~ Joyous Reunions With Deceased Loved Ones ~
©1995; by Bill Guggenheim & Judy Guggenheim

co-authors of Hello From Heaven! published by Bantam Books

Have you been contacted by a loved one who has died? After-death communication (ADC) is probably as old as mankind, but ours is the first complete research study of this field. These spiritual experiences are extremely common, and in many other parts of the world they are discussed openly and freely.

Between 1988 & 1995, we interviewed 2,000 people who live in all fifty American states and the ten Canadian provinces. Ranging in age from children to the elderly, they represent diverse social, educational, economic, occupational, and religious backgrounds. We conservatively estimate that at least 50 million Americans, or 20% of the population, have had one or more ADC experiences – and the actual numbers may be closer to double these figures!

We collected more than 3,300 firsthand accounts of ADCs from people who have been contacted by a deceased family member or friend. These are spontaneous and direct communications that may occur anytime and anywhere, but no third parties such as psychics, mediums, hypnotists, or devices of any kind are involved.

Based upon our research, the following are the twelve most frequent types of after-death communication people report having with their deceased loved ones:

Sensing A Presence: This is the most common form of contact. But many people discount these experiences, thinking, "Oh, I'm just imagining this." It's a distinct feeling that your loved one is nearby, even though he or she can't be seen or heard. Though most often felt during the days and weeks immediately after the death, you may sense his or her presence months and even years later.

Hearing A Voice: Some people state they hear an external voice, the same as when a living person is speaking to them. However, the majority of communications are by telepathy – you hear the voice of your relative or friend in your mind. When you have two-way communication, it is usually by telepathy. In fact, it's possible to have an entire conversation this way.

Feeling A Touch: You may feel your loved one touch you with his or her hand, or place an arm around your shoulders or back, for comfort and reassurance. You may feel a tap, a pat, a caress, a stroke, a kiss, or even a hug. These are all forms of affection, nurturing, and love.

Smelling A Fragrance: You may smell your relative's or friend's favorite cologne, after-shave lotion, or perfume. Other common aromas are: flowers (especially roses), bath powders, tobacco products, favorite foods, and his or her personal scent.

Visual Experiences: There are a wide variety of visual experiences, which we have divided into two broad categories: partial visual and full visual ADCs. Appearances range from "a transparent mist" to "absolutely solid" with many gradations in between. You may see only the head and shoulders of your relative or friend, or someone you love may make a full appearance to you, and you will see the entire body as well, which will appear completely solid. Some visual ADCs occur in the bedroom, next to or at the foot of the bed. Others may happen anywhere – indoors or outdoors – even in a car or aboard a plane. Typically he or she will be expressing love and well-being with a radiant smile. Loved ones virtually always appear healed and whole regardless of their cause of death. Verbal communication may take place, but not always.

Visions: You may see an image of a deceased loved one in a "picture" that is either two-dimensional and flat or three-dimensional like a hologram. It's like seeing a 35 mm slide or a movie suspended in the air. Visions are usually in radiant colors and may be seen externally with your eyes open or internally in your mind. Communication may occur, especially during meditation.

Twilight Experiences: These occur in the alpha state – as you're falling asleep, waking up, meditating, or praying. You may have any or all of the above types of experiences while you are in this state of consciousness.

ADC Experiences While Asleep: Sleep-state ADCs are much more vivid, intense, colorful, and real than dreams. They are very common. Both one-way and two-way communications are typical. You usually feel your loved one is with you in person – that you're having an actual visit together. These experiences are not jumbled, filled with symbols, or fragmented the way dreams are.

Sleep-state ADCs are similar to those that occur when you are wide awake. Your relative or friend can come to you more easily, however, when you are relaxed, open, and receptive, such as while you are in the alpha state or asleep.

Out-Of-Body ADCs: These may occur while you are asleep or in a meditative state. They are dramatic experiences during which you leave your body and often visit your loved one at the place or level where he or she exists. These are extremely vivid, intense, and real – some say, "more real than physical life." The environments usually contain beautiful flowers and butterflies, colorful bushes and trees, radiant lighting, and other lovely aspects of nature – and are filled with happiness, love, and joy.

Telephone Calls:
These ADCs may occur during sleep or when you are wide awake. You will hear a phone ringing, and if you answer it, your loved one will give you a short message. Two-way conversations are possible. His or her voice will usually be clear but may seem far away. If you are awake, you will probably not hear a disconnect sound or a dial tone when the call is completed.

Physical Phenomena: People who are bereaved often report receiving a wide variety of physical signs from their deceased relative or friend, such as: lights or lamps blinking on and off; lights, radios, televisions, stereos, and mechanical objects being turned on; photographs, pictures, and various other items being turned over or moved; and a long list of "things that go bump in the night."

Symbolic ADCs: People frequently ask a Higher Power, the universe, or their deceased loved one for a sign that he or she still exists. Many receive such a sign, though it may take some time to arrive. Occasionally these signs are so subtle they may be missed, or they may be discounted as mere "coincidences." Common signs include: butterflies, rainbows, many species of birds and animals, flowers, and a variety of inanimate objects such as coins and pictures.

According to our research, the purpose of these visits and signs by those who have died is to offer comfort, reassurance, and hope to their parents, spouse, siblings, children, grandchildren, other family members, and friends. They want you to know they're still alive and that you'll be reunited with them when it's your time to leave this physical life on earth – and they'll be there to greet you when you make your transition. Their most frequent messages, expressed verbally or non-verbally, include:

"I'm okay ... I'm fine ... Everything is okay ... Don't worry about me ...

