I’m sorry that its taken so long for me to respond. I’ve had a bout of depression for month so things slip out of my mind easily. I will be praying for you. I’ve lost 3 brothers myself and I know the pain you are going through. Its always hard to wake up and realize that they are not here anymore. All I can offer you now is heartfelt prayers, may the Lord comfort you and your loved ones and give you a reason to keep living every day. Please take heart.
Hi! I also lost my mom who was my best friend on Dec 27, 2012. Reading your comments reminds me that I felt like my mom was the only person in the world who truly understood me. Cancer is such an awful disease, I hope someday there is a cure for all forms of cancer. I've been told by a childhood friend who lost her mom, that time does heal, but that doesn't mean you don't miss her, because my friend misses her mom as do I.
Thanks, Jayne, for your comment. I think I'm still in shock over my mom; I was looking at photos from two Christmases ago, and she looked so happy and healthy, and now she's gone, and that is hard to believe. This is such an awful, awful cancer. I hate it so much.
I lost my mom to acute pancreatitis which necrotized. it came out of nowhere and she went into the hospital on July 24 and was in the hospital until she died of septic shock w multiple organ failure. I am not only grief stricken but am confused as to what happend and how. is is in the ten percent of cases which are deemed unknown cause. she was taking blood pressure medicine which has been linked to acute pancreatitis but impossible to prove. I just dont get why it necrotized in her case. I saw that you lost your mom to pancreatic cancer. I am so sorry for your loss.
I am sorry 4 your loss, it will get easier one foot in frount of the other little steps there is family and freinnds who care about you. its been 3 years for me and i am still struggling with the death of my mom everyday. and the most of things are going to be the hadest is christmas. thank you for accpeting me as your freind on here , prayering for you.. sharon
Hey Jayne, Yesterday was the beginning of football season, and that was considered one of the first 'holidays' that I must go through. Mom loved Alabama football so much, she was the biggest fan I've ever met. She started counting down for the next season, as soon as the last game was over with. So I stayed by myself at my house and didn't watch the game..it was just too hard for me! I wish things would get a little easier but it doesn't seem to!:/
Hi Jayne. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know this loss and wish no one had to carry it. It's unbearable. I'm shocked at how many are dying of pancreatic cancer these days. It's a cruel disease that can take down the most vibrant fighting spirit. If it helps any I'll ask my mom to introduce herself to Jayne's mom. ;) She's a pretty cool lady. They can take turns looking out for you and me down here. If you ever need someone to vent or talk to who understands please feel free to contact me. I won't lie my emotions are all over the place and I tend to keep most of them bottled up inside because as you already know those around you want to quickly go back to "normal life" while we are sitting here stunned asking.. just what is normal now? Please take and write any time you'd like. - Mark
Thank you for getting in touch . I am devastated beyond belief . My mom my best friend . She passed away from advanced stage 4 liver cancer on may 11th. I can't live with out her . I don't know what to do . When did your mom pass. Keep in touch .
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I am so sorry for your loss. The journey of caregiving is extremely difficult. The loss of our especially loved dear ones is unspeakable.
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"Brett so true she was my security blanket
I feel like I have no one to lean on that understood me like her
You know what keeps coming in my mind. How true it is and scary that everything has a beginning and an end."
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Like you, sometimes I am glad to be sad. I feel like I am closer to my mom when I am crying. At least, her memory is fresher with me when I am in that zone.
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