April 2011 Blog Posts (27)

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The Second Principle of the Journey: Be Expressive

Day 44



Express your tears and your pain. In order to move on, you cannot push down and pocket your emotions; they must be fully communicated for you to heal.



"Everyone cries," says Dr. H. Norman Wright. "Everyone sheds tears. Some people do it on the outside, but some are only capable of doing it on the inside. From a health perspective, the shedding of tears is… Continue

Added by Julie Ann Finch on April 29, 2011 at 5:35am — No Comments

A long and winding road

I'm confused and lonely. I'm sad and dejected. I miss her. I couldn't stop crying this afternoon. I'm not sure what comes next.

 

Added by DJ on April 27, 2011 at 11:45pm — No Comments

from a friend

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Added by Julie Ann Finch on April 27, 2011 at 2:13pm — No Comments

A little 8 yr. old boy went home to be with Jesus today.

A little boy passed away today. His name was Cody, and he was innocent. He had a Liver disease that was inherited genetically. It was called Allegilles Syndrome. He has lived his whole life as a sick little boy, always jaundiced. My youngest son was involved with his mother, and came to love that little boy more than he thought possible. He is still grieving the loss of his brother a year ago April 30. He takes comfort in the fact that Shawn is there to meet Cody. Please pray for Cody's parents… Continue

Added by Peggy Jeanine Woody on April 26, 2011 at 9:14pm — 1 Comment

Reality struck again

I heard something today and the first thing I thought of/tried to do was turn to Lisa and say "Can you believe blah blah blah. Doesn't that sound really good?" And then reality hit me upside the head. Lisa wasn't there. She hadn't just gone to the bathroom to return imminently. She was not present in body and was not destined to return. My heart hurt and I felt like I just fell in a long big dark deep well. I'm ok. I'm just sad. Tomorrow is another day. Thankfully I live in Phoenix so it's most… Continue

Added by DJ on April 25, 2011 at 1:30am — No Comments

A sunny day alone...

My dear Becky boy....

Another day without you and it hasn't been any easier. The sun is shining, the birds are chirping, and I'm sitting here thinking about how much you would enjoy today. I can just imagine you laying flat out on the grass, with the warmth of the sun shining down on you. You loved that spot in front of the…

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Added by Amy S on April 24, 2011 at 12:30pm — No Comments

2 Days and Counting...

It has been two days since I put my beloved dalmatian dog, Beckett, to sleep. Grief and guilt have overcome me and I'm finding it hard to function in my daily duties. Some people may question why this is so hard... just a dog right? Not Beckett - he was our son. My husband Tom and I adopted him as a pup when we bought our first place together. We don't have children and Beckett was our son. …

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Added by Amy S on April 23, 2011 at 8:03pm — No Comments

They say, They say, They say

They say what doesnt kill ya makes ya stronger. They say that every dog has its day. They say that time heals all wounds.I've been told that in order to move on you have to pull yourself up by your bootstraps.They say they say they say. I have heard so many of these anticdotes and cliches over the years that i could write a book  the jproblem is that when you are in greif the only thing these sayings manage to do is make a person angry. As if losing someone you love doesnt piss you off enough.… Continue

Added by anne on April 22, 2011 at 11:09pm — 1 Comment

Unreal

It's been two and a half months since Ariel killed herself.  Sometimes it still feels very unreal, like it's somehow not what it should be.  It's hard to FEEL like it's real, even though I intellectually know I haven't seen her in that long and that a lot of her stuff is gone and I've got a copy of the M.E.'s report on the examination of her body and her ashes are on a shelf in my office.  It just is hard to consistently get and stay next to.  I don't know how much of that is from how much…

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Added by Sean Casey on April 22, 2011 at 8:34pm — 2 Comments

Judgment

Question: What makes anyone think that after a month that I would stop missing him? I am finding more and more that people are very understanding for the first week or so when you feel like life has really thrown you a curve ball, but less and less as time goes on. I am not even talking about uncontrollable crying or crippling depression, just bring him up or getting misty eyed when mentioning that you don't know how you are going to cope with the holidays this year. It makes people wonder…

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Added by Marian Johnson on April 15, 2011 at 3:29pm — 2 Comments

Dream

I dreamed last night that my Papa was alive, but conditionally. It felt like we all knew he would have to go again soon, so the urgency made us try to make the best of the limited time.