Don't grieve for me ... Please let me go ... I'm happy ... Everything will be all right ...

Go on with your life ... Please forgive ... Thank you ... I'll always be there for you ...

I'm watching over you ... I'll see you again ... I love you ... Good-bye ..."

You may be asked to give a message from your loved one to somebody else. We urge you to write down the message verbatim and to deliver it, if possible, because it may help the recipient far more than you realize.

Nearly all ADCs are positive, joyful, and uplifting encounters that reduce grief, provide lasting comfort and hope, and accelerate emotional and spiritual healing. We encourage you to trust your own experiences and to accept them as being real for you.

Unfortunately, some people react with fear when they have an ADC. This is usually because they are startled by the suddenness of the event, or they may have never heard of one happening to anybody else. Such people may assume they are "losing their mind and going crazy." And others find it difficult to reconcile after-death communications with their philosophical or religious beliefs.

Not all people are contacted by their deceased loved ones. We don't know for certain why some are and some aren't, but it seems that fear, anger, and prolonged heavy grief inhibit the possibility of having an ADC.

Based upon our research, we suggest the following: Ask for a sign that your relative or friend continues to exist. Pray for him or her and others who are affected by the death, including yourself. We recommend that you learn how to meditate, especially if you are currently bereaved or have unresolved grief. Meditation will enable you to relax and soften any fear or anger you may have. It will reduce your depression, improve your ability to eat and sleep, and facilitate your healing process. These deep relaxation exercises will also allow you to unfold your inner, intuitive senses. In fact, you may have an ADC experience while you are meditating.

Our research indicates that after-death communications are a natural and normal part of life. Therefore, we feel ADCs deserve the same public awareness and acceptance that near-death experiences (NDEs) have already received.

For most people, an after-death communication from a deceased family member or friend is valued as a sacred and profound experience that will be cherished for a lifetime. ADC experiences usually expand one's understanding of life and offer a deeper awareness of life after death. They consistently communicate an essential spiritual message: "Life and love are eternal."

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Comment by JO B on January 27, 2017 at 5:05pm
Comment by JO B on January 20, 2017 at 8:42am

had a dream wen i had a npa i saw my dad for abot min but he lookt grt full of engy mor thn we hav flr real

Comment by JO B on January 7, 2017 at 5:14pm

luv washin his show colin fry sad he died coz he wz si gud just hop ths likk i post wz ok im sorry if i carz upset 2 anyy 1 on hear

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Comment by Angela on December 27, 2016 at 7:35pm

After Ken went into a coma and brain function had ceased, palliative care measures were started and I laid next to him when he was extubated.  It did not take long for him to pass quietly and peacefully.  The doctor came in and determined he was gone, and called the time of death at 5:18 pm.  This was central time zone.  At 3:18 pm in Los Angeles, same moment, the lights went out at the church where our newest grandson was being baptized.  No electricity for the rest of the ceremony.  Ken had said he would be there!  Everyone there knew it was his spirit coming to see his grandson that he never held.  Then the day after his funeral I was walking from a playground with our other grandson, age 5, and on the lawn was a single plumeria flower.  It's the kind they make Hawaiian leis with.  Ken and I went to Oahu last Feb and tried to plan on going back in Oct, but his health was failing.  He died Oct 9th.  There was not a plumeria plant around.  Trace cupped it in his little hands and wanted to surprise his mom, Ken's daughter.  Just as we walked in the apartment, the photo slideshow they were watching (his son produced for the funeral) just started showing photos from our hawaiian trip!  I believe God sent His angels to produce these messages to show us His love and to comfort us, to let us know Ken was with Him.  I love these, I feel a joy when I retell the stories.  I wish it would stay.

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Comment by JO B on November 6, 2016 at 5:25pm

wen i wz burnn inses stiks i got ths tell me if im mad so on

it wz wear my dad usd 2 sit

Comment by Susan Smith on November 5, 2016 at 4:59am
Thank you Dolly. I have no one to talk to about my losses I think that is the problem and people move on and think you have too. No one can research anything like this but I believe they are trying to tell us something as I feel they sense our sadness. My Mam had very bad dementia and bladder cancer when she died, I was with her for hours the few hours before she died she kept reaching for something. She never remembered my Dads name but before she died she kept calling his name I knew he was coming for her, I have never told anyone this as like you say people think it's your mind playing tricks. I'm sorry about your Son I hope you are ok and get comfort from coming here.
Comment by Dolly on November 4, 2016 at 7:18pm

My mom was a happy loving person.. we will always miss her terribly.. and I don't share the experiences I've had since she died with hardly anyone outside of here because I can't stand it when they don't believe it and make light of it or say its just my mind playing tricks because I feel that is like spitting in the Face of God Who can do anything He wants and Who loves us and our loved ones who have gone to be with Him more than we can understand and I will never put down something God does or allows that brings me comfort about mom... or my son who passed away in 2013.. or any of the others I have lost and have had different 'assurances' from heaven that they are somehow still with me on some level.. so I keep the stories mostly in here where others have had some similar experiences and where others have tender broken hearts like mine and are not so quick to say I'm crazy or delusional.. this is a good place mostly... sometime someone comes in to try to hurt others or cause trouble but they get shut down really quickly by either the other members or the administrators so it is a really safe place...

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