Mike H.'s Posts - Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-29T06:39:39ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeHhttp://storage.ning.com/topology/rest/1.0/file/get/2787791816?profile=RESIZE_48X48&width=48&height=48&crop=1%3A1http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profiles/blog/feed?user=3n5gn4t5mdc4o&xn_auth=noWhat happens when a person dies?tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-09-29:2054931:BlogPost:3269082018-09-29T12:37:25.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p style="margin: 0px;"><font face="Calibri" size="3">The pain of losing a loved one in death is unlike any other. What tends to add to the grief is the unknown. What happens when a person dies? I find comfort in a Holy writing that states, “the dead know nothing at all”. (Ecc. 9:5) If the dead know nothing, how can they suffer?</font></p>
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<p style="margin: 0px;"><font face="Calibri" size="3">The pain of losing a loved one in death is unlike any other. What tends to add to the grief is the unknown. What happens when a person dies? I find comfort in a Holy writing that states, “the dead know nothing at all”. (Ecc. 9:5) If the dead know nothing, how can they suffer?</font></p>
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<p>Well, I sure hope so. What a joy it would be to see them again. It would take a miracle, but is this possible? The Scriptures speak of a resurrection of the dead (John 5: 28,29). There are also nine Scriptural examples of people rising from the dead.* I hold on to the hope of one day seeing them again!</p>
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<p>*1 Kings 17:17-24; 2 Kings 4:32-37; 13:20, 21; Matthew 28:5-7; Luke 7:11-17; 8:40-56; John 11:39-43; Acts 9:36-42; and 20:7-12.</p>
<p>Well, I sure hope so. What a joy it would be to see them again. It would take a miracle, but is this possible? The Scriptures speak of a resurrection of the dead (John 5: 28,29). There are also nine Scriptural examples of people rising from the dead.* I hold on to the hope of one day seeing them again!</p>
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<p>*1 Kings 17:17-24; 2 Kings 4:32-37; 13:20, 21; Matthew 28:5-7; Luke 7:11-17; 8:40-56; John 11:39-43; Acts 9:36-42; and 20:7-12.</p>Are my loved ones suffering after death?tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-09-09:2054931:BlogPost:3265722018-09-09T13:31:58.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p>After the death of a loved one, I always wondered were they suffering after death. It is interesting to note that the Holy writings state "the dead know nothing at all" (Ec. 9:5) It is comforting to know that my dead loved ones are not suffering and for that matter, cannot cause any suffering. This Scriptural teaching has provided so much relief for me and many others.</p>
<p>After the death of a loved one, I always wondered were they suffering after death. It is interesting to note that the Holy writings state "the dead know nothing at all" (Ec. 9:5) It is comforting to know that my dead loved ones are not suffering and for that matter, cannot cause any suffering. This Scriptural teaching has provided so much relief for me and many others.</p>Receiving and Providing Supporttag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-09-01:2054931:BlogPost:3264262018-09-01T11:18:32.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p>As with many people, when I lose a loved one in death I seek support. Rightfully so, the death of a loved can be the most difficult time of a person's life. I also would like to take this opportunity to relay to others the same support I received. This support may provide comfort for others as it did for me. When a person dies, the questions that come to my mind are:</p>
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<p>As with many people, when I lose a loved one in death I seek support. Rightfully so, the death of a loved can be the most difficult time of a person's life. I also would like to take this opportunity to relay to others the same support I received. This support may provide comfort for others as it did for me. When a person dies, the questions that come to my mind are:</p>
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<p>What do you think? What questions come to your mind?</p>Why Go On Living? - Reason 3 of 3, Because There is Hopetag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-07-03:2054931:BlogPost:3242022018-07-03T12:37:27.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p id="p4">Life is filled with trouble. Today, everyone is touched by tragedy of one sort or another. But some people feel utterly hopeless about life, as if there were no light on the horizon, no prospect for a better future. Is that how you feel? If so, be assured that the Bible offers genuine hope—not just for you but for all humankind. For example:</p>
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<p id="p4">Life is filled with trouble. Today, everyone is touched by tragedy of one sort or another. But some people feel utterly hopeless about life, as if there were no light on the horizon, no prospect for a better future. Is that how you feel? If so, be assured that the Bible offers genuine hope—not just for you but for all humankind. For example:</p>
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<li><p id="p5">The Bible teaches that God intended something far better for us.—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/genesis/1/#v1001028" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Genesis 1:28</a>.</p>
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<li><p id="p6">God promises to make our earth a paradise.—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/isaiah/65/#v23065021-v23065025" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Isaiah 65:21-25</a>.</p>
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<li><p id="p7">The fulfillment of that promise is certain. <a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/revelation/21/#v66021003-v66021004" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Revelation 21:3, 4</a> says:</p>
<p id="p8">“The tent of God is with mankind, and he will reside with them, and they will be his people. And God himself will be with them. And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”</p>
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<p id="p9">That hope is not mere wishful thinking. God fully purposes to bring it to reality, and he has both the power and the desire to do so. The hope that the Bible holds out is reliable, and it provides a strong answer to the question “Why go on?”</p>
<p id="p10">REMEMBER THIS: Although your emotions may toss and turn like a boat on a turbulent sea, the Bible’s message of hope can be like an anchor that keeps you stabilized.</p>
<p id="p11">WHAT YOU CAN DO TODAY: Start investigating what the Bible teaches about a genuine hope for the future.</p>Why Go On Living? - Reason 2 of 3, Because There is Helptag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-06-23:2054931:BlogPost:3238632018-06-23T12:00:00.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p id="p4"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Death can seem preferable to life when you feel that there is nothing you can do to improve your situation. But consider some avenues of help that are available to you.</span></p>
<p id="p5"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Prayer</strong>. Prayer is not merely some psychological crutch; nor is it a last resort for desperate souls. It is real communication with Jehovah God, who cares about you. Jehovah wants you to tell him your concerns. In fact,…</span></p>
<p id="p4"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Death can seem preferable to life when you feel that there is nothing you can do to improve your situation. But consider some avenues of help that are available to you.</span></p>
<p id="p5"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Prayer</strong>. Prayer is not merely some psychological crutch; nor is it a last resort for desperate souls. It is real communication with Jehovah God, who cares about you. Jehovah wants you to tell him your concerns. In fact, the Bible urges us: “Throw your burden on Jehovah, and he will sustain you.”—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/psalms/55/#v19055022" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Psalm 55:22</a>.</span></p>
<p id="p6"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Why not talk to God in prayer today? Use his name, Jehovah, and speak from your heart. (<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/psalms/62/#v19062008" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Psalm 62:8</a>) Jehovah wants you to come to know him as a friend. (<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/isaiah/55/#v23055006" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Isaiah 55:6;</a> <a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/james/2/#v59002023" target="_blank" rel="noopener">James 2:23</a>) Prayer is an avenue of communication that can become available to you anytime, anywhere.</span></p>
<p id="p7"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong>People who care</strong>. Your life matters to others—including your family members or friends who may already have expressed concern for you. People who care also include some whom you may never have met. For example, at times in their ministry, Jehovah’s Witnesses encounter distraught people, some of whom have admitted that they were desperate for help and had considered ending their life. The door-to-door ministry has given Jehovah’s Witnesses a unique opportunity to help such people. Following Jesus’ example, Jehovah’s Witnesses care about their fellowman. They care about you.—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/john/13/#v43013035" target="_blank" rel="noopener">John 13:35</a>.</span></p>
<p id="p8"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Professional assistance.</strong> Suicidal thoughts often indicate the presence of a mood disorder, such as clinical depression. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you suffer from an emotional illness—any more than if you suffered from a physical illness. In fact, depression has been called “the common cold of the mind.” Just about anyone can get it—and it can be treated.</span></p>
<p id="p9"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong>REMEMBER THIS</strong>: It is usually not possible to climb out of a deep pit of depression by yourself. With a helping hand, however, you can succeed.</span></p>
