"Brett how awful!
Well I am not impressed with the group our church had, but what I did get from it was the idea to volunteer for one hour of my time at Adoration with the Blessed Sacrement.
Can I just tell you after I leave Adoration each Friday…"
"Sue I went to a grief support group at my church do you know what one guy said to me and he was a surgeon when I was telling my moms story he said well what did you want she was 92 how about that I never went back
He acted like I…"
"Brett I agree with you 100% the same exact thing occurred with me my friends my family for goodness sake half of my mothers family never even acknowledged her passing
I feel a special connection with you something has brought us to…"
"Sue My mom was the same way I never realized how many peoples lives she touched until she was gone all the way down to the guy at the 7-Eleven the guy at the Acme everywhere in her hometown she was kind compassionate caring she always calmed…"
"Yes Brett I suffer with anxiety, I worry constantly.
I think my dr is tired of hearing me, he prescribed some SSRI, but I am afraid to take it, go figure.
You brought tears to my eyes, I miss my mom and love her so much, sometimes I just shut my…"
" I am just sitting here reading what everyone has written and it’s just peaceful to know that we all feel the same
I only could wish that I could have a dream of my mom I have no dreams
Avi hope your daughters birthday…"
"So true Brett and Sue, people have no idea what we have went through until it happens to them.
Brett, I have become bitter, I have so much anger inside, and no tolerance for people at all.
Sometimes I think about quitting my job and looking for…"
"If it’s hot maybe just sit outside on your deck/patio with Her after she has done her business. I live in an apartment and I sit outside with Darby each morning. When I read what you and Sue have written I think I’m 10 times worse…"
"That is so hard to hear especially when you are leaving.
Is this a recent thing?
How old is she again?
It seems as though it’s always something new every day
I am agonizing over watching my boy get old. Before I always had my mom there for…"
"Sue I know exactly how you feel I still cry three years later it just hits me so hard some days I just try to keep going 1 foot in front of the other I’m getting ready to leave for church letting you know I’m thinking about you and…"
"Me too Brett, I sit here an look at my 12 year old Labrador and I know he is on borrowed time, and my heart breaks, losing him will be something that I am not looking forward to.
As you said Brett, we have the live our lives until we are called…"
Very sudden, Thursday mom said she felt constipated, Friday same to the dr, xray no obstruction, Saturday called dr he told her go to hospital, she called me I told her I would meet her there this was at 8:45am, as I was pulling in the hospital parking lot I got a call from them stating "your mother is in FULL CARDIAC ARREST" do you want us to do CPR.......that was it, I did not get there to say goodbye, I love you, nothing. We were very close I went there every Sunday, we talked at least ten times a day and every night before bed. There are no words to describe how I feel.....
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I am so sorry to hear you lost your mom but my heart breaks for you being unable to talk to her and say some final words. One thing I know for sure she loved you and felt your love for her. My mom and I have this kind of relationship. My husband and I are living in Ecuador as volunteer missionaries. The phone or faceTime is our constant friend. She always tells me how proud she is that we are serving and teaching the Bible to people who want to know the Bible.
I am glad to see you found this website and have made comments. Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2,18, 19;10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth:“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.” (quote from When Someone You Love Dies under the subtitle How Can I Live With My Grief? )
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I am truly sorry for your sudden and devastating loss. My mother and I were so very close as well..I feel; a lot for you...I too find this missing part-the biggest part of me, an unarticulatable force....
Theresa, I know how you feel about being sick or hurt the first time without your mother to call. I fell down on the sidewalk on the way into the hospital for routine check ups and ended up in ER for X Rays. My mother was the first person I thought to call. It really hurts. For me I am coming up on 5 years and can say for me I still feel a huge void in my life. Feeling sad.
Theresa, I hope things get better for you. Don't blame yourself for not seeing that something was wrong. I'm sure you would've done everything in your power to help your mom had you known. The love between you and your mom will last forever and that love will carry you through. I cry everyday too. I hate the anxiety and the loneliness and that my life has been turned upside down but I have to get through it somehow.
"Strike those vacations below, they'll never be another one. Went on a memorial cruise with my daughter and family four months after she passed because she was so looking forward to it. It hurt enough to know they'll be no more."
"Yes Elynn, the loneliness. That's painful. They're not here and always was. Our best friend, lover, and most precious thing we had. We were lucky enough to spend the last 8 1/2 years together, joined at the…"
"Every day for me is the same day she passed. Not a joyful or even an ok moment. I spend a little time with the children and grands and do my best to hide my emotions, but they all know how I am inside, even the youngest grand at age 4…"
"Avi, I don't know if we can rethink our emotions that way. Our emotions are what they are, although reason can help us form our emotions and hopefully change them for the better. I don't know if my mom can hear me or not. I certainly…"
"How are you all doing?
I had bad last 2 days. Felt lot of guilt and cried. There were some moments which made me remember my mother.
Also I hear comforting words by a lady that people who have gone from this world can still feel your…"
"I wonder how i am managing. Not well and to be onest today I wanted to just set a date with death. I am approaching seven years of being without him and though I function towards the outside world better and my crying has lessened but at the…"
If you have lost a loved one to alcohol, substance abuse or suicide please share your story or feelings here. Share the love and beauty of the one you lost. Losing someone any of these ways is not natural and can be hard to understand and ask why? I lost my Mother to an overdose 9 years ago. She also suffered from major depression. Her doctor got her hooked on pain medication and she was addicted most of my life. These doctors who were suppose to help her ended up killing her in the end. I also…See More
"I am very sorry to hear about your Mom passing. I lost my Mother to an overdose 9 years ago and just my identical twin sister last month to an overdose. My mother and I were not as close as I would have liked. The disease kept her depressed and…"