Shane B Crone
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Roy Edward Hunt left a comment for Shane B Crone
"Shane...My heart feels your pain, the same pain that I feel over the loss of my beautiful partner, Brad, who was only 35 years old. You and Christian should have had many wonderful years together and now you are suffering this traumatic loss at such…"
Sep 5, 2011
Sue Waxman replied to Shane B Crone's discussion The love of my life just fell off of a four story building and landed on a cement patio. Will I ever see him again? in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"Dear Shane, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved partner. The way his family has treated you is beyond ugly. What disrespect they show to you the person he loved. A lot of us have experienced the same garbage with our own families. Shane...I…"
Jul 31, 2011
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About Me:
I am a publicist and I live in Los Angeles.
About my Loss:
My partner fell off a four story building. He was taking photographs of one of our friends on her roof. We have been on her roof over a hundred times. He was taking some photos and stepped backwards and lost his balance and fell. There isn't a railing on the roof because it wasn't designed for people to be up there. He landed on a cement patio below.

I wasn't there. I found out that it took over 30 minutes for an ambulance to get there and when they finally arrived they didn't even run over to him. They asked my friend if she had his ID's. My friend yelled at them to help him. So eventually they took him to the ER.

When I got to the emergency room no one would tell me what was happening. Eventually a nurse told me that they had everyone working on him. After an hour a doctor came in and told me they couldn't save him.

A few hours after he passed it brought us to Sunday, which was Mother's day. There were so many things that happened while his mother was her....but in a nutshell she didn't do one that my partner would've wanted and she was only concerned about bank accounts and life insurance policies. While my family stayed in hotels and had to rent cars, his mom forced herself into my home. She tried to take everything and eventually she went to a hotel and I never heard from her again. I flew to Chicago to go to the funeral because she was having his body flown so he could be buried back home (Which he no longer considered his home) and I got a phone call from my partner's aunt telling me that his parents will physically hurt me if I try to show up to the funeral. I wasn't able to attend his funeral. I didn't get to see the burial.

There were so many other things that took place but the most important thing is I lost the love of my life, the one person who truly got me. We lived together and worked together. We literally spent almost 24 hours a day together for over seven years. I can't do one thing without it being a part of my life I shared with him. I run our company alone now and for the most part I still don't feel like he is gone. I mean I know he's no longer here but it feels like I can just call him or text him.

It's hard to relate to anyone. Most people don't know what to say and they give advice when they don't know what the hell they are talking about. I mean I didn't get to say goodbye and I don't want to say losing a mother to cancer is not as bad as a tragic death for a young person because you had time to say goodbye.

All I know is I hope to see him again someday...and the idea of not seeing him again makes me question life. What's the point of life? Why does stuff like this have to happen?

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At 12:58pm on September 5, 2011, Roy Edward Hunt said…
Shane...My heart feels your pain, the same pain that I feel over the loss of my beautiful partner, Brad, who was only 35 years old. You and Christian should have had many wonderful years together and now you are suffering this traumatic loss at such a young age. But your youth is a benefit - you will move on with your life when you're ready. I'm not so sure about myself. I am not a religious person, but I do believe that God = love = energy and energy can't be destroyed. That energy (soul if you will) exists outside the body (contrary to Christian beliefs) and so the attachment we have to the other people in our lives is never lost. I feel Brad's energy around me all the time and I often connect most strongly with it in my dreams.  A friend of mine created a small, Buddhist-like shrine on the lanai where Brad lost his life in our pool.  Just a bouquet of flowers, a candle, and a few personal items that had meaning for the two of us. I can't tell you how much peace that shrine brought to me those first few days after his death. The shrine is gone now, but I still feel his presence whenever I go out to the lanai. I am gearing myself up for a memorial service on 9/17, when our friends will get together and tell Brad stories and talk about the influence he had on our lives. Then we'll float his ashes out to sea in a rice paper "boat." It might help if you and your friends have a similar service and though you won't have his ashes, perhaps a nice picture of him (you have so many) would be a substitute. I think that all of these little memorials are very helpful in the grieving process. But the most important thing to remember is that it's only his physical body that is separated from you. If you calmly reflect on all the wonderful moments you two shared, I think you'll feel his presence surrounding you like loving arms. At least that is my experience. Know that you are not alone - we all share your loss, as you share ours.
 
 
 

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"I'm so sorry, I do know how you feel, I was married to my husband 33yrs and together 40yrs, all I do is cry. Sometimes I think what is the use of getting out of bed, even though I have a large family and friends , I just feel alone and the odd…"
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"stanley i'm sorry for your loss you are right this is not easy to be honest i have no clue how i made it this far. i have lost faith and i lost that when my wife got sick and now with my mom being gone i  have no faith at all and i have to…"
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I lost my husband of 33years last year, I have been with him 40yrs, since I'm 16yrs old, we have 3 children and I am expecting my first gran child in 3 months, it is so bitter sweet as he would have been the best grandpa. I am so lost. I don't know what to do with my self, I have a very large family and many friend and can be with all of them an yet I feel alone. And to make things worse I lost my mom 6 months ago. Everyone says it take times and they understand, but they don't understand, and…See More
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do things seem to get harder for everyone or is it just me?

ive realized here latley as each day goes on things seem to get harder and harder not having parebts to call or my best friend makes it even worse i think..am i the only one feeling this way?See More
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Stanley Ruiz replied to Zell's discussion I cannot live without the love of my life in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"I AM A GAY GUY AND I LOST MY PARTNER  .THIS OCTOBER 29  ANNIVERSARY ,   WILL BE MY SECOND YEAR  WITHOUT HIM AND I STILL CRY AND I LIVE IN THE SAME  HOUSE  THAT WE SHARED WITH MANY MEMORIES.  IT IS NOT EASY…"
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stewart p replied to Zell's discussion I cannot live without the love of my life in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
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sandy replied to Zell's discussion Anybody here on anti-depressants?
"My husband passes away 2 months ago I wouldn't wish this pain and loniness and hurt on my worst enemy they started me on celetcia I guess is how u spell it today"
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