<p id="p10"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong>WHAT YOU CAN DO TODAY</strong>: Seek out a reputable physician who treats mood disorders such as depression.</span></p>Why Go On Living? - Reason 1 of 3, Because Things Changetag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-06-19:2054931:BlogPost:3238272018-06-19T11:10:27.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p><span style="font-size: 12pt;">“We are hard-pressed in every way, but not cramped beyond movement; we are perplexed, but not absolutely with no way out.”—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/2-corinthians/4/#v47004008" rel="noopener" target="_blank">2 CORINTHIANS 4:8</a>.</span></p>
<div><div id="section1"><div><p id="p4"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Suicide has been called “a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” As hard as it may be to believe, a…</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 12pt;">“We are hard-pressed in every way, but not cramped beyond movement; we are perplexed, but not absolutely with no way out.”—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/2-corinthians/4/#v47004008" target="_blank" rel="noopener">2 CORINTHIANS 4:8</a>.</span></p>
<div><div id="section1"><div><p id="p4"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Suicide has been called “a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” As hard as it may be to believe, a distressing circumstance—even one that seems beyond your control—may well be temporary. In fact, it can change for the better unexpectedly.</span></p>
<p id="p5"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Even if that does not happen, it is best to tackle your problems one day at a time. “Never be anxious about the next day,” Jesus said, “for the next day will have its own anxieties. Each day has enough of its own troubles.”—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/matthew/6/#v40006034" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Matthew 6:34</a>.</span></p>
<p id="p6"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">But what if your circumstance cannot change? For example, suppose you have a chronic illness. Or what if your despair is the result of an irreversible situation, such as the breakup of a marriage or the death of a loved one?</span></p>
<p id="p7"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Even in such cases, there is something you can change: your outlook on the situation. By learning to accept what you cannot change, you become more likely to view things from a more positive standpoint. (<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/proverbs/15/#v20015015" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Proverbs 15:15</a>) You are also more likely to look for ways to cope with the situation rather than resort to drastic means to end it. The result? You start to take a measure of control of what seems to be an uncontrollable situation.—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/job/2/#v18002010" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Job 2:10</a>.</span></p>
<p id="p8"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">REMEMBER THIS: You cannot scale a mountain in a single step; however, you can take on the challenge one step at a time. The same is true of most obstacles you face, no matter how mountainlike they might seem to be.</span></p>
<p id="p9"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">WHAT YOU CAN DO TODAY: Talk to someone—perhaps a friend or a family member—about your situation. That person may be able to help you view your situation in a more balanced way.—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/proverbs/11/#v20011014" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Proverbs 11:14</a>.</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201404/go-on-living-change/">https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201404/go-on-living-change/</a></span></p>
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<div><div id="section1"><div><p id="p3">IF YOU met Diana,<span id="footnotesource1"> </span><a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201404/go-on-living-why/#footnote1">*</a> you would find her to be an intelligent, friendly, and gregarious young woman. But beneath Diana’s charming exterior lurks a crippling despair that leaves her feeling utterly worthless for days, weeks, or even months at a time. “Not a day goes by that I don’t think about dying,” she says. “I truly believe…</p>
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<div><div id="section1"><div><p id="p3">IF YOU met Diana,<span id="footnotesource1"> </span><a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201404/go-on-living-why/#footnote1">*</a> you would find her to be an intelligent, friendly, and gregarious young woman. But beneath Diana’s charming exterior lurks a crippling despair that leaves her feeling utterly worthless for days, weeks, or even months at a time. “Not a day goes by that I don’t think about dying,” she says. “I truly believe that the world would be a better place without me.”</p>
<div><p>“Some studies have shown that for every death by suicide, 200 people have attempted suicide and 400 [other] people have thought about it.”—THE GAZETTE, MONTREAL, CANADA.</p>
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<p id="p4">Diana says that she would never kill herself. Still, at times she sees little point in going on with life. “My greatest wish is to be killed in an accident,” she says. “I’ve come to view death as a friend—not an enemy.”</p>
<p id="p5">Many people can relate to Diana’s feelings, and some of them have contemplated—or attempted—suicide. Experts point out, however, that most people who try to kill themselves do not really want to end their life; they merely want to end their suffering. In short, they believe that they have a reason to die; what they need is a reason to live.</p>
<p id="p6">Why go on? Three reasons to keep living will be considered in the following blogs.</p>
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<p>FACT: Bringing the topic out into the open often helps a person with suicidal thoughts to consider other options.</p>
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</div>Teen Depression—Why? What Can Help?tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-05-28:2054931:BlogPost:3227392018-05-28T12:25:18.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p id="p3">WHEN I have a bout of depression,” says Anna,<span id="footnotesource1"> </span> “I have no motivation to do anything, not even the things I usually love to do. All I want to do is sleep. I often feel that I am unlovable, worthless, and a burden to others.”</p>
<p id="p4">“I thought about suicide,” recalls Julia. “I didn’t really want to die. I just wanted to stop feeling this way. I’m normally a caring person, but when I’m depressed, I care little about anyone or anything.”…</p>
<p id="p3">WHEN I have a bout of depression,” says Anna,<span id="footnotesource1"> </span> “I have no motivation to do anything, not even the things I usually love to do. All I want to do is sleep. I often feel that I am unlovable, worthless, and a burden to others.”</p>
<p id="p4">“I thought about suicide,” recalls Julia. “I didn’t really want to die. I just wanted to stop feeling this way. I’m normally a caring person, but when I’m depressed, I care little about anyone or anything.”</p>
<p id="p5">Anna and Julia were in their early teens when they first experienced depression. While other young people might occasionally feel down, Anna and Julia had periods of depression that persisted for weeks or months at a time. “It’s like being stuck in a deep, dark hole with no way out,” Anna says. “You feel like you are losing your mind, losing who you are.”</p>
<p id="p6">Anna and Julia’s situation is not uncommon. The diagnosis of depression among the young appears to be increasing at an alarming rate, and depression is “the predominant cause of illness and disability for both boys and girls aged 10 to 19 years,” says the World Health Organization (WHO).</p>
<p id="p7"><span id="page4"> </span>The symptoms of depression can appear during adolescence and may include changes in sleep patterns, appetite, and weight. Feelings of despair, hopelessness, sadness, and worthlessness may also appear. Other signs include social withdrawal, trouble concentrating or remembering, suicidal thoughts or actions, and medically unexplained symptoms. When mental-health professionals suspect depression, they usually look for groups of symptoms that persist for weeks and that disrupt a person’s everyday life.</p>
<p><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong>POSSIBLE CAUSES OF TEEN DEPRESSION</strong></span></p>
<div id="section2"><div><p id="p9">According to WHO, “depression results from a complex interaction of social, psychological and biological factors.” These may include the following.</p>
<p id="p10">Physical factors. As was true in Julia’s case, depression often runs in families, suggesting that genetics can play a role, perhaps affecting chemical activity in the brain. Other physical risk factors include cardiovascular disease and changing hormone levels, as well as ongoing substance abuse, which may intensify depression, if not give rise to it.</p>
<p id="p11">Stress. While a little stress can be healthy, chronic or excessive stress can be physically and psychologically harmful, sometimes to the point of plunging a susceptible, or biologically vulnerable, teen into depression. That said, the exact causes of depression remain unclear and may involve a combination of factors, as mentioned earlier.</p>
<p id="p12">Stress-related factors linked to depression may include parental divorce or separation, the death of a loved one, physical <span id="page5"> </span>or sexual abuse, a serious accident, illness, or a learning disability—especially if a child feels rejected as a result. A related factor may be unrealistically high parental expectations, perhaps in regard to scholastic achievement. Other possible causes are bullying, uncertainty about the future, emotional estrangement by a depressed parent, and parental unpredictability. If depression results, what may help a teen to cope?</p>
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<div><p id="p14">Moderate to severe depression is usually managed with medication and counseling by a mental-health professional.<span id="footnotesource3"> </span>Jesus Christ said: “Those who are strong do not need a physician, but those who are ill do.” (<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/mark/2/#v41002017" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Mark 2:17</a>) And illness can affect any part of our body, including our brain! Lifestyle changes may also be advisable because our mind and body are closely connected.</p>
