"Morgan, Thanks for the post. It's not even 3 months since I lost my wonderful wife and I decided that I'm not interested in "getting better". That's what those who say they want to help want me to do. …"
"The only fears are I have is that I'll live a long time, or it's really lights out and will never be with her again. I keep begging for a sign and nothing yet. If she could somehow give me what I know had to be from her, I…"
This is so hard what you're feeling. You say your bereavement group won't help either, and maybe it won't, but I did find some comfort in being around people who were right in the thick of it. It used to hurt to go out and see…"
"Grief. So all encompassing.so very difficult to move beyond it. So very sorry for your loss Joe. I joined this group a while ago but find it hard to share. May you be able to take one step forward each morning even if at the end of the day your…"
"I identify with so much said here. It's been only ten weeks but seems like as the time passes it just gets worse. I know that my mental state isn't very good but I too think that until I die, I'll be in agony. Every…"
Word for word I could have written what you did. I've have the very same thoughts, all of them that you have. I feel the same way. I wish I could give you some positive outlook but I can't. My wife died…"
"Thank you for sharing Sharon and sorry you lost you're true love, best friend and lover. What I'm finding out is that everyone wants to fix me somehow, just like when you went for therapy. From what I read and hear is that we…"
"Hello Joe. I am so teribly sorry for the loss of your beloved. My dear husband died 2 years ago. Unlike your wife he would never go to the doctor, just worked 6/7 days a week waiting for the day he could retire. He died 2 weeks before his 64th…"
"Thank you all for your loving replies. Every day, all day, she's all I think about. It's like a nightmare that I'll never wake up from. Alison, the way I feel now, I don't even know if I want to feel…"
"Joe, I am sorry of the loss of the love of your life. You shared 51 years with her and that is amazing and wonderful. My fiance and I loved each other like you guys. We strived to make each other's lives more enriching and exciting each…"
"Dear Joe, I'm sorry for the loss of your wife. It warmed my heart this morning to read your touching tribute to her. I hope in time you can remember her with joy and fondness, as well as with tears. It sounds like you raised some wonderful…"
"Thank you Fran. A psyc I saw recommended by my PC (because he lost his wife a few years ago) definately didn't have what we had. He had a girl friend and said our deceased spouses would want us to have a full happy life. Well,…"
"Joe, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you've heard that a thousand times. This site is a good place to come and vent and not be judged by someone who has NO IDEA what you're going thru. We feel your pain, your agony because we are…"
""Grief counseling is not a magic bullet. We will feel what we feel until we heal." So true Brett. The counselor I see periodically does not push the grief process or closure. He encourages me to talk if I want to and gently gives…"
"Bulebell, I don't think it is inappropriate at all to say I love you to this group. I love everyone here. This is a group that understands because we are all experiencing tremendous grief. I am so tired of random people telling me that I need…"
"My Mom was cremated and her ashes were laid to rest in the ocean per her wishes. She wanted no services or even a celebration of her life. We honored her wishes, But I wish I had a place at a cemetery where I could go visit her. I think it might…"
"Marie my thoughts and prayers are with you, Brett is right we remember our moms everyday the same way, but for me it makes me feel happy to go to her grave and bring a flower and tell her I love her, but I tell her I love her every day and…"
"Marie D, Thank you for your condolences. I am heartbroken every minute of the day about it. A couple of days after it happened, I offered to pick up his ashes and death certificates. It is 2 in the morning right now, so I am doing that today and…"
"Marie, I am glad to see you post again. Mother's Day is my mom's birthday. Last years Mother's Day was really hard. I don't think it will be as bad this year. Seconds, minutes, and hours pass, and then it's another day. I…"
"Hi Brett, I am here, still struggling with deep depression. I need your and others advice, how do you handle Mother’s Day? This will be the first one since Mom passed on Christmas Day. I am overcome with grief, and dread just thinking about…"
"Hi Morgan, I'm so very sorry for your loss and heartbreak. It makes me wonder if asking people to write to their lost one on my website is just too much for many. I really hope people's words can make readers feel less alone in their grief…"
"Madeleine, what would I do if I could have my husband back for just five minutes? My first reaction would be to run into his arms, hug him and then make mad passionate love like we did so many times and then I would ask him if I could take the pills…"
"My sister kept some of my mom's voicemail to her. There is no way that I could listen to it. She also took some video footage of her while she was on Hospice. Seeing those would be very painful.
Like you, looking through a photo album is so…"
"Thank you Brett. I do try to honor her but it is so painful. I attended church service yesterday. I think I did pretty well. No unexpected outbursts. But then I came home and found an old album of photos, saw a picture of me and my mom…"
"Virginia, personally I am convinced, looking back, that my brain put up a shield to protect my mind from the devastating scene of my husband of 20 years dropping to his death in the shower. I'm still 99% nuts and that's the truth.…"
Hi, I'm new to this site and would love to share my new project inspired by the loss of my mom 24 years ago - www.yourjustfiveminutes.com.Just Five Minutes was created to help those dealing with grief reconnect to their lost loved one, either by dreaming the impossible, or by simply reading other peoples' words who may be experiencing a similar sense of loss as you.It asks one question: 'What would you do if... came…See More