First, I am so sorry you have suffered the loss of your family members and that they have happened so close together. The death of someone we love is devastating, but three deaths of fast . . . Well I wish I could give you a real hug.…"
Since i lost my sister which i am having trouble getting over.I have been having nightmares .I don't remember them but my husband says i talk in my sleep and it sounds like I'm fighting with someone .Last night he said i started tossing and turning and hit him in the jaw.Now he has a loose tooth.I was wondering if anyone else has had nightmares after the death of a loved one.
I am having a very hard time accepting the loss of my mother....I want to start this group to discuss how we can best cope with the loss of our loved ones as time goes on....it would be good to get ideas and to talk about
"I just found this forum.i lost my sister in oct of last year.She had a heart attack.I talked to her on the phone one night.And 3 hours later my nephew called and told me she had a heart attack. i am lost without her.She was my support in dealing…"
"im sorrry to hear yore husband has th c i cnt evn say ths word coz it maks me feal lik its chokng me
on my dads sid iv lost so amny to ths dese frm pel in th 30s to 80s
i wont evn get tested coz wot i dnt no wont hrt me
all i no…"
"i no tht fealing bobbie sisne my dad died so amny deaths has hpnd in family evn frinds of famly seam to be dyng 2
today i fogot all abot a grt grt cuzen he died stil brn lst yr on th 26th july 2012 fogot all abot till i saw som 1 in th famly it told…"
I love to be outside in the yard working in my garden or walking my two dogs
About my Loss:
My sister died suddenly from heart attack about 4 months ago she was always there for
me during my husband cancer I still miss her deeply then my father passed away suddenly from heart trouble about 5 months ago
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First, I am so sorry you have suffered the loss of your family members and that they have happened so close together. The death of someone we love is devastating, but three deaths of fast . . . Well I wish I could give you a real hug. (((((HUGS)))))
From your posts let me reassure you that you are perfectly normal. It is funny but that is exactly what I was asking when my father in law passed away. I got sick, like a stomach virus, it was so bad that I couldn't eat and the drive to his home town took a really long time since I had to keep stoping the car to find a restroom. I found a brochure WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE DIES extremely helpful as it reassured me that I was "normal" and so are you. Each of us travel this horrible grief highway in our own way and at our own pace. It is as unique as a fingerprint.
One thing the brochure mentioned was that talking is very helpful and you have found a great group here that will listen anytime you need. The following is a quote from the brochure:
"Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break."
Hanging in there days go by months go by and I just can’t believe this year will be four years I miss my mom every day I still cry but I know I have to live my life and keep going how are you doing I hope everything is going well with…"
"Thanks Morgan for commenting on my profile page. Wow...What u described that u go through every day of every year is exactly how I feel. I lost my girlfriend/fiance of 5 years to suicide. I know without a doubt in my mind that she is my soul mate so…"
If there was anything at all I could say, I would. No one who hasn't lost the love of their life can understand the amount of pain that stays with us for a very long time. I know at four years I was still banging…"
"Have heard the same thing about men and loneliness, based on the assumption that women usually have richer and more developed social networks, a wider range of relationships, etc. Of course this isn’t true of all women, though it seems…"
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"Our suffering is unbelievable and unbearable Dream Moon. We just jave to believe that there is an afterlife where we will be reunited with those we love. That's all I live for now. To die to be with my Loving wife. I…"
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"Why I don't know, but everyone dies someday. There is a lot of evil in our world who do terrible things. I'm sorry for your loss. I too suffer the loss of my wife and afraid my daughter will die soon from cancer. …"