<p id="p15">If you suffer from depression, take reasonable measures to care for your physical and mental health. For instance, eat wholesome meals, get sufficient sleep, and exercise regularly. Exercise releases chemicals that can lift your mood, increase your energy, and improve your sleep. If possible, try to recognize triggers and early warning signs of a depressive mood and create a suitable plan of action. Confide in someone you trust. A supportive network of close family members and friends may help you to cope more effectively with your depression, possibly reducing symptoms. Record your thoughts <span id="page6"> </span>and feelings in a journal—a practice that helped Julia, quoted earlier. Above all, be sure to address your spiritual need. This can greatly improve your outlook on life. Jesus Christ said: “Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need.”—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/matthew/5/#v40005003" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Matthew 5:3</a>.</p>
<p id="p16">Both Anna and Julia attest to Jesus’ words. Anna says: “Spiritual activities make me focus on other people, not just on my own problems. That isn’t always easy, but I am much happier as a result.” Julia finds comfort in prayer and Bible reading. “Pouring out my heart to God in prayer calms me,” she says. “And the Bible helps me to see that I am valuable in God’s eyes and that he really cares about me. Bible reading also gives me a positive view of the future.”</p>
<p id="p17">As our Creator, Jehovah God fully understands how our upbringing, experiences in life, and genetic makeup influence our outlook and emotions. He is therefore able to supply needed support and comfort, perhaps doing so through compassionate and understanding fellow humans. Moreover, the time will come when God will heal us of all our illnesses, physical or mental. “No resident will say: ‘I am sick,’” says <a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/isaiah/33/#v23033024" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Isaiah 33:24</a>.</p>
<p id="p18">Yes, the Bible promises that God “will wipe out every tear from [our] eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore.” (<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/revelation/21/#v66021004" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Revelation 21:4</a>) How comforting and reassuring that is! If you would like to learn more about God’s purpose for mankind and the earth, please visit us at jw.org. There you will find an excellent <a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/">online Bible</a>, as well as articles on a broad range of topics, including depression.</p>
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<p><a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/awake-no1-2017-february/teen-depression-help/">https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/awake-no1-2017-february/teen-depression-help/</a></p>
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</div>What Can Help Me if I'm Depressed?tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-05-26:2054931:BlogPost:3228142018-05-26T12:34:08.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p>The best help comes from “God, Who comforts and encourages and refreshes and cheers the depressed.”—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/2-corinthians/7/#v47007006" rel="noopener" target="_blank">2 Corinthians 7:6</a>, The Amplified Bible.</p>
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<p>The best help comes from “God, Who comforts and encourages and refreshes and cheers the depressed.”—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/2-corinthians/7/#v47007006" target="_blank" rel="noopener">2 Corinthians 7:6</a>, The Amplified Bible.</p>
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<li><p id="p5">Strength. God “refreshes and cheers” you, not by removing all your problems, but by answering your prayers when you pray for the strength to cope. (<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/philippians/4/#v50004013" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Philippians 4:13</a>) You can be sure that he’s ready to listen to you, for the Bible says: “<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/gods-name/">Jehovah</a> is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” (<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/psalms/34/#v19034018" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Psalm 34:18</a>) In fact, God can hear your call for help even if you can’t put your feelings into words.—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/romans/8/#v45008026-v45008027" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Romans 8:26, 27</a>.</p>
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<li><p id="p6">Good examples. One Bible writer prayed to God: “From the depths of my despair I call to you.” This psalmist dealt with his depression by remembering that God doesn’t burden us with guilt. Instead, he said to God: “If you kept a record of our sins, who could escape being condemned? But you forgive us, so that we should stand in awe of you.”—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/psalms/130/#v19130001" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Psalm 130:1,</a> <a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/psalms/130/#v19130003-v19130004" target="_blank" rel="noopener">3, 4</a>, Good News Translation.</p>
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<li><p id="p7">Hope. Besides providing comfort now, God has promised to remove all the problems that lead to depression. When he fulfills that promise, “the former things [including depression] will not be called to mind, neither will they come up into the heart.”—<a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/isaiah/65/#v23065017" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Isaiah 65:17</a>.</p>
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<p><a href="https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/bible-help-depressed/">https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/bible-help-depressed/</a></p>
</div>NO MORE SICKNESS, SUFFERING, OR DEATHtag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-05-02:2054931:BlogPost:3220992018-05-02T11:47:46.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
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<p class="p5 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p5" style="background-color: transparent; color: #333333; font-family: &quot; segoe ui&quot;,roboto,&quot;noto sans&quot;,&quot;helvetica neue&quot;,helvetica,arial,&quot;arial unicode ms&quot;,sans-serif; font-size: 19.2px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-top: 24px; orphans: 2; text-align: left; text-decoration: none; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Our need for hope is reflected in the pages of the Bible, which also cautions us against false hopes. “Do not put your trust in princes, nor in a son of man, who cannot bring salvation,” says <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" style="color: #4a6da7; cursor: pointer; text-decoration: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5);" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/psalms/146/#v19146003" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Psalm 146:3</a>. Instead of trusting in human efforts to save us, we are wise to trust in our Creator, who has the power to fulfill all his promises. What has he promised us? Consider the following</span></p>
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<p class="p5 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" style="background-color: transparent; color: #333333; font-family: &quot; segoe ui&quot;,roboto,&quot;noto sans&quot;,&quot;helvetica neue&quot;,helvetica,arial,&quot;arial unicode ms&quot;,sans-serif; font-size: 19.2px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-top: 24px; orphans: 2; text-align: left; text-decoration: none; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="text-align: left; color: #333333; text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: 'Segoe UI',Roboto,'Noto Sans','Helvetica Neue',Helvetica,Arial,'Arial Unicode MS',sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; word-spacing: 0px; display: inline !important; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; float: none; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: transparent;">“The tent of God is with mankind . . . He will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore.”—</span><a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" style="text-align: left; color: #4a6da7; text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; cursor: pointer; orphans: 2; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: transparent;" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/study-bible/books/revelation/21/#v66021003-v66021004" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Revelation 21:3, 4</a><span style="text-align: left; color: #333333; text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: 'Segoe UI',Roboto,'Noto Sans','Helvetica Neue',Helvetica,Arial,'Arial Unicode MS',sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; word-spacing: 0px; display: inline !important; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; float: none; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: transparent;">.</span></span></p>
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<p></p>Repost: Is It Wrong to Grieve?tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-08-18:2054931:BlogPost:3114622017-08-18T12:09:31.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p><strong>Is It Wrong to Grieve?</strong></p>
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<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">Have you ever had a brief bout with illness? Perhaps you recovered so quickly that you have practically forgotten the episode. Well, grief is not like that. “There is no such thing as ‘getting over’ grief,” writes Dr. Alan Wolfelt in his book <em>Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart.</em> However, he adds: “Over time and with the support of others, your grief will soften.”…</p>
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<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">Have you ever had a brief bout with illness? Perhaps you recovered so quickly that you have practically forgotten the episode. Well, grief is not like that. “There is no such thing as ‘getting over’ grief,” writes Dr. Alan Wolfelt in his book <em>Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart.</em> However, he adds: “Over time and with the support of others, your grief will soften.”</p>
