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Jan 22
Brenda Ann left a comment for Silke B.
"May I suggest a Group that you may enjoy joining. Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one? Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one? This group was started because many are…"
Jan 7
Brenda Ann left a comment for Silke B.
"2 Thessalonians 2: 16 & 17 = "Moreover, may our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and gave everlasting comfort and good hope by means of undeserved kindness,  comfort your hearts and make you…"
Jan 5
Silke B. commented on Kar's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"When the stars shine up in the sky, I miss you. When the sun rises & sets every day, I miss you. When the rain falls and everything looks bright and beautiful, I miss you. Every day, every hour, in every way, in everything I do, I miss you."
Jul 17, 2018

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lost my 16 year old son

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At 7:14am on January 7, 2019, Brenda Ann said…

May I suggest a Group that you may enjoy joining. Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one? Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one? This group was started because many are hurting so bad that their faith has been effected.  This is a place you can vent or even ask questions that brother you. Can the Bible or God help you through your grief?  Who is the cause of death? You can go to this group and vent or ask questions.

I am so sorry to hear that your son passed away. Everyone on this website has struggled with the grief of losings grieve differently and in our own time. However, one thing stands out as a help, talking". 

Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.”

So talking about your feelings to “a true companion” who will listen patiently and sympathetically can bring a measure of relief. (Proverbs 17:17) Putting experiences and feelings into words often makes it easier to understand them and to deal with them. And if the listener is another bereaved person who has effectively dealt with his or her own loss, you may be able to glean some practical suggestions on how you can cope. When her child died, one mother explained why it helped to talk to another woman who had faced a similar loss: “To know that somebody else had gone through the same thing, had come out whole from it, and that she was still surviving and finding some sort of order in her life again was very strengthening to me.”

I hope you will see that I will be happy to listen and that everyone on www.onlinegriefsupport.com is happy to talk and be your friend. Please don't suffer alone.

Brenda

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At 7:41am on January 5, 2019, Brenda Ann said…

2 Thessalonians 2: 16 & 17 = "Moreover, may our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and gave everlasting comfort and good hope by means of undeserved kindness,  comfort your hearts and make you firm in every good deed and word."

Silke, what can I do to help, I care? (((((HUGS)))))

Brenda

At 10:24pm on March 2, 2017, Rita said…

Silke B. I am so sorry that you and I are here along with others grieving for their loss. Trying to find some comfort or something that will lessen the pain and there really isn't any at least for me. I just want to know there are other people hurting as much as I do...The heartache is almost too much to bear. Children do not go before their parents it just not suppose to happen that way! Heartfelt Hugs to you!

At 1:14pm on March 1, 2017, Rita said…

Silke B. my son Jesse also had a heart attack in 2014. He was lucky though, at the time he was working with an ex first responder, Richard (a very good and long time friend to us.) He and Richard had gone to the truck to get something and Jesse turned around and said "Damn Richard" and hit the ground. Richard told me he was blue when he hit the ground. Richard started CPR and when the first responders got there they took over while they waited for the ambulance 20 minutes away. The first responders wanted to quit because they thought Jesse was dead but Richard told them they couldn't. The paramedics had to shock his heart 3 times to get it back in rhythm. They rushed him to the hospital. He ended up with a defibrillator/pacemaker. He was 36 years old.. He didn't have other health issues that we knew of. The doctors told me that only 5 to 10% of people that have this type of heart attack survive. (I can't remember what they called it but the doctor said the heart quivers like a bowl of Jello.) When he finally was able to come home his short term memory was affected but that seemed to be the only thing wrong. I was so thankful he was with someone that knew CPR and a friend that wouldn't stop nor let anyone else stop. I have had a hard time with the fact that I think he may have had another heart attack that led to his fatal wreck. But no one, the paramedics or the ME read his defibrillator. I was in such shock I didn't realize I should have requested it and he was cremated.... All was gone... There is more details to this story too much to go into here but I thought the fact that a young man with a defibrillator would have been a red flag. But because he had some beer cans in his pickup and had been drinking, (he drank at least a 12pk everyday) they just assumed he was drunk and wrecked.. End of case, cause of death blunt force trauma due to drinking and driving too fast. I have no complete answers, and I will always feel like it was his heart. He knew the rural road he was on like the back of his hand....and he wasn't a speed freak. I know these two things for a fact... I am still in shock and disbelief....I also question my faith and wonder why God was with him one during the first crisis and not this time..... 

At 9:49am on March 1, 2017, Dolly said…

We were on vacation at the beach.. my son's favorite place in all the world.. and suddenly one morning he just died.. we've never been able to get past the horror and pain.. they said it was a 'cardiac event' and he did have multiple health issues but had had the for years... we too struggled with our faith..but I kept coming back to the reality that the only way I would ever see him again was if God was real and we would all meet in heaven.. so we're holding on to that.. and many many things have happened to show us that he is still alive... hold onto that if you can... its all we really have to hold on to now..

At 8:06pm on February 28, 2017, Teresa D. said…

Silke B. My heart is with you.  I'm so sorry you have to experience the loss of your son.  I know how horrible something so sudden can be. All I can say right now is we're here for you. 

 
 
 

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