Oh thank you. That is a beautiful quote. I'm sure your wife was a beautiful person in every way. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Bless your heart. Yes what you say is true. No one should live through abuse like this. Them to have it degrade further with sudden loss is terrible. Especially with such a close and cherished friend. I just feel so lost right now. We spoke every day for five years. She was always there now she is not. I'm at a loss on this. Have not felt this grief since I lost my sweet mother to breast cancer. She was also my best friend and I did not have one until I met my friend who passed many years later. She filled such a huge void in my life on a daily basis. She was my rock and touchstone. I'm sure you more than understand. I trying so hard to make it a life I can be at peace with. I'm so proud of you for doing it in the face of such tragedy. You are a very strong and amazing person. A true inspiration. Thank you so much for being here in this dark time. I humbly thank you.
You are too great a person to be conquered by hatred and demeaning. No body ever should accept the life of abuse, life itself is tough enough and then loosing someone so dear, so special, so unexpectedly is the hardest thing you'll ever experience. "Make you, a beautiful world because You have lived in it" Edward Bok wrote in 1929, my wife's favorite quote, learned upon visiting his garden in Florida. I now work harder at doing so, but I do it.
Her whole family is also devastated. She was loved by so many. I miss her so much already. It is so lonely without her and so hard to deal with that now in addition to abuse in relationship. But you are so right. Thank you for your wisdom. I truly apptrciate it.
Thank you so much for your Answer. I am so sorry for the loss of your fear wife. Yes you are so right life is too short. I know that painfully now. We still don't know what took her so quickly. Her family id
First of all, I'm so sorry, sudden and unexpected loss is so debilitating, as I too recently experience the sudden loss of my wonderful true love soulmate wife, with no cause in January. And second of all, as you now know, life is far too short to live in a agonizing relationship, so don't wait a minute and get the hell out of that situation, you've got nothing to loose but your happiness, now compromised even more. 3rd, take deep slow breathes to get through the panics that you will have often. Take control of yourself, you are only part of this world for short time and don't need to be suffering. That person you lost, will expect you to do what's right for YOU, and you need to do that in their honor. Please take charge and make you right with YOUR world.
I just lost my best friend in all the world the other night due to sudden loss. No one knows yet why she passed. I
Am desolate. We spoke every day for last five years and she was my rock. My heart sister more than anyone. I don't know if I can go on without her. I am in an abusive marriage and my husband is no support at all. She helped me keep my sanity when he abused me so much. Just feeling total sadness and loss at such a wonderful person and friend. I don't know what to do. Thank you for being here.
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