t´s all about THEM and never about THEM

Indeed life is interesting. The people hanging out have much to say about where WE ARE. Not because they are all good or bad, they are just BEING THEM and focusing in their BELLY BUTTON. It´s human nature, that´s all. What happens over time that makes some of them OLD NEWS, is that we grow out the need to have them. In fact whatever we most admired became a new stepping stone inside SELF. It´s not about COMPETITION, it´s about looking at mirrors and trying to cope with what looks not well and making it well inside Sometimes it´s just about TIME really. See. WHat keeps peoople around in the long run is not HOW WONDERFUl they make themselves to be, but HOW KIND and GENTLE to the feelings of the VULNERABLE, and knowing to trade places betwwen who is SMALL and BIG and laugh it all together for the HAPPINESS it brings to both each time one or both have this RELEASE and GROWTH. It´s about REMANING to the GROUNDS of love after much can be said and done and always together in the KINDNESS for feelings regardless of understanding. We all can show RESPECT for what we may never know. We all can be gentle and EMPOWER one another, instead of making the bare minimum when one is down. It´s understanding the dynmics of life is full of surprises and we are full of life in return. And there are joys and pains, but there isn´t the NEED TO SUPPRESS to fit in. And those who don´t smash our feelings will get to be a good keep, and may stay. Who knows? I know for a fact that most that are quite kind may cross our lives many times in different points in time. WHat´s different about them that makes it ok to be that way? Their arrival make us happier and their departures leaves us CONTENT, filled up with our vibrant self feeling real good and not like a needy soul hungry and bleeding. The presence and absence are really all parts of life. Sometimes they departure from this life for goosd. And what they leave..GREAT MEMORIES or little if any good memory. But if they were the good spirit flowing in and out ours in joy, wherever they are the thought about them brings OCNTENTMENT, and changing to spiritual form feels sometimes even more present than before. Life is ENERGY, doesn´t matter how mouths move and words as much as how we FEEL. A presence of a KIND SOUL can be ONLY FELT. They don´t need to sell what they say or say what makes an impact. Their fully presence is ENOUGH. Just like our OWN PRESENCE is enough and the memory files can be accessed to make it even NICER. But all in all, their ENERGY is still around, in some ways, if not completely understood. If I was to bring one person back to this realm of the tangible I know who would be, my grandmother, so in prayers I can talk and rest assured an email went hr way in the form of energy betwwen this life we know and the ones we don[t even grasp. Love doesn´t die..just changes and we CHANGE too. Fe in God! I know these days I am way more introspective and centered and how I know I came to it, all else seemed a cruel joke of some sort and something I quite couldn´t see myself playing the part. It´s not their soapopera or mine, it´s just over and done with that need and about MOVING ON. And wishing all well. Because NOW all is WELL IN Y WORLD.

Views: 24

Comment

You need to be a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community to add comments!

Join Online Grief Support - A Social Community

Groups

Latest Activity

Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I also see her in dreams sometimes but when I wake up I hardly remember anything. Initially I was not able to sleep and used to wake up in nights but then life got busy in other things and I started sleeping properly.  Everybody of us hope to…"
16 minutes ago
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Something I have noticed is that the content of a dream may not be a big deal, but what you are feeling in the dream is where the power comes from. The dream I had was horrible. It was so short, but I had a sick feeling in my stomach throughout.…"
11 hours ago
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I dream about my Mom & Dad & thankfully they are always good dreams that are comforting.  An Aunt that I was close to is in a lot of the dreams with my parents.  I have one sibling. He is never in the dreams of my parents.  I…"
17 hours ago
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I rarely dream about my mom. When I do dream about her it is almost always bad. I had a horrible dream last night. It was very short. I was standing near the front door of my mom's house. I looked down to greet my dog. There was a little puppy…"
yesterday
Lauren A Fernandez is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
yesterday
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thanks Nancy, I am sure everyone in our group can relate."
yesterday
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Yes we have no choice but to live without our mothers. Grief and guilt will be there through out and some days will be really hard than others. Yesterday was pathetic for me as my father said something that really hit me. I hope to see my mother…"
Sunday
Nancy commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Love this Linda.  Thanks for posting it. "
Sunday
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
Sunday
Nancy commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I relate to you all who have posted lately.  2 years for me.  2nd year was worse than the first as reality set in and shock lessened.  I am still in a trauma state of mind.  Forgetful, irritable, less patient.  I isolate…"
Saturday
Deanna N Nash added a discussion to the group surviving family members' murders
Thumbnail

Nothing feels real

My husband was brutly murdered 6 day ago and nothing feels real to me I'm still waiting to wake up or him to call me the pain is unbearable I don't know if I can go on anymore
Saturday
Deanna N Nash commented on Susie H's group surviving family members' murders
"6 days ago my husband and soulmate was brutly murdered and everyday gets a little harder I haven't seen him yet he's held up at the corners and I'm terrified to see him but I need to see him to convince my mind that this is real and…"
Saturday
Deanna N Nash joined Susie H's group
Saturday
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Robin, thank you.  Bluebird was the honesty that i discovered on this site that made it possible for me to express what I go through.  Several others who write let me know too.  I tend to reach out here, particularly when I am…"
Saturday
Robin commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi Morgan - I lost my husband John, 9 years ago, when he was 46.  I come to this website every now & then, but have only commented a few times.  I relate most to you and Bluebird.  I can't believe it's been 9 years, and…"
Saturday
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I really don't know what to say to all the newer people who come here looking for help and comfort because I have struggled for years. I did find an article written by a psychotherapist just the other day that made some sense to me about the…"
Saturday
Sharon batten posted a discussion

Missing my true love

My partner died 14 weeks ago and I am struggling big time without her, we been together for 10 years and now I have nothing left,
Friday
Sharon batten left a comment for Sharon batten
"I hate my life without her now I miss her so much, we been together for 10 years and now I have nothing left"
Friday
Profile IconSharon batten, Eileen A. Palazza, Deanna N Nash and 2 more joined Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Friday
Kathleen Jordan posted photos
Friday

© 2019   Created by Ninja.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service