I think that most of us being through the craps of life in 2st person, 2nd, 3rd or all 3 at same time; can use a little less weights to carry. Keeping the relationships light or as light as possible, responsibilities down to the basics and not buying into any additional drama can do a lot more good than we think. The tendency is to see all life from a suffering lens in a forever horizon, or alternatively just svery short ter makes feel a little better type of thing. It can be common to enter into more heavy loads because that´s what we got used to and it´s all too familiar. But eventually life sucks from all ends and we need a break. A time the clock and peers and life events are kept to the simple of feel ok but not at the expense of somrthing else. Being that health in any level, emotional, heavy drinking, or just pleasures for pleasures of the flash. There is a time WE GET REAL, and most often the finances are a good indicator of where our priorities REALLY are. And how much we are doing to really move along life in a pace that taes consideration of how much we can take on without digging a whole under our feet. And to make our feet travel more light, sometimes expectations have to be lost and a new horizon can be of all things and anything and everything. Perhaps not time to narrow down too much just because we can´t take much and finding the healthy pace and peers around that in good sintony to help finding the new flow of energy with life that will work is a must. Pressures are unhealthy. Most times people assume the GRIEVING part is doing NOTHING. Or perhaps the moves are so slow that aren´t accepted even by ourselves. See, the nothing to one is a full range of emotions trying to be sorted out so that the decisions will be accurate. And time is a friend of the grieving and not the enemy. There are plenty people out there running god knows to what just to find out that wasn´t good or didn´t satisfy. THe SATISFACTION with life is an inside job, really. Introspects know it all too well that looking at commercials and buying things aren´t going to do it. Thinking is intrinsic, adapting is necessary, and moving along is really not something that can be ever measured by anyone else unless they lived in our shoes all their lives and had the exact same views and logic for life we have. I find odd that people think money wil do. Marriage will do. Children will do. A good job will do. A great pay check doing noting will do. And really none of that will do much of anything other than keeping us entertained and shift attention to outside life events and what else and who else and all ELSE, but what´s boiling inside us craving to coexist inside this body and mind precious as is. And whatever means going through things that are lets say less appealling to others to stick around for all the wrong reasons are most likely to be a lot more obvious in the lack of all the DISTRACTIONS. After shelter and food and the basics, there is little else that can be REAL to occupy the minds of someone GRIEFING. It´s ok to ACCEPT self moving along all the SOCIETY EXPECTATIONS without feeling any until there is PURPOSE. And all else is sometimes just feels like clothes that people try to put on us to look good FOR THEM. THere is a numb self trying as hard as hell just to find it´s way to keep smiling among the living. And is hell tired of anything FAKE and the cheap words and thoughts that shape society in a very shallow level of existence. Good lord, part of being through hell and back is understanding we are not going to want to be back as used to be, because we grew out of that place and are searching for something more consistent with who we are now, and with this society really, tehre are too many mirrors around that are twisted to thousand agendas but our own. And struggle is a HHEALTHY part of life. If most were to endure all, they would be a whole lot nicer to deal with and a lot more humane. Other than that, it´s just too simple to stick around some more. HELP or MAKE ME SMILE, or KISS MY ASS because by continuing to live in my body and mind here and finding the sincrony with the world outside is a daily challenge that if we miss we go derrailed LONG LONG WAYS...decades or more. And I am not doing that. DOING ME now for a change, and allowing just the soft sidw of who wants to get near me and keep the place I gave there, or will kick out few times until alone is just a perfect PRESENT tense consistent to my EXISTENCE.

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