I FEEL LIKE WHEN I LOST MY HUSBAND I LOST EVERYTHING.MY LIFE STOPPED.AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO MOVE FORWARD.I MISS HIM EVERYDAY AND CRY FOR HIM EVERYDAY.I ASK GOD EVERYDAY TO PLEASE BRING HIM BACK.WHEN HE PASSED AWAY ALL OF OUR FRIENDS STOPPED CALLING,STOPPED COMMING BY.AND MY FAMILY MEMBERS,ALL THEY CAN SAY IS YOU'LL BE ALRIGHT,DON'T THINK ABOUT.AND I'M ALONE AND THAT'S ALL I DO.THINK ABOUT IT...SO I THOUGHT MAYBE I COULD GET SOME SUPPORT HERE FROM PEOPLE WHO ARE GOING THROUGH THE SAMETHING I AM..

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Comment by irwin Dresner on July 5, 2012 at 8:00pm

HI NANCY,  I FORGOT THAT I REPLIED TO YOU ON MONDAY ON THIS SUBJECT.  IRWIN   

Comment by NANCY KING MOORE on July 5, 2012 at 7:55pm

THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT IRWIN.I HAVN'T BEEN LOGGED ON IN A FEW DAYS.I JUST WANTED TO SLEEP THROUGH THE HOLIDAY.I FEEL LIKE I TAKE TWO STEPS FORWARD AND THREE STEPS BACK.TOMMOROW WILL BE ONE YEAR SINCE WE BOUGHT THIS HOME,AND HE ONLY GOT TO BE HERE WITH ME 4 MONTHS TO THE DAY.FEELS LIKE SUCH A WASTE SOMETIMES..

Comment by irwin Dresner on July 5, 2012 at 7:36pm

HI NANCY,  I AM IN THE SAME BOAT.  SINCE MY WIFE DIED MY NEIBORS DO NO EVEN SMILE OR SAY HELLO, I AM LUCKY IF MY CHILDREN CALL ME EVEN THOUGH THEY LIVE IN OTHER STATES AND THEY DO NOT SEEM TO CARE, I BEEN LIVING BY MYSELF FOR ALMOST 3 YEARS AND IT IS MAKING ME TOTALLY DEPRESSED.  BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAY THAT COMBAT WAS EASIER.  I CAN FEEL WHAT YOU ARE GOING THRU IN EVERYWAY.  I HAVE ALSO PRAYED TO BRING MY WIFE BACK. I WISH THAT I COULD GIVE YOU SUPPORT.   EVEN THOUGH I CALLED MY KIDS 2 DAYS AGO I HAVE RECEIVED NO CALL BACK AT ALL.    FEEL FREE TO WRITE TO ME,  I WILL GIVE YOU WHAT EVER SUPPORT I CAN.   HAVE A GOOD WEEK.     IRWIN   

Comment by KN on July 5, 2012 at 7:00pm

You aren't alone!  I feel the same way with the support...that there is none.  No one calls and I feel like I'm invisible.  No one can understand what you feel.  You try to drudge on, but you feel empty.  The only thing keeping me here was a promise I made to my son that I would never abandon him, but it is so hard!

Comment by NANCY KING MOORE on July 1, 2012 at 8:43pm

IRWIN, THANK YOU FOR YOUR COMMENT.AFTER I READ IT I THOUGHT TO MYSELF,IT WILL NEVER GET EASIER. THIS MAN HAS BEEN GRIEVING FOR 3 YEARS.. 

Comment by irwin Dresner on July 1, 2012 at 7:46pm

Hi Nancy, I can understand what you are going thru.  My wife passed away almost 3 years ago. My children live in other states.  My friends no longer call, my neighbors who were friendly before she passed do not even smile or say hello.  my children who live in other states hadly call me even  though they know that I am alone.   I have no problem cooking because I did most of the cooking during my married life.  I certainly can understand what you are going thru.  I am suffering from continues grief even though I had gone for help a number of times.  For me its almost 3 years and my grief is bad.   I am an army veteran and I can say that combat was easier.  I been on a few of the dating websites but I am convinced that they are scams.  I keep busy writing poems.You can see a number of them by puting into google  IRWIN DRESNER POET.

I wish you all the luck in the world and that things get better for you.   Have a good week.

IRWIN

 

Comment by NANCY KING MOORE on July 1, 2012 at 5:23pm

BLUE EYES CRYING FINALY SOMEONE WHO IS FEELING THE SAME AS ME.HIS FAMILY ALL LIVE WITHIN 4 MILES AND THEY DON'T REMEMBER ME.IT'S SAD.I TOO PRAY EVERYDAY THAT THIS WOULD BE THE DAY THAT I DIE SO I CAN BE WITH HIM AGAIN.I ALSO SPEND EVERYDAY ALONE.I DON'T WORK BECAUSE I AM DISABLED.MAYBE IF I HAD SOME PLACE TO GO EVERYDAY THIS MIGHT BE EASIER I DON'T KNOW.I WISH I COULD BE A COMFORT TOO YOU ALSO,IT IS GOOD THAT WE ALEAST REACHED OUT TO ONE ANOTHER I GUESS.

Comment by Blue Eyes Crying on July 1, 2012 at 2:35pm

I can understand. My husband was everything inb the world to me. Everything I had. He left me 10 months ago and now I am cut off by everyone. I spend every day alone, just waiting to die, praying that today might finally be the day. There is nothing but emptiness and his family that lives right down the road has dumped me. They don't call, don't invite me to things, don't remember I'm alive. I knew this would be bad, but I never dreamed how bad. Life is so empty. So purposeless. I wish I could be more supportive, but all I can say is I know what you are going through. I know how bad it hurts. I know how terrible it is to desperately want a solution when there is none.

Comment by NANCY KING MOORE on July 1, 2012 at 10:55am

DEBRA I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.I LOST MY HUSBAND TO CANCER BACK IN DECEMBER.IT SEEMS LIKE ONLY YESTERDAY.IN 5 DAYS IT WILL BE ONE YEAR SINCE WE BOUGHT OUR FIRST HOME,IT WAS EVERYTHING WE EVER WANTED.HE ONLY GOT TO BE HERE WITH ME FOR 4 MONTHS TO THE DAY.THIS PLACE IS SO BIG AND EMPTY WITHOUT HIM,BUT I TRY TO GO ON.I AM WORKING ON A MEMORIAL GARDEN FOR HIM AS I TOLD HIM I WOULD BEFORE HE PASSED AWAY.HE PASSED AWAY HERE AT HOMEAND SOMETIMES I FLASH BACK TO THE NIGHT HE PASSED AND PLAY IT OVER IN MY MIND AND I SAY I SHOULD HAVE DONE THIS OR I SHOULD HAVE DONE THAT.KNOWING THERE REALLY WASN'T ANYTHING I COULD DO.

Comment by Debra Waszut on July 1, 2012 at 7:29am

I lost my husband 6 weeks ago and I can understand exactly how you feel.  What happened?  My husband died for a sudden and unexpected heart attack  age of 54.  I feel lost without him but I am learning that this is my new reality and I have to pick myself up. I am keeping busy doing things on the house that we planned to do but never got to.  Think of how he would want you to be carrying on with your life.  My husband loved me so much and I know that. His love is keeping me strong and holding me up and I hang on to this whenever I get really down.  When did it hapen?

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