t´s all about THEM and never about THEM

Indeed life is interesting. The people hanging out have much to say about where WE ARE. Not because they are all good or bad, they are just BEING THEM and focusing in their BELLY BUTTON. It´s human nature, that´s all. What happens over time that makes some of them OLD NEWS, is that we grow out the need to have them. In fact whatever we most admired became a new stepping stone inside SELF. It´s not about COMPETITION, it´s about looking at mirrors and trying to cope with what looks not well and making it well inside Sometimes it´s just about TIME really. See. WHat keeps peoople around in the long run is not HOW WONDERFUl they make themselves to be, but HOW KIND and GENTLE to the feelings of the VULNERABLE, and knowing to trade places betwwen who is SMALL and BIG and laugh it all together for the HAPPINESS it brings to both each time one or both have this RELEASE and GROWTH. It´s about REMANING to the GROUNDS of love after much can be said and done and always together in the KINDNESS for feelings regardless of understanding. We all can show RESPECT for what we may never know. We all can be gentle and EMPOWER one another, instead of making the bare minimum when one is down. It´s understanding the dynmics of life is full of surprises and we are full of life in return. And there are joys and pains, but there isn´t the NEED TO SUPPRESS to fit in. And those who don´t smash our feelings will get to be a good keep, and may stay. Who knows? I know for a fact that most that are quite kind may cross our lives many times in different points in time. WHat´s different about them that makes it ok to be that way? Their arrival make us happier and their departures leaves us CONTENT, filled up with our vibrant self feeling real good and not like a needy soul hungry and bleeding. The presence and absence are really all parts of life. Sometimes they departure from this life for goosd. And what they leave..GREAT MEMORIES or little if any good memory. But if they were the good spirit flowing in and out ours in joy, wherever they are the thought about them brings OCNTENTMENT, and changing to spiritual form feels sometimes even more present than before. Life is ENERGY, doesn´t matter how mouths move and words as much as how we FEEL. A presence of a KIND SOUL can be ONLY FELT. They don´t need to sell what they say or say what makes an impact. Their fully presence is ENOUGH. Just like our OWN PRESENCE is enough and the memory files can be accessed to make it even NICER. But all in all, their ENERGY is still around, in some ways, if not completely understood. If I was to bring one person back to this realm of the tangible I know who would be, my grandmother, so in prayers I can talk and rest assured an email went hr way in the form of energy betwwen this life we know and the ones we don[t even grasp. Love doesn´t die..just changes and we CHANGE too. Fe in God! I know these days I am way more introspective and centered and how I know I came to it, all else seemed a cruel joke of some sort and something I quite couldn´t see myself playing the part. It´s not their soapopera or mine, it´s just over and done with that need and about MOVING ON. And wishing all well. Because NOW all is WELL IN Y WORLD.

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