<p class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p4">As an example, consider how the patriarch Abraham reacted when his wife died. The Bible says that “Abraham began to mourn and to weep over Sarah.” The expression “began to” suggests that it took some time for him to cope with his loss.<span class="refID" id="footnotesource1"> </span><a class="footnoteLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/watchtower-no3-2016-may/grieving-process/#footnote1" rel="nofollow">*</a> Another example is Jacob, who was deceived into believing that his son Joseph had been killed by a wild animal. He grieved for “many days,” and his family members were unable to comfort him. Several years later, the death of Joseph still weighed heavily on his mind.—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/23/#v1023002" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Genesis 23:2;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/37/#v1037034-v1037035" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">37:34, 35;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/42/#v1042036" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">42:36;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/45/#v1045028" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">45:28</a>.</p>
<p class="p5 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p5">The same is true today of many who mourn the death of someone very close. Consider the following two examples.</p>
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<li><blockquote><p class="p7 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p7">“Although I have been without my dear wife for more than 18 years, I still miss her and grieve over my loss. Whenever I see something in nature that is attractive, my thoughts go to her, and I cannot help wondering how she would have enjoyed seeing what I am seeing.”—Etienne, aged 84.</p>
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<p class="p8 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p8">Clearly, such painful and long-lasting feelings are only natural. Each person grieves in his or her own way, and it would be unwise to judge the way another person responds to tragedy. At the same time, we may need to hold off from condemning ourselves if our reaction to loss seems excessive. How can we cope with grief?</p>CAN DEATH BE CONQUERED?tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-07-31:2054931:BlogPost:3101692017-07-31T11:47:19.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<h2><span class="font-size-3">CAN DEATH BE CONQUERED?</span></h2>
<div class="pGroup"><p class="p9" id="p9">Why do we rebel against death? The Bible explains the reason. Regarding our Creator, it says: “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has even put eternity in their [mankind’s] heart.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/ecclesiastes/3/#v21003011" target="_blank">Ecclesiastes 3:11</a>) We…</p>
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<div class="pGroup"><p class="p9" id="p9">Why do we rebel against death? The Bible explains the reason. Regarding our Creator, it says: “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has even put eternity in their [mankind’s] heart.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/ecclesiastes/3/#v21003011" target="_blank">Ecclesiastes 3:11</a>) We <span class="refID" id="page5"> </span>would like to enjoy earth’s beauty forever, not for a mere 80 years or so. (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/90/#v19090010" target="_blank">Psalm 90:10</a>) That is our heart’s desire.</p>
<p class="p10" id="p10">Why did God put “eternity” in our hearts? Merely to frustrate us? That is unthinkable. On the contrary, God promises us that there will come a victory over death. The Bible repeatedly speaks about the elimination of death and God’s promise of everlasting life.</p>
<p class="p11" id="p11">Jesus Christ himself clearly stated: “This means everlasting life, their coming to know you, the only true God, and the one whom you sent, Jesus Christ.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/john/17/#v43017003" target="_blank">John 17:3</a>) So the battle against death is not a hopeless one. Jesus confirms, however, that only God can win that battle for us.</p>
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<p class="p11"><a href="https://www.jw.org/finder?docid=2014003&wtlocale=E&srcid=share">https://www.jw.org/finder?docid=2014003&wtlocale=E&srcid=share</a></p>
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<div class="pGroup"></div>Mankind’s Fight Against Mortalitytag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-07-20:2054931:BlogPost:3097212017-07-20T12:13:14.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p class="p3"><span class="font-size-1"><em><span style="color: #ff0000;">NOTE:</span> My blogs are not posted with the intention of promoting any organization or religion. The goal of these blogs are to provide the same comfort I received for the death of a loved one. Enjoy.</em></span></p>
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<p class="p3" id="p3"><strong>Death is a fearsome enemy</strong>. We fight it with all our might. We may try to deny it when it strikes someone dear to us. Or, in the exuberance of youth,…</p>
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<p class="p3" id="p3"><strong>Death is a fearsome enemy</strong>. We fight it with all our might. We may try to deny it when it strikes someone dear to us. Or, in the exuberance of youth, we may imagine that the enemy will never come to claim us—a delusion we cling to as long as we can.</p>
<p class="p4" id="p4">Few thought more about immortality than the ancient Pharaohs. They spent much of their own lives—as well as the lives of thousands of workers—in an attempt to conquer death. The pyramids they built testify to their quest—and to their failure.</p>
<p class="p5" id="p5">Chinese emperors followed a similar dream of immortality, albeit through a different route—that of the mythical elixir of life. Emperor Qin Shi Huang demanded that his alchemists find a magic potion that could keep death at bay. But many of their concoctions contained toxic mercury, and one of their mixtures likely killed him.</p>
<p class="p6" id="p6">In the 16th century C.E., the Spanish explorer Juan Ponce de León sailed the Caribbean reportedly in search of a fountain of youth. He discovered Florida, U.S.A., in the process but died a few years later after a skirmish with Native Americans. And no fountain of youth has ever been found.</p>
<p class="p7" id="p7">The Pharaohs, emperors, and explorers all sought to conquer death. And who of us would have belittled their goal, even if we disliked their methods? Deep down, practically all of us want to keep living.</p>
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<p class="p7"><a href="https://www.jw.org/finder?docid=2014003&wtlocale=E&srcid=share">https://www.jw.org/finder?docid=2014003&wtlocale=E&srcid=share</a></p>A Puzzling Questiontag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-06-28:2054931:BlogPost:3081282017-06-28T11:57:31.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p>VIEWS about life and death are many and varied. Some feel that after death they will live on, perhaps in another form or in another place. Others feel that they will be reborn to live another existence. Still others think that death simply ends it all.<br></br> You may have your own belief on the subject, depending on your upbringing or cultural background. Since opinions as to what happens at death differ so widely, is there someone or somewhere we can turn to for reliable and truthful answers…</p>
<p>VIEWS about life and death are many and varied. Some feel that after death they will live on, perhaps in another form or in another place. Others feel that they will be reborn to live another existence. Still others think that death simply ends it all.<br/> You may have your own belief on the subject, depending on your upbringing or cultural background. Since opinions as to what happens at death differ so widely, is there someone or somewhere we can turn to for reliable and truthful answers to this puzzling question?</p>
<p>For centuries, religious leaders have taught the doctrine of the immortality of the human soul. Followers of nearly all major religions—Christians, Hindus, Jews, Muslims, and others—believe in the existence of an immortal soul, which is said to survive the death of the body and live on in the spirit realm. Buddhists, on the other hand, believe that by way of countless rebirths, the force, or mental energy, within a person can reach a blissful state called Nirvana.</p>
<p>On account of such teachings, the majority of people around the world have come to believe that death opens the door to life in another world. To many, death is therefore an important step in the cycle of life, and dying appears to them to be part of God’s will. But what does the Bible say about the matter? Please read the following article. The answer may surprise you.</p>
<p><a href="https://www.jw.org/finder?docid=2017126&wtlocale=E&srcid=share">https://www.jw.org/finder?docid=2017126&wtlocale=E&srcid=share</a></p>Mourning by Definitiontag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-06-19:2054931:BlogPost:3073712017-06-19T12:12:01.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
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<p>The outward expression of grief over a death or some other calamity. In Bible times, it was customary to mourn for a period of time. In addition to weeping loudly, mourners wore special clothes, put ashes on their head, ripped their garments, and beat their chest. Professional mourners were sometimes invited to funerals.—…</p>
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<p>The outward expression of grief over a death or some other calamity. In Bible times, it was customary to mourn for a period of time. In addition to weeping loudly, mourners wore special clothes, put ashes on their head, ripped their garments, and beat their chest. Professional mourners were sometimes invited to funerals.—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/23/#v1023002" target="_blank">Ge 23:2;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/esther/4/#v17004003" target="_blank">Es 4:3;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/revelation/21/#v66021004" target="_blank">Re 21:4</a>.</p>