It was Christmas and we stayed together for days, with no one leaving. Then my Papa proposed to my mother again, so they could renew their vows. It meant so much to us all and gave us hope. But before the day was through he was gone again. It hurt so much more in the dream, to have him again, then to…

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Added by Crystal Ann Spaulding on April 13, 2011 at 9:55am — No Comments

Comfort From Above

This poem may have already been posted here, but I found it and have been helped immensly by it.  I thought I would once again share it.  It is not one that I have written. I hope it blesses you as much as it has blessed me.

 

 

 

MESSAGE FROM HEAVEN

To My Dear Family Some things I'd like to say,

But first of all to let you know That I arrived okay. 

I'm writing this from Heaven Where I dwell with God above, 

Where there's no more tears or…

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Added by Peggy Jeanine Woody on April 13, 2011 at 12:20am — 2 Comments

A good book sometimes is a great escape

Read books that will UPLIFT and INSPIRE it really helps.

I recommend a novel to you that had me laughing out loud and gave me joy.: Barefoot Through the Goathead Patch by Ken Jarman.

This hilarious novel chronicles the adventures of Timmy, a mischievous young boy in the mid 1900s who finds trouble around every turn. …

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Added by coachlouise on April 11, 2011 at 3:53pm — No Comments

Anger

I do not know how to cope with this loss. I do not know how to function like a regular person, when I feel I have been altered permanently. I am filled with rage. Patience is not a virtue I was born with, and now I am pushed to the limit. Having a two year old son while going through this grieving process seems like an impossible juxtaposition.

 

I remember my brother's laugh, his expressions, his face and am jolted to my core with the realization that his being gone is…

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Added by Arielle on April 11, 2011 at 1:20pm — No Comments

SAD -WITHOUT JOY

I wish  I coul say I  had a close relationship with my parents  like many here but did not -They were quite dysfunctional. But my  husband Howard, who died May 2010 was my ALL  Pal, lover, husband,confidant, supporter of my dreams- at times even a  parental figure since I had none. No one loved me like he did . I dream of him I  think of our happy times  over 47 yrs . Then my heart sinks when I realize I will not see him  ever again. I am not one who believes our…

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Added by dianne Ribbentrop on April 11, 2011 at 10:40am — No Comments

Missing more than one.

My sister had me join this blog so that I could get some emotions out without burdening complete strangers, which I do often.

So here I go again. I feel like I lost more than my father I lost my mother as well. My mom has always worked and my father was the one who raised us. My mom had trouble relating to us, becasue of severe anxiety. SO my dad filled both roles at home. Now that he is gone it is apparent how little we actually had of our mother and now what remains is just an empty…

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Added by Crystal Ann Spaulding on April 9, 2011 at 1:41pm — 2 Comments

woah!

Hello to myself and everyone,

I am struggling with the idea that life goes on. Why? Why can't I take a sec? It hurts too much to just progress, I am not ready. But each day I have to function for my family, for my little ones. Then of course I feel heartless becasue I did. Doesn't my father deserve more?

 

Added by Crystal Ann Spaulding on April 9, 2011 at 1:31pm — 1 Comment

Love you Jason

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;

no disease that enough love will not heal;

no door that enough love will not open;

no gulf that enough love will not bridge;

no wall that enough love will not throw down;

no sin that enough love will not redeem...

It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble;

how hopeless the outlook; how muddled the tangle; how great the mistake.

A sufficient realization of love will…

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Added by Julie Ann Finch on April 8, 2011 at 2:36pm — No Comments

My first birthday without you

Working, if you can call it that, on another essay...I don't know how I can do that, as I can't see the key board.  My first birthday without you.  This time last year, you were so sick, but here.  I miss you so much.  Life is again, lifeless without you.  Just going through the motions 'till we are together again. 

 

I don't feel you fading away, I feel you right with me.  I hope that I'm not stopping you from the work that you need to do.  But I want to join you so bad, so…

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Added by Molly Smith on April 8, 2011 at 9:27am — No Comments

Coping with life

The day started off good, took the kids to school, exercised at the Y, watched a movie with a friend, back home to clean house and prepare dinner.  I seems like sometimes it was just a bad dream that I let go on for too long. Then my mom calls to talk about selling the family home, money, care for the grandparents, and POP goes the fairy tale bubble I've been playing around in. I can't cope anymore.  I listen but I am not there, I feel like I can't breathe and I have the urge to hang of the… Continue

Added by Marian Johnson on April 7, 2011 at 8:46pm — No Comments

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