Shane B Crone
  • Male
  • Beverly Hills, CA
  • United States
Share
  • Blog Posts
  • Discussions
  • Groups (1)
  • Photos
  • Photo Albums
  • Videos

Shane B Crone's Groups

Gifts Received

Gift

Shane B Crone has not received any gifts yet

Give a Gift

 

Shane B Crone's Page

Latest Activity

Roy Edward Hunt left a comment for Shane B Crone
"Shane...My heart feels your pain, the same pain that I feel over the loss of my beautiful partner, Brad, who was only 35 years old. You and Christian should have had many wonderful years together and now you are suffering this traumatic loss at such…"
Sep 5, 2011
Sue Waxman replied to Shane B Crone's discussion The love of my life just fell off of a four story building and landed on a cement patio. Will I ever see him again? in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"Dear Shane, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved partner. The way his family has treated you is beyond ugly. What disrespect they show to you the person he loved. A lot of us have experienced the same garbage with our own families. Shane...I…"
Jul 31, 2011
Shane B Crone updated their profile photo
Jul 30, 2011
Shane B Crone joined Julie Dolsey-Weiss's group
Jul 30, 2011
Shane B Crone is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Jul 30, 2011

Profile Information

About Me:
I am a publicist and I live in Los Angeles.
About my Loss:
My partner fell off a four story building. He was taking photographs of one of our friends on her roof. We have been on her roof over a hundred times. He was taking some photos and stepped backwards and lost his balance and fell. There isn't a railing on the roof because it wasn't designed for people to be up there. He landed on a cement patio below.

I wasn't there. I found out that it took over 30 minutes for an ambulance to get there and when they finally arrived they didn't even run over to him. They asked my friend if she had his ID's. My friend yelled at them to help him. So eventually they took him to the ER.

When I got to the emergency room no one would tell me what was happening. Eventually a nurse told me that they had everyone working on him. After an hour a doctor came in and told me they couldn't save him.

A few hours after he passed it brought us to Sunday, which was Mother's day. There were so many things that happened while his mother was her....but in a nutshell she didn't do one that my partner would've wanted and she was only concerned about bank accounts and life insurance policies. While my family stayed in hotels and had to rent cars, his mom forced herself into my home. She tried to take everything and eventually she went to a hotel and I never heard from her again. I flew to Chicago to go to the funeral because she was having his body flown so he could be buried back home (Which he no longer considered his home) and I got a phone call from my partner's aunt telling me that his parents will physically hurt me if I try to show up to the funeral. I wasn't able to attend his funeral. I didn't get to see the burial.

There were so many other things that took place but the most important thing is I lost the love of my life, the one person who truly got me. We lived together and worked together. We literally spent almost 24 hours a day together for over seven years. I can't do one thing without it being a part of my life I shared with him. I run our company alone now and for the most part I still don't feel like he is gone. I mean I know he's no longer here but it feels like I can just call him or text him.

It's hard to relate to anyone. Most people don't know what to say and they give advice when they don't know what the hell they are talking about. I mean I didn't get to say goodbye and I don't want to say losing a mother to cancer is not as bad as a tragic death for a young person because you had time to say goodbye.

All I know is I hope to see him again someday...and the idea of not seeing him again makes me question life. What's the point of life? Why does stuff like this have to happen?

Comment Wall (1 comment)

You need to be a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community to add comments!

Join Online Grief Support - A Social Community

At 12:58pm on September 5, 2011, Roy Edward Hunt said…
Shane...My heart feels your pain, the same pain that I feel over the loss of my beautiful partner, Brad, who was only 35 years old. You and Christian should have had many wonderful years together and now you are suffering this traumatic loss at such a young age. But your youth is a benefit - you will move on with your life when you're ready. I'm not so sure about myself. I am not a religious person, but I do believe that God = love = energy and energy can't be destroyed. That energy (soul if you will) exists outside the body (contrary to Christian beliefs) and so the attachment we have to the other people in our lives is never lost. I feel Brad's energy around me all the time and I often connect most strongly with it in my dreams.  A friend of mine created a small, Buddhist-like shrine on the lanai where Brad lost his life in our pool.  Just a bouquet of flowers, a candle, and a few personal items that had meaning for the two of us. I can't tell you how much peace that shrine brought to me those first few days after his death. The shrine is gone now, but I still feel his presence whenever I go out to the lanai. I am gearing myself up for a memorial service on 9/17, when our friends will get together and tell Brad stories and talk about the influence he had on our lives. Then we'll float his ashes out to sea in a rice paper "boat." It might help if you and your friends have a similar service and though you won't have his ashes, perhaps a nice picture of him (you have so many) would be a substitute. I think that all of these little memorials are very helpful in the grieving process. But the most important thing to remember is that it's only his physical body that is separated from you. If you calmly reflect on all the wonderful moments you two shared, I think you'll feel his presence surrounding you like loving arms. At least that is my experience. Know that you are not alone - we all share your loss, as you share ours.
 
 
 

Groups

Latest Activity

Helder Silva joined Amy S's group
Thumbnail

Loss of A Pet

For anyone that knows and understands the loss of a pet and how to cope with the emptiness that brings.