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<p><a href="https://www.jw.org/finder?docid=1001077202&wtlocale=E&srcid=share">https://www.jw.org/finder?docid=1001077202&wtlocale=E&srcid=share</a></p>Comforting Those Who Mourntag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-06-16:2054931:BlogPost:3075242017-06-16T12:25:37.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">Have you ever felt helpless when someone near to you was grieving over the loss of a loved one? Sometimes we may feel unsure of what to say or do—so we wind up saying and doing nothing. But there are practical, helpful things that we can do.</p>
<p class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p4">Often, all that is needed is your presence along with a simple expression, such as “I am so sorry.” In many cultures, giving…</p>
<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">Have you ever felt helpless when someone near to you was grieving over the loss of a loved one? Sometimes we may feel unsure of what to say or do—so we wind up saying and doing nothing. But there are practical, helpful things that we can do.</p>
<p class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p4">Often, all that is needed is your presence along with a simple expression, such as “I am so sorry.” In many cultures, giving the person a hug or a gentle squeeze of the arm is an effective way to show you care. If the bereaved one wants to talk, listen sympathetically. Best of all, do something for the bereaved family, perhaps performing a chore the grieving one has not been able to care for, such as cooking a meal, caring for the children, or helping with funeral arrangements if that is desired. Such actions may speak louder than the most eloquent words.</p>
<p class="p5 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p5">In time, you may be moved to talk about the deceased, perhaps focusing on some good qualities or happy experiences. Such conversation may even bring a smile to the bereaved person’s face. For example, Pam—who lost her husband, Ian, six years ago—says: “People sometimes tell me good <span class="pageNum refID" id="page7"> </span>things that Ian did that I never knew about, and that makes my heart feel good.”</p>
<p class="p6 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p6">Researchers report that many bereaved people receive a lot of initial help but that their needs are soon forgotten as friends get busy again with their own lives. Therefore, make a point of contacting a bereaved friend on a regular basis after the loss.<span class="refID" id="footnotesource1"> </span><a class="footnoteLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/watchtower-no3-2016-may/how-to-comfort-someone-grieving/#footnote1">*</a> Many grieving ones deeply appreciate this opportunity to relieve themselves of prolonged feelings of grief.</p>
<p class="p7 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p7">Consider the example of Kaori, a young Japanese woman who was devastated by the loss of her mother followed by the loss of her older sister 15 months later. Thankfully, she received ongoing support from loyal friends. One named Ritsuko is much older than Kaori and offered to be her close friend. “To be honest,” says Kaori, “I wasn’t happy about that. I didn’t want anyone to take the place of my mother, and I didn’t think that anyone could. However, because of the way Mama Ritsuko treated me, I came to feel close to her. Every week, we went out in the evangelizing work together and went to Christian meetings together. She invited me to have tea with her, brought me meals, and wrote me letters and cards many times. Mama Ritsuko’s positive attitude had a good influence on me.”</p>
<p class="p8 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p8">Twelve years have passed since Kaori’s mother died, and today she and her husband are full-time evangelizers. “Mama Ritsuko,” Kaori says, “continues to show her concern. When I go back home, I always visit her and enjoy her upbuilding association.”</p>
<p class="p9 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p9">Another example of someone who benefited from ongoing support is Poli, one of Jehovah’s Witnesses in Cyprus. Poli had a kind husband, Sozos, who set a good example as a Christian shepherd by often inviting orphans and widows to their home for association and a meal. (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/james/1/#v59001027" target="_blank">James 1:27</a>) Sadly, at the age of 53, Sozos died of a brain tumor. “I lost my loyal husband with whom I had spent 33 years of marriage,” says Poli.</p>
<p class="p10 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p10">After the funeral, Poli moved to Canada with her youngest son, 15-year-old Daniel. There, they began associating with a congregation of Jehovah’s Witnesses. “The friends in my new congregation,” recalls Poli, “did not know anything about our past and our difficult circumstances. But that did not stop them from approaching us and embracing us with their kind words and practical help. How precious that help was, especially at that time, when my son needed his father most! Those taking the lead in the congregation showed a great deal of personal interest in Daniel. One in particular made sure to include Daniel when enjoying association with friends or when going out to play ball.” Both mother and son are doing well today.</p>
<p class="p11 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p11">To be sure, there are many ways we can offer practical help and comfort to those who mourn. The Bible also comforts us by means of a thrilling hope for the future.</p>
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<h2 class="p2 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p2"><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">We rightly fear death as an enemy and take reasonable steps to protect our life. (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/1-corinthians/15/#v46015026" target="_blank">1 Corinthians 15:26</a>) However, an irrational fear of death based on falsehood or superstition makes people “subject to…</span></h2>
<h2 class="p2 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p2"><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">We rightly fear death as an enemy and take reasonable steps to protect our life. (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/1-corinthians/15/#v46015026" target="_blank">1 Corinthians 15:26</a>) However, an irrational fear of death based on falsehood or superstition makes people “subject to slavery all through their lives.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/hebrews/2/#v58002015" target="_blank">Hebrews 2:15</a>) Knowing the truth will free you from a morbid fear of death</span><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">—a fear that can rob you of the ability to enjoy life.</span><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/john/8/#v43008032" target="_blank">John 8:32</a>.</span></h2>
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<li><p class="p5 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p5"><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">The dead are not conscious. (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/146/#v19146004" target="_blank">Psalm 146:4</a>) You need not fear pain or torment after you die, for the Bible compares death to sleep.</span><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/13/#v19013003" target="_blank">Psalm 13:3;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/john/11/#v43011011-v43011014" target="_blank">John 11:11-14</a>.</span></p>
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<li><p class="p6 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p6"><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">The dead cannot harm us. Even formerly violent enemies are “impotent in death.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/proverbs/21/#v20021016" target="_blank">Proverbs 21:16</a>) The Bible says that “their hate and their jealousy have already perished.”</span><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/ecclesiastes/9/#v21009006" target="_blank">Ecclesiastes 9:6</a>.</span></p>
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<li><p class="p7 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p7"><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">Death is not necessarily the permanent end of our existence. By means of a resurrection, God will bring back to life people who have died.</span><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/john/5/#v43005028-v43005029" target="_blank">John 5:28, 29;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/acts/24/#v44024015" target="_blank">Acts 24:15</a>.</span></p>
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<li><p class="p8 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p8"><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">God promises a time when “death will be no more.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/revelation/21/#v66021004" target="_blank">Revelation 21:4</a>) Concerning that day, the Bible says: “The righteous themselves will possess the earth, and they will reside forever upon it,” completely free from any fear of dying.</span><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: times new roman,times;">—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/37/#v19037029" target="_blank">Psalm 37:29</a>.</span></p>
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</div>When a Loved One is Terminally Illtag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-06-06:2054931:BlogPost:3067602017-06-06T11:46:46.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<p class="p2 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p2">DOREEN was shocked when her husband, Wesley, only 54 years of age, was diagnosed with an acutely aggressive brain tumor.<span class="refID" id="footnotesource1"> </span><a class="footnoteLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/watchtower-no4-2017-july/loved-one-is-terminally-ill/#footnote1">*</a> Doctors gave him only a few months to live. “I couldn’t believe what I was hearing,” she…</p>
<p class="p2 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p2">DOREEN was shocked when her husband, Wesley, only 54 years of age, was diagnosed with an acutely aggressive brain tumor.<span class="refID" id="footnotesource1"> </span><a class="footnoteLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/watchtower-no4-2017-july/loved-one-is-terminally-ill/#footnote1">*</a> Doctors gave him only a few months to live. “I couldn’t believe what I was hearing,” she recalls. “I was totally numb for weeks. It felt as if it were happening to someone else, not to us. I was not prepared.”</p>
