Kristina, I don't want to make you feel bad but what you are experiencing is so normal for traumatic loss. The part of feeling paralyzed, difficult to go shopping, or just out of the house. Feeling it physically. I know I have felt the same way and I am still working on how I am going to continue stay afloat constantly feeling the loss. I could write a book about how i have tried to endure and all I can say is "one minute at a time". Only do what is right in front of you. Every day, one minute at a time. And be ok with whatever that is, because when loss hits that's all we can do. Take care.
I am so sorry for your loss. My Mom passed away Feb 14 of this year. I still grieve deeply for her. The holidays can be hard for all of us that have recently lost a loved one. Someone once said to mean "You honor someone when you grieve." I think he was trying to say it is okay and normal to grieve someone you loved very much. What I have learned through my loss and by participating on this online grief support, is there is no timeline as to when your grief begins and ends.
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