After my son's fiancee was killed in a wreck in a car driven by a friend of hers who survived the wreck but ended in a wheelchair, all the mutual friends of my son's and his fiancee's and the girl that survived rallied around the girl that lived...which of course is understandable and loving of them...BUT they seemed to totally forget about my SON who was so grief stricken and shocked and alone...it was as if they felt it would be disloyal or something if they comforted him ...like it might be indicating that they held the girl that lived accountable for my son's fiancee's death...well she WAS partly to blame for sure because she was driving under the influence of alcohol AND speeding, but even so my son's fiancee was also at fault for going with her [my son had asked her not to because she was such a notoriously bad driver, and often drank and drove]...also my son's fiancee wasn't wearing a seatbelt so was thrown from the car...but my son had to face his grief without much support from MOST of their mutual friends, which really hurt and I believe left scars that are still painful after all these years....we moved up from 600 miles away to try to help him, but of course there was little anyone could do...but it would have been so good if his "friends" would have supported him...his fiancee's FAMILY was WONDERFUL to all of us...which is the only way any of us made it through that HORRIBLE NIGHTMARE...so I can understand your pain over the loss of your son and the rest of the world going willy nilly along ...I seems so unreal ....I hope you can find some peace and some way to feel close to your son and can believe that we WILL have life together again one day where there are nothing but "UNCLOUDY DAYS" forever...its MY only hope...
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