<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">Sadly, Doreen’s reaction is not uncommon. A terminal disease can afflict anyone at any time. Commendably, many willingly take on the task of caring for a loved one who is diagnosed with a terminal illness. Yet, caregiving is a formidable challenge. What can family members do to comfort and care for their terminally ill loved one? How can caregivers cope with the range of emotions they may experience throughout the course of the illness? As death approaches, what can be expected? First, though, let us consider why caring for the terminally ill is a unique challenge today.</p>
<div class="section" id="section2"><h2 class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p4">A MODERN DILEMMA</h2>
<div class="pGroup"><p class="p5 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p5">Medical science has changed the nature of dying. A century or so ago, even in more developed lands, the average life span was much shorter. People died quickly from infectious diseases or accidents. Access to hospitals was limited, and most people were cared for by their families and died at home.</p>
<p class="p6 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p6">Today, medical advances have enabled physicians to fight illness aggressively in order to prolong life. Diseases that would have ended a person’s life quickly in times past may now stretch out over many years. However, this extended life may not represent a cure. Patients often have severe infirmities that render them incapable of caring for themselves. Caring for such individuals has become much more complicated and demanding.</p>
<p class="p7 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p7">Consequently, more and more, death has moved from the home to the hospital. Most people <span class="pageNum refID" id="page9"> </span>today are unfamiliar with the dying process, and few have ever actually witnessed someone dying. Fear of the unknown, then, may hinder or even paralyze a person’s efforts to care for an ill family member. What can help?</p>
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<div class="section" id="section3"><h2 class="p8 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p8">PLAN IN ADVANCE</h2>
<div class="pGroup"><p class="p9 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p9">As illustrated in the case of Doreen, many people feel devastated when a loved one is diagnosed with a fatal illness. Amid intense anxiety, fear, and grief, what can help you to prepare for the road ahead? A faithful servant of God prayed: “Teach us how to count our days so that we may acquire a heart of wisdom.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/90/#v19090012" target="_blank">Psalm 90:12</a>) Yes, pray earnestly for Jehovah God to show you how to ‘count your days’ wisely so that you can use the remaining days with your loved one in the best possible way.</p>
<p class="p10 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p10">This takes good planning. If your loved one is still able to communicate and is willing to address the matter, it may be wise to ask him who should make decisions for him when he is no longer able to do so. Frank discussion about whether he wishes to be resuscitated, hospitalized, or submitted to certain treatments can minimize misunderstandings and feelings of guilt on the part of family members who are forced to make decisions for an incapacitated patient. Early and open communication allows the family to focus on providing care during the illness. “Plans fail when there is no consultation,” says the Bible.—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/proverbs/15/#v20015022" target="_blank">Proverbs 15:22</a>.</p>
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<div class="section" id="section4"><h2 class="p11 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p11">HOW TO ASSIST</h2>
<div class="pGroup"><p class="p12 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p12">Usually, the caretaker’s primary role is to provide comfort. A dying person needs to be reassured that he is loved and not alone. How can this be done? Read or sing to the patient, choosing literature and songs that are upbuilding and enjoyable to him. Many people are comforted when a family member holds their hand and speaks softly to them.</p>
<p class="p13 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p13">It is often helpful to identify any visitors. One report states: “Hearing is said to be the last of the five senses to be lost. Hearing may still remain very acute although the [patients] may seem asleep so do not say anything in their presence you would not say to them when awake.”</p>
<p class="p14 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p14">If possible, pray together. The Bible relates that on one occasion, the apostle Paul and <span class="pageNum refID" id="page10"> </span>his companions were under extreme pressure and were very uncertain even of their lives. What assistance did they seek? Paul entreated his friends: “You also can help us by your supplication for us.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/2-corinthians/1/#v47001008-v47001011" target="_blank">2 Corinthians 1:8-11</a>) A heartfelt prayer during extreme stress and serious illness is invaluable.</p>
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<div class="section" id="section5"><h2 class="p15 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p15">ACKNOWLEDGE THE REALITY</h2>
<div class="pGroup"><p class="p16 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p16">The very notion of a loved one dying is often distressing. No wonder, for death is <em>unnatural.</em> We were not designed to accept death as a normal part of life. (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/romans/5/#v45005012" target="_blank">Romans 5:12</a>) God’s Word thus calls death an “enemy.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/1-corinthians/15/#v46015026" target="_blank">1 Corinthians 15:26</a>) So a reluctance to think about the death of a loved one is understandable, even normal.</p>
<p class="p17 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p17">Nevertheless, anticipating what may occur can help family members to ease their fears and focus on making things as comfortable as possible. Some of the events that may take place are listed in the box “<span class="refID" id="linksource0"> </span><a href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/watchtower-no4-2017-july/loved-one-is-terminally-ill/#link0">The Final Weeks of Life</a>.” Of course, not all these conditions occur in every patient, nor do they necessarily occur in the same order. Still, most patients experience at least some of these changes.</p>
<p class="p18 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p18">After the death of a loved one, it may be wise to contact a close friend who has previously agreed to help. Caregivers and family may need to be assured that their dear one’s trial is over and that he is no longer suffering. The Creator of humankind lovingly assures us that “the dead know nothing at all.”—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/ecclesiastes/9/#v21009005" target="_blank">Ecclesiastes 9:5</a>.</p>
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<p class="p18 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener"><strong><span class="font-size-3">THE ULTIMATE CAREGIVER</span></strong></p>
<p class="p20 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p20">Relying upon God is essential—not only during the terminal illness of a family member but also during the grief that comes following death. He may assist you through the helpful words and deeds of others. “I learned not to turn anyone’s help away,” says Doreen. “In fact, the volume of help we received overwhelmed us. My husband and I unequivocally knew this was Jehovah saying, ‘I’m right here with you to help you through this.’ I will never forget it.”</p>
<p class="p21 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p21">Yes, Jehovah God is the ultimate Caregiver. As our Maker, he understands our pain and sorrow. He is able and eager to provide the necessary help and encouragement so that we can cope. Better yet, he has promised that he will soon eradicate death once and for all and resurrect the billions of humans who are in his memory. (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/john/5/#v43005028-v43005029" target="_blank">John 5:28, 29;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/revelation/21/#v66021003-v66021004" target="_blank">Revelation 21:3, 4</a>) Then, all can echo the words of the apostle Paul: “Death, where is your victory? Death, where is your sting?”—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/1-corinthians/15/#v46015055" target="_blank">1 Corinthians 15:55</a>.</p>
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</div>When a Parent Diestag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-06-02:2054931:BlogPost:3065242017-06-02T11:24:41.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<h2 class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3"><span class="font-size-3">THE CHALLENGE</span></h2>
<div class="pGroup"><p class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p4">Dami was six years old when an aneurysm claimed the life of her dad. Derrick was nine when his father died of heart disease. Jeannie was seven when her mom passed away after a year-long battle with ovarian cancer.<span class="refID" id="footnotesource1"> …</span></p>
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<h2 class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3"><span class="font-size-3">THE CHALLENGE</span></h2>
<div class="pGroup"><p class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p4">Dami was six years old when an aneurysm claimed the life of her dad. Derrick was nine when his father died of heart disease. Jeannie was seven when her mom passed away after a year-long battle with ovarian cancer.<span class="refID" id="footnotesource1"> </span><a class="footnoteLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/awake-no2-2017-april/when-a-parent-dies/#footnote1">*</a></p>
<p class="p5 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p5">All too soon, these three young people were confronted with the death of a loved one. Have you had a similar experience? If so, this article can help you come to terms with your loss.<span class="refID" id="footnotesource2"> </span><a class="footnoteLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/awake-no2-2017-april/when-a-parent-dies/#footnote2">*</a> First, though, consider a few facts about grieving.</p>
