Dearest Brenda, I am remiss in THANKING you for taking such time to write me such a thoughtful and caring message years ago now... Time stands still and moves forward all at once it seems. I truly and deeply appreciate your thoughts and true kindness in reaching out to me in the way that you did. My mother was an English teacher and Pastor, as a result I find it the example you used to communicate to me quite fascinating as well...I am grateful for your message to me and although long overdue; thank you! Warmest thoughts, Jessica
Thank you so much Brenda, I appreciate your adding me and sharing your story. That’s beautiful that you sang for your dad, I wish I could have done that for mine but when the hospice nurse called and said he was ‘actively dying’ the day after Fathers Day I was shocked and when I got there he was being kept comfortable so he wasn’t awake to talk but I was told he could hear so I talked. My dad loved bluegrass and playing guitar, someone played my dads guitar and sang Keeper of the Door by The Kings Countrymen at the service. It was so emotional and touching that I could imagine see my dad smiling.
Thanks you so much for the positive things to read and your thoughtful words.
Thanks for being my friend, Brenda Ann. Its nice to have a "sister in the faith" to talk to. I see your from my home state. I am originally from El Paso, Tx. Hope you and your family are well! Agape...
I just wanted to say thank you from the bottom of my heart and apologize for not doing so earlier for the kindness you showed me in your comment to me last year. Thank You Sooo Very Much for taking your time to write what you did and share what you did with me and for me..it means A LOT! Warmest Regards~J
Thank you very much for your kind words. I am not a very haring person o I find it quite hard to talk about my emotions. I am going through a very hard time right now so any kind of help and support is more than welcome. I am sure that I will be able to find it here.
I will look through brochures you suggested. Thank you again for your kind words.
Thank you for your very kind and thoughtful words. The link to the article is almost like deja vu. A few days or maybe a week after my husband passed, two young men who were Jehovah Witnesses knocked on the front door. I opened the door but immediately told them I wasn't interested. Not wanting to come across as impolite, I accepted their magazine/booklet. The cover article was "When Someone You Love Dies". I thought it was strange and timely. Here you are sending me a link to the same article!
Hi Brenda, Thank you for your friend request. I read your blog above, and agree that Our Heavenly Father did not create mankind to die that he gave us a provision by means of Jesus. I know that one day as Rev. 21:4 states "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” I just pray that I will be able to be part of that wonderful blessing so I may see my son, husband, parents, aunts, uncles & friends I miss so much. It is so hard to be strong after all this loss, and feel alone most of the time. The pain is so unbearable after my son died. I only wish he did not push me away, so I could have told him how much I love him. Thank you again for extending your arms to me.
Thanks for the friend request. I appreciate all the kind, comforting words that are written on here, for all of us who in grieving from the loss of a loved one. I am slowly seeping back into the reality of daily life here. It is rough but we all have to accept what Fate is given to us. Wish I could have the Journey to Heaven with my husband but that was not in the Plan, so I try to go through hurdle placed in front of me and wait until it is time for to take my Journey. Hope you are having a good week end and May God Bless you.....
Hello Brenda, Thanks for asking me to be your friend on here. I believe each of us that read and post here are grieving the loss of a loved one . Friends can help each other get past all hurdles that are put in front of us. My life is slowly beginning to seep back into daily reality. Lost my husband the latter part of April this year, but I know he is a much better place now and the pain, suffering, medicines and Joy of living in Heaven must be wonderful. Please have a good Sunday tomorrow and God Bless you.
I have read a little about your losses and what you do for people and I am interested in speaking with you.
I am part of a research team at Saint Louis University that is conducting a research project about how families communicate about making medical decisions for loved ones at the end-of-life. If this is something you would be comfortable with, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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