"So sorry to welcome you to www.onlinegriefsupport.com. I lost my dad 9 months ago to COPD/emphysema. Watching him go was a terrible experience! I tried to comfort him and spent about 20 of his last hours singing to him and playing music he loved.…"
Oct 31, 2017
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I love life and I always try to see the positive side of every bad situation but sometimes depression sets in and i need to talk about things to friends and/or family but its hard to burden them with my problems. I have anxiety issues, its harder for me to open up to someone face to face. I have lost family members and friends but the loss of my dad is the worst pain ever.
About my Loss:
The most hurtful loss in my life was when i watched as my dad pass away 6 months ago of emphysema and COPD. He passed away the day after Father’s Day, Its been tough and its affecting my relationship with everyone, I don’t really want engage in social activities anymore, i know its not healthy, my doctor said i need grief counseling but its tough for me to talk face to face, i am giving this a try as i am trying to help myself move forward instead of the what-ifs and things i keep looking back to.
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So sorry to welcome you to www.onlinegriefsupport.com. I lost my dad 9 months ago to COPD/emphysema. Watching him go was a terrible experience! I tried to comfort him and spent about 20 of his last hours singing to him and playing music he loved. They told me he could hear me and encouraged me to keep singing and playing music. I guess it did comfort us both...
I really appreciated a brochure, WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE DIES. I think the advise in the brochure is very practical.
"*** we pp. 14-15 How Can I Live With My Grief? *** Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.” So talking about your feelings to “a true companion” who will listen patiently and sympathetically can bring a measure of relief. (Proverbs 17:17) Putting experiences and feelings into words often makes it easier to understand them and to deal with them. And if the listener is another bereaved person who has effectively dealt with his or her own loss, you may be able to glean some practical suggestions on how you can cope. When her child died, one mother explained why it helped to talk to another woman who had faced a similar loss: “To know that somebody else had gone through the same thing, had come out whole from it, and that she was still surviving and finding some sort of order in her life again was very strengthening to me.” What if you are not comfortable talking about your feelings? Following the death of Saul and Jonathan, David composed a highly emotional dirge in which he poured out his grief. This mournful composition eventually became part of the written record of the Bible book of Second Samuel. (2 Samuel 1:17-27; 2 Chronicles 35:25) Similarly, some find it easier to express themselves in writing. One widow reported that she would write down her feelings and then days later read over what she had written. She found this a helpful release. Whether by talking or writing, communicating your feelings can help you to release your grief. It can also help to clear up misunderstandings. A bereaved mother explains: “My husband and I heard of other couples that got divorced after losing a child, and we didn’t want that to happen to us. So any time we felt angry, wanting to blame each other, we would talk it out. I think we really grew closer together by doing that.” Thus, letting your feelings be known can help you to understand that even though you may be sharing the same loss, others may grieve differently—at their own pace and in their own way."
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