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<div class="section" id="section2"><h2 class="p6 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p6"><span class="font-size-3">WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW</span></h2>
<div class="pGroup"><p class="p7 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p7"><strong>There are many ways to grieve.</strong> This means that the way you express your sorrow might differ from the way others do so. “Coping with a death does not follow a simple pattern or set of rules,” says the book <em>Helping Teens Cope With Death.</em> The important thing is that you do not unduly suppress your grief. Why? Because . . .</p>
<p class="p8 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p8"><strong>Suppressing grief can be harmful.</strong> Jeannie, mentioned at the outset, says: “I thought I had to be strong for my little sister, so I buried my emotions. Even today, I tend to suppress painful feelings, and that’s not healthy.”</p>
<p class="p9 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p9">Experts would agree. “Feelings denied or bottled up won’t stay bottled up forever,” says the book <em>The Grieving Teen.</em> “They will return when you least expect [them to] in the form of emotional flare-ups or physical ailments.” Suppressed grief can also lead to the abuse of alcohol or drugs, all done in an effort to numb the pain.</p>
<p class="p10 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p10"><strong>Grieving may be accompanied by confusing emotions.</strong> For example, some people feel anger at the person who died, feeling that the person “abandoned” them. Others blame God, thinking that he should have prevented the death. Many who grieve feel guilt for things they did or said to the person, since there is now no way to make amends.</p>
<p class="p11 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p11">Clearly, grieving can be a complex process. How can you get relief and be helped to move forward?</p>
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<div class="pGroup"><p class="p13 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p13"><strong>Talk to someone.</strong> You might be inclined to isolate yourself during this difficult time. But pouring out your feelings to a family member or a friend will help you deal with your emotions and keep this tragedy from overwhelming you.—<em>Bible principle:</em> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/proverbs/18/#v20018024" target="_blank"><em>Proverbs 18:24</em></a><em>.</em></p>
<p class="p14 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p14"><strong>Keep a journal.</strong> Write about the parent you lost. For example, what is your most cherished memory of that person? Write about his or her commendable qualities. Which ones would you like to imitate in <em>your</em> life?</p>
<p class="p15 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p15">If you are plagued with negative thoughts—for example, if you cannot stop thinking about something harsh you said to your parent before he or she passed away—write down <em>what</em> you feel and <em>why.</em> For example, “I feel guilty because I had an argument with my dad the day before he died.”</p>
<p class="p16 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p16">Next, challenge the reasonableness of your guilt. “You cannot blame yourself for not knowing that there would never be an opportunity to apologize,” says <em>The Grieving Teen.</em> “To suggest that one must never say or do anything that might call for a future apology is simply not realistic.”—<em>Bible principle:</em> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/job/10/#v18010001" target="_blank"><em>Job 10:1</em></a><em>.</em></p>
<p class="p17 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p17"><strong>Take care of yourself.</strong> Get adequate rest, sufficient exercise, and proper nutrition. If you do not feel like eating, have a number of healthful snacks throughout the day instead of full meals—at least until your appetite returns to normal. Do not soothe your grief with junk food or alcohol; they will only make things worse.</p>
<p class="p18 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p18"><strong>Talk to God in prayer.</strong> The Bible says: “Throw your burden on Jehovah, and he will sustain you.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/55/#v19055022" target="_blank">Psalm 55:22</a>) Prayer is <em>not</em> merely an emotional crutch. It is real communication with the God who “comforts us in all our trials.”—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/2-corinthians/1/#v47001003-v47001004" target="_blank">2 Corinthians 1:3, 4</a>.</p>
<p class="p19 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p19">One way that God comforts those who mourn is through his Word, the Bible. Why not examine what it teaches about the true condition of those who have died and the hope of a resurrection?<span class="refID" id="footnotesource3"> </span><a class="footnoteLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/awake-no2-2017-april/when-a-parent-dies/#footnote3">*</a>—<em>Bible principle:</em> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/94/#v19094019" target="_blank"><em>Psalm 94:19</em></a><em>.</em></p>
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</div>When a Loved Oned Diestag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-05-24:2054931:BlogPost:3061612017-05-24T12:07:53.000ZMike H.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MikeH
<h2 class="p6 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p6"><span class="font-size-4">WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW</span></h2>
<div class="pGroup"><p class="p7 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p7"><strong>There are many ways to grieve.</strong> This means that the way you express your sorrow might differ from the way others do so. “Coping with a death does not follow a simple pattern or set of rules,” says the book <em>Helping Teens Cope With Death.</em> The important thing is that…</p>
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<h2 class="p6 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p6"><span class="font-size-4">WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW</span></h2>
<div class="pGroup"><p class="p7 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p7"><strong>There are many ways to grieve.</strong> This means that the way you express your sorrow might differ from the way others do so. “Coping with a death does not follow a simple pattern or set of rules,” says the book <em>Helping Teens Cope With Death.</em> The important thing is that you do not unduly suppress your grief. Why? Because . . .</p>
<p class="p8 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p8"><strong>Suppressing grief can be harmful.</strong> Jeannie, mentioned at the outset, says: “I thought I had to be strong for my little sister, so I buried my emotions. Even today, I tend to suppress painful feelings, and that’s not healthy.”</p>
<p class="p9 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p9">Experts would agree. “Feelings denied or bottled up won’t stay bottled up forever,” says the book <em>The Grieving Teen.</em> “They will return when you least expect [them to] in the form of emotional flare-ups or physical ailments.” Suppressed grief can also lead to the abuse of alcohol or drugs, all done in an effort to numb the pain.</p>
<p class="p10 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p10"><strong>Grieving may be accompanied by confusing emotions.</strong> For example, some people feel anger at the person who died, feeling that the person “abandoned” them. Others blame God, thinking that he should have prevented the death. Many who grieve feel guilt for things they did or said to the person, since there is now no way to make amends.</p>
<p class="p11 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p11">Clearly, grieving can be a complex process. How can you get relief and be helped to move forward?</p>
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<div class="pGroup"><p class="p13 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p13"><strong>Talk to someone.</strong> You might be inclined to isolate yourself during this difficult time. But pouring out your feelings to a family member or a friend will help you deal with your emotions and keep this tragedy from overwhelming you.—<em>Bible principle:</em> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/proverbs/18/#v20018024" target="_blank"><em>Proverbs 18:24</em></a><em>.</em></p>
<p class="p14 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p14"><strong>Keep a journal.</strong> Write about the parent you lost. For example, what is your most cherished memory of that person? Write about his or her commendable qualities. Which ones would you like to imitate in <em>your</em> life?</p>
<p class="p15 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p15">If you are plagued with negative thoughts—for example, if you cannot stop thinking about something harsh you said to your parent before he or she passed away—write down <em>what</em> you feel and <em>why.</em> For example, “I feel guilty because I had an argument with my dad the day before he died.”</p>
<p class="p16 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p16">Next, challenge the reasonableness of your guilt. “You cannot blame yourself for not knowing that there would never be an opportunity to apologize,” says <em>The Grieving Teen.</em> “To suggest that one must never say or do anything that might call for a future apology is simply not realistic.”—<em>Bible principle:</em> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/job/10/#v18010001" target="_blank"><em>Job 10:1</em></a><em>.</em></p>
<p class="p17 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p17"><strong>Take care of yourself.</strong> Get adequate rest, sufficient exercise, and proper nutrition. If you do not feel like eating, have a number of healthful snacks throughout the day instead of full meals—at least until your appetite returns to normal. Do not soothe your grief with junk food or alcohol; they will only make things worse.</p>
<p class="p18 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p18"><strong>Talk to God in prayer.</strong> The Bible says: “Throw your burden on Jehovah, and he will sustain you.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/55/#v19055022" target="_blank">Psalm 55:22</a>) Prayer is <em>not</em> merely an emotional crutch. It is real communication with the God who “comforts us in all our trials.”—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/2-corinthians/1/#v47001003-v47001004" target="_blank">2 Corinthians 1:3, 4</a>.</p>
