About TUNNEL VISION. Sometimes life is hitting us from so many directions that we tend to have TUNNEL VISION. Meaning we feel not strong enough to fight in all directions, and take the path of least resistance. Problem is that that is not the direction we would choose ever if we were to disconsider all the pressure. Thus we drag all this opposition and let this determine where we are going, and by dragging seems much like a person trying to walk with a bag full of rocks thrown our way that by refusal to fight we carry around and which makes walking almost impossible... and life starts looking like a dragging exercise. I feel so much better just to silently drop the bag, resist the urge to fight because fighting others back is not going to change where they are going anyway, but DOES CHANGE WHERE I am going. Sets me free to walk my own path, my own way, and with my own weights only. By not guilting myself into fighting or not, by just refusing to engage and searching deeper, YES, I can find my path again and walk on it just fine. Set my LIFE and GOALS the priority, and shake off all the rest.

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