"I don't think i can cope anymore, i thought i was doing ok but im in bits. Im in pain all over but the drs cant find anything wrong, i miss him so much that the thought of never seeing him or even hearing his voice again is killing me. Iv been…"
I want to hug you so much right now, i feel the very same i was with my partner for almost 18years and we had been through so much in that time. He was my everything, i could tell him things that i never told my family, he knew me…"
Firstly hugs to you for being so brave, it must not be easy to read all these messages and remembering how your own pain once was xx
I lost my partner suddenly last October just before his 32nd birthday, i miss him terribly but deep down i…"
Maxey i totally get you i feel lost without my partner, we live together for over 15years and did everything together. Iv recently come back from a holiday as i thought it would do the kids good to get away, it didn't do me any good…"
"Been to hospital again tonight for my chest, they run all the test and still cant find anything wrong. Gave me two paracetamol and sent me home. Sat here alone in pain not just from my chest but pain from missing him. Its been almost 6 months and…"
"Marjorie i have 6 children altogether but he is the oldest, the youngest is not even one yet. The days im not as bad as they all keep me busy but when they are not here or in bed its a nightmare sat here alone"
"Its been 5 months since i lost my partner and the Days seam to be getting worse here not easier, im crying every day. I struggle with the simplist of things. I cant seam to function without him tidy and my teenager has decided he doesn't want…"
"Well been to drs again and they still cant find out why im having chest pains (in even had a heart scan) They put me on new meds mirtazapine but im afraid to take them as i heard its hard to wake up and having young children i need to be able to get…"
"Same here, being in my house isn't the same even with little ones running about. Inside im screaming at those who ask if 'im OK' as the true answer is no I'll never be OK without my partner. He was and still is my everything i…"
"I'm so sorry for your sudden loss. That has to be the worst type of loss.....most unexpected. I lost my husband unexpectedly, but he was at the emergency room at the hospital. We did lose our son unexpectedly at home. (From a…"
I am sorry for your loss losing a partner is the most difficult thing I had ever had to deal with. I lost my husband 11 months ago and everyday feels like the first. I go through the motions. I do not have children so I can not relate to that…"
"I know the only way I could describe how I felt at the beginning was that I felt like I'd had a limb ripped off of my body. No surgery, just torn away. You're a team, it's a small team, only 2 members but still, 1/2 of the…"
"Thank you Peggy, im not sure how i came across this site but im glad i have somewhere to talk. I do have lots of support from family and friends but i feel they dont understand as they all still have their partners. I lost my father almost 5 years…"
"Oh sweetie, you're not single, you're a widow. He was your partner and had he not died, you'd be getting married. I'm so so sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine how difficult it must be for you with your…"
Im 31 and full time mum before my partner past away he proposed and we had planned on getting married this year (2018) i hate being called single as this was not an option we didnt split up although that wouldnt hurt as much as hed still be in mine and my childrens lives. We also planned on giving up smoking to which i will stick to and try my best
About my Loss:
i lost my partner in October just befor his 32 birthday, it came as a huge shock as he was fit and well. Myself and our children are struggling to come to terms with not seeing him anymore or even hearing his voice. My heart breaks everyday as my youngest only had 7 months with him and will only know him through memories of others.since the day he passed iv been to hospital six times and drs three times due to chest pains and they cant find anything wrong with me
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I know the only way I could describe how I felt at the beginning was that I felt like I'd had a limb ripped off of my body. No surgery, just torn away. You're a team, it's a small team, only 2 members but still, 1/2 of the team just disappears and not only do you no longer have your love with you, your cheerleader, your always supporter, your safe place to land... you're now also responsible for everything. It's overwhelming and impossible to really understand until you experience it for yourself. You be sure and take folks up on their offers of help, they want to help and it will make things a bit easier for you. xo
Oh sweetie, you're not single, you're a widow. He was your partner and had he not died, you'd be getting married. I'm so so sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine how difficult it must be for you with your children. I hope that you're feeling well supported by your family and friends right now. One thing I learned after losing my husband was that anxiety accompanies grief. I feel stupid to admit that I had no clue about that prior to losing him. Your chest pains could be panic / anxiety attacks. If you haven't already, I'd talk to my GP about anxiety. While I'm very sorry that you're here, I'm glad that you've found your way here. I think you'll find a lot of support here.
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