You sound very much in the same spot I am in. I lost my husband Oct 15, 2016 and I am just trying to make it to this coming Oct for a short cruise to Catalina and Mexico with my family. After that, I am hoping I will have some relief from the loneliness and overwhelming sadness I am feeling now because I don't think I can live like this for very long. My son, my only child just went through a divorce and I have no support from him and I was a child who was passed off to different relatives because my mother was an alcoholic so I have no close family except for my cousins I lived with from age 13 until I got married. The only happiness I had in life was with my husband of 50 years and now he is gone.
I'm glad you are getting some help. If you have the resources, take advantage of it. Therapy and medication on the basis you describe is a real opportunity to get back on your feet. There's no cure for what we're going through but at least we can try to learn to cope the best we can. Let us know how it goes.
Hi Michael, Carl here I'm coming to Roanoke Wed, if you want to talk I'd like that and it might be good for both of us we are both grieving for our wives I know it's helpful to talk to someone in the same situation .please let me know it may help
Hey Michael, as much as I try to hide my pain I just can't. It gets to the point at times where it feels like I'm gonna have a breakdown because I can't handle it. It truly helps to talk with other people who truly understand this pain. take care my friend.
A psychiatrist had me on so much Xanax the first 4 months that I wasn't even counting how many. I think that's how managed to take care of what I had to and load up and move. For over a year, I didn't drink at all. I finally got off Xanax a year ago in January and started drinking too much beer. I have lost 30 pounds, gained 40, and lost 30 over the past 18 months. I'm healthy and feel I'm throwing that away by being so inactive. It's not by choice. This has been a rollercoaster ride through hell and I'm trapped most of the time.
Hi Michael we talked here several weeks ago my wife passed I'm November I'm visiting here in Roanoke this weekend with my kids,wondering if you wanted to get together .Leg me know it might be a good thing. CARL ACCOMANDO
Hi Michael.....I lost my husband of 27 years in oct too. it was sudden unexpected and so very tragic. I am struggling to live day to day. I cry all the time and fall apart so much its hard to count. I thought me and my husband could get through anything but I was wrong. now I live in agony everyday. just not wanting to do or go anywhere. I do have 2 fantastic kids both young adults and they struggle too. I feel like I let them down because I can hardly function let alone support them in their grief. looks like all of us are just struggling to survive and hoping not to..
So i am looking at christmas alone. I could drive 4 hours each way to my brothers house but i have a hard time most days leaving a one mile radius of my house. Plus id have to sleep in a strange bed (its hard enough in my own). How to get through the day?
Hi Michael, Thank you for telling me about your wife. She sounds like a wonderful and brave person. It is natural to feel that you didn't do enough but I bet you anything she felt very differently. What you did for her was through unconditional love and that is all she could have wished for. You might not feel like it, but you too are being brave. Coming on here and talking about your loss takes courage so be proud. I am sure she would want you to continue on but don't put any pressure on yourself to feel good anytime soon. Grief is a journey that never truly ends but you are supported xx
"they" also say I should express my feelings as a way to mourn. I am alone most of the time; when im not, my dinner companions don't want to hear it. So i will express them here. Im scared, shaky, fearful of the future, lonely, sad, pessimistic, have no interest in things and have spent time contemplating whether I want to go on. I guess that begins to cover it.
I never know where these posts show up. Roxanne suffered through breast cancer, neuropathy, many falls, a broken hip, broken ribs, finally heart disease. Never complained once. If anyone said she was brave, she just said what choice do i have?
You're right Michael, it is so unfair to them and us. People don't understand but that's what we are all here for. We know what you are going through so lean on us when ever you need. I am not going to lie to you because time hasn't helped me feel better but talking about my Dad has. Talk to us about your wife. Tell us stories and hopefully that will help even just a bit xxx
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