Deeply saddened when alcoholic boyfriend died suddenly. We were together 4 yrs. The last 1 1/2 he was over drinking. 2 weeks before his death he showed thinking confusion and was leaving me horrible mean messages on phone. So I ignored him 2 weeks. When I tried to call no answer. Then his friend came over told me he died.
No warning, no closure, severe grief!
How can I get through this?
I hope there are some answers.

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Comment by Carrie on July 30, 2018 at 9:27am
Thanks Billy Jo
Let’s talk more.
Comment by Billy Jo Colt on July 29, 2018 at 6:16pm

Hi Carrie, my girlfriend dieed 5 years ago. She lived in ~Canada and I live in Scotland. I visited her often because she couldn't travel. She had type 1 diabetes and caught a cross contamination in a foot wound. She was attending a wound clinic that passed on the infection. Sadly she died within 3 days. Her funeral was arranged so quickly, I didn't have time to go out there to say goodbye properly. A few months afterwards, I went slowly downhill and found myself in a Clinical depression. Life wasn't worth living. Although i'm on the other side of me coming to terms with my loss. I miss her every single day. Sorry to say, there is no easy answer. Grief is a very personal thing. I do feel for your loss as we share that pain and the emotions surrounding our loss. It is simply one day at atime, often one minute, or one hour, or one second at a time. Hereis a big huggg from Scotland, John

Comment by Carrie on July 29, 2018 at 8:14am
Hi Anne, thanks for reply. Yes it is a constant struggle when unexpected.
I am seeking counseling to learn how to get over all of the wondering if I could’ve done something more to help him. Been 1 month. Sorry for your loss too. I guess we just gotta get up and out. New sights do break up some of the depressed moments.
Carrie

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