<p class="p19 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p19">One way that God comforts those who mourn is through his Word, the Bible. Why not examine what it teaches about the true condition of those who have died and the hope of a resurrection?<span class="refID" id="footnotesource3"> </span><a class="footnoteLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/awake-no2-2017-april/when-a-parent-dies/#footnote3">*</a>—<em>Bible principle:</em> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/94/#v19094019" target="_blank"><em>Psalm 94:19</em></a><em>.</em></p>
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<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">There is no shortage of advice on this subject. Not all of it, however, is helpful. For instance, you may find that some will advise you not to cry or show your feelings in any way. Others may push you to do the opposite and expose all your feelings. The Bible presents a…</p>
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<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">There is no shortage of advice on this subject. Not all of it, however, is helpful. For instance, you may find that some will advise you not to cry or show your feelings in any way. Others may push you to do the opposite and expose all your feelings. The Bible presents a more balanced view, one that is supported by modern research.</p>
<p class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p4">In some cultures it is considered unmanly for a male to cry. But is there a real need to feel ashamed about shedding tears, even in public? Mental-health experts acknowledge that tearfulness is a normal part of grieving. And grieving may, in time, help you to move on despite the enormity of your loss. Suppressing grief, however, may do more harm than good. The Bible lends no support to the notion that it is wrong or unmanly to shed tears of grief. Think of Jesus, for example. At the death of his dear friend Lazarus, Jesus openly wept, even though he had the power to bring the dead back to life!—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/john/11/#v43011033-v43011035" target="_blank">John 11:33-35</a>...</p>
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<p><strong>Is It Wrong to Grieve?</strong></p>
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<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">Have you ever had a brief bout with illness? Perhaps you recovered so quickly that you have practically forgotten the episode. Well, grief is not like that. “There is no such thing as ‘getting over’ grief,” writes Dr. Alan Wolfelt in his book <em>Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart.</em> However, he adds: “Over time and with the support of others, your grief will soften.”…</p>
<p><strong>Is It Wrong to Grieve?</strong></p>
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<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">Have you ever had a brief bout with illness? Perhaps you recovered so quickly that you have practically forgotten the episode. Well, grief is not like that. “There is no such thing as ‘getting over’ grief,” writes Dr. Alan Wolfelt in his book <em>Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart.</em> However, he adds: “Over time and with the support of others, your grief will soften.”</p>
<p class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p4">As an example, consider how the patriarch Abraham reacted when his wife died. The Bible says that “Abraham began to mourn and to weep over Sarah.” The expression “began to” suggests that it took some time for him to cope with his loss.<span class="refID" id="footnotesource1"> </span><a class="footnoteLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/watchtower-no3-2016-may/grieving-process/#footnote1">*</a> Another example is Jacob, who was deceived into believing that his son Joseph had been killed by a wild animal. He grieved for “many days,” and his family members were unable to comfort him. Several years later, the death of Joseph still weighed heavily on his mind.—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/23/#v1023002" target="_blank">Genesis 23:2;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/37/#v1037034-v1037035" target="_blank">37:34, 35;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/42/#v1042036" target="_blank">42:36;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/45/#v1045028" target="_blank">45:28</a>.</p>
<p class="p5 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p5">The same is true today of many who mourn the death of someone very close. Consider the following two examples.</p>
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<li><blockquote><p class="p7 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p7">“Although I have been without my dear wife for more than 18 years, I still miss her and grieve over my loss. Whenever I see something in nature that is attractive, my thoughts go to her, and I cannot help wondering how she would have enjoyed seeing what I am seeing.”—Etienne, aged 84.</p>
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<p class="p8 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p8">Clearly, such painful and long-lasting feelings are only natural. Each person grieves in his or her own way, and it would be unwise to judge the way another person responds to tragedy. At the same time, we may need to hold off from condemning ourselves if our reaction to loss seems excessive. How can we cope with grief?</p>
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<p>Why do people die?</p>
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<p>It’s natural to wonder why people die, especially when we lose someone close to us. The Bible says: “The sting producing death is sin.”—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/1-corinthians/15/#v46015056" target="_blank">1 Corinthians 15:56</a>.</p>
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<p>It’s natural to wonder why people die, especially when we lose someone close to us. The Bible says: “The sting producing death is sin.”—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/1-corinthians/15/#v46015056" target="_blank">1 Corinthians 15:56</a>.</p>
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<p class="p5 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p5">The first humans, Adam and Eve, lost their lives because they sinned against God. (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/3/#v1003017-v1003019" target="_blank">Genesis 3:17-19</a>) Death was the only possible outcome of their rebellion against God, for with him is “the source of life.”—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/36/#v19036009" target="_blank">Psalm 36:9;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/genesis/2/#v1002017" target="_blank">Genesis 2:17</a>.</p>
<p class="p6 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p6">Adam passed on the defect of sin to all his descendants. The Bible says: “Through one man sin entered into the world and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men because they had all sinned.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/romans/5/#v45005012" target="_blank">Romans 5:12</a>) All people die because they all sin.—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/romans/3/#v45003023" target="_blank">Romans 3:23</a>.</p>
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<p class="p8 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p8">God promises a time when “he will actually swallow up death forever.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/isaiah/25/#v23025008" target="_blank">Isaiah 25:8</a>) To remove death, he must eliminate its root cause, which is sin. God will do this through Jesus Christ, who “takes away the sin of the world.”—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/john/1/#v43001029" target="_blank">John 1:29;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/1-john/1/#v62001007" target="_blank">1 John 1:7</a>.</p>
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<p class="p8 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener">Next question to consider: Is it wrong to grieve?</p>
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<p><strong>What is the meaning of life?</strong></p>
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<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">The question of the meaning of life may be asked in many ways, such as Why are we here? or Does my life have a purpose? The Scriptures show that our purpose in life is to build a friendship with God. Consider some of these fundamental truths that the Scriptures reveal</p>
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<p class="p3 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p3">The question of the meaning of life may be asked in many ways, such as Why are we here? or Does my life have a purpose? The Scriptures show that our purpose in life is to build a friendship with God. Consider some of these fundamental truths that the Scriptures reveal</p>
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<li><p class="p6 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p6">God created us with a “spiritual need,” which includes the desire to find meaning in life. (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/matthew/5/#v40005003" target="_blank">Matthew 5:3</a>) He wants us to satisfy that desire.—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/psalms/145/#v19145016" target="_blank">Psalm 145:16</a>.</p>
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<li><p class="p7 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p7">We fill our spiritual need by building a friendship with God. Although the idea of being God’s friend might seem far-fetched to some, the Bible gives us this encouragement: “Draw close to God, and he will draw close to you.”—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/james/4/#v59004008" target="_blank">James 4:8;</a> <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/james/2/#v59002023" target="_blank">2:23</a>.</p>
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<li><p class="p8 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener" id="p8">To become God’s friend, we must live in harmony with his purpose for us. The Bible states this purpose at <a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/ecclesiastes/12/#v21012013" target="_blank">Ecclesiastes 12:13</a>: “Have reverence for God, and obey his commands, because this is all that we were created for.”—<em>Good News Translation</em>.</p>
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