Choosing POSITIVE self talk, eliminating NEGATIVE. HEALING SELF patterns and life experience.

It´s one of those things so much easier said than done. At days I st myself in the challenge to only SPEAK positive. Well it´s near IMPOSSIBLE to say and think good all the time because the peers, events and stuations demand from us different. It´s more possible when I am away from people and the interactions. Doctors visits for instance. People and this world is in most cases so deeply ROOTED into a NEGATIVE dynamics that we feel quite compelled to complain back just because in order not to do that, we would let they have their way and take anything they want from us. It´s a whole new mindset to try scaping the traps of negative back from the much negative feed we receive and to give better makes them think everything is perfect and therefore we would need to help them out, when we are barely SAVING self from negative. I find that SOLITUDE is a MUST to change the pattern of what we attract. We won´t change people and where they are going necesssarily. We might start being sucked into their negative trap, and that will pull back exactly what we are working to depart from. And seems whenever we want to change vibration, all the people complaining around want more than ever outr company. Although we fully know that will be in detrient of where we are going, in order for them to get a quick fix in their negativity. I am learnin to go separate ways, and sometimes I change to route of dog walks or say I can´t go for this and that, just because AT THIS MOMENT in time my OWN COMPANY works best. And MEDITATION, to settle the mind and spirit...and body into this energy that can HEAL ME. It´s a fact that a lot of people want to just complain, but not take an active role into feeling better from OWN ENERGY of life. And I look at attitudes and behaviours in a manner of love, but something that I have to ask God to take good care of them and myself and recycle the bad vibs. Some times, the mere presence of someone drives us back and they don´t know...we are all doing the best we can with what we have. See from my perspective however. I need the pain to go and by dismissing patterns of negative embrace this healing process that goes much beyond loosing the dear ones. It´s about regaining grounds in my own existence to surpass the suffering I have endured and find a better means to coexist in better alignment with the soul and eliminate all possible that create the conditions to pain. It´s really not about others. My sufferings are ALL MINE. But there is something to be said about how change can happen and what time must take for outer to express inward talks and go off automatic drive of the many patterns programmed from birth and family issues that brought me far but still have some chains to break, disrupt, break free. And safety for this will come over time. Mental causes and patterns and conditions have to become something real and more firm so I can give out better than jerk knee reaction type of situation. And the reality check is that I can´t heal the world, friends and whoever without doing ME first. Can´t give what I don´t have. Searching fopr a deeper sense of peace and experience in the reals of the LIVING, the more I go, the more I learn that interactions must be shorter to sort out the channels of energy per say without having to dismiss people necessarily. It´s like this. Excuse myself, and mentally give this situation and the people LOVE and give all to God. And newer interactions will eventually shift in the nature and quality until it does one of the 2, goes into positive or people are drown to others more interested in the drama and all. LOVE TO ALL, ahead of us and all around and within, that´s the part I want to aknowledge for that will depend the quality of te day and things, people and events I ewill meet and interact to be in REAL BENEFIT. 

Here is my suggestion for guided meditation today. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eBGaVDJyU5A

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