if he ever loses one of his children. i pray for his sake he never has to come to that understanding. take care, find something beautiful today because there is still lots of beauty in this world...
connie

Laura, I'm so sorry for your loss and we are in agreement...we get better but we nver get over. I am also sorry that your husband can not give the support you are so badly needing at this time. My ex husband was the same. I think he just didn't know how. Men think they have to be so strong. Maybe he thinks by trying to get back to the norm of everyday life will help you do the same. Yes, he has suffered a loss too but he really doesn't understand. Not his fault. I can sort of step back and understand this now about John...at the time it was much harder to see. Stay in touch...connie

it seems were are in the same boat

Thank you, Laura. My heart goes out to you; words sometimes just don't express the enormity of feeling in a situation. You must miss her terribly. Susan

Hello Laura, Thanks for the kind words. I am sorry about your loss as well, I have 4 sons and I can not amagine losing either one of them, I wish that there was something that I could say that would help but I dont know what that would be! this week we have to go to 3 candle light services, its going to be a hard week. I will Pray for you laura, Dana.

hi laura.
thank you for trying to help. school is just so hard for me and i feel i have lost all motivation. i want to be a marine mammal trainer. i feel i will never succeed.

Dear Laura,
Thank you so much for your note. I too am so sorry for your loss. I spent the better part of last evening searching out grief websites and finally settled on this one. I purposely didnt put up a lot of info until I got to know the folks here. I will get a picture of my daughter up soon. From what I know about grief work, I am just about where I need to be at 9 months. That doesn't help make me feel better though. My wife suggested that if I didnt talk to a professional, at least I should blog or do something - so that's why I am here.
Thanks for listening.

Hi Laura,

Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate them. You and I seem to have some things in common. My father also died on May 25, 2009, due to his injuries. And, we also spent a week together in Las Vegas one month before he died. My parents lived in Florida, and I am in Colorado. I am sorry for your loss and I understand how much you miss her. The time since that day has not seemed to get any easier. I, too, very rarely want to do any socializing. I just want to stay home. When I do have to go to work, I turn into another person who just smiles. I have become very good at hiding what I am feeling.

I have asked people who have gone through this kind of loss, when does it get better? When does it hurt less? I have been told, that "it does not get better, and it does not hurt less. You just get use to it." I am not sure that I really like that answer, but I am waiting and hoping for that day when I wake up, and "I am use to it" and things don't seem as bad. When that day will come, I don't know. So, I am just waiting...

I hope that the good times you had with your daughter are always in your heart and mind. I wish you the best.

we have one on facebook.my sister put it there.my brother loved horticulture.he landscaped an area at 5 rivers in Dayton and in front of the St . VIncent depaul.he also did areas in Chicago.hit was his passion.he also loved the arts.Theatre and singing.

Laura ~ I love the picture of ya'll with the "Coke Bear". I am a great collector and that is the first lifelike one I have seen. The picture truely captivates the joy you both are having.

I would like to add a song. sissys song by alan jackson but i dont know how can you help me or point me in the right direction please

Thank you so much for your comment. It helped me. I have always dealt with depression but the pain i feel from losing my mom is greater than anything i ever felt. I has been almost 5 months and i think the numbness is just now wearing off. Im sorry to hear about your daughter. I hope we can chat more. Once again Thank you

I just read through your email and you are a medical assistant. Are you currently working as a ma, did you take the cma or rma? I will post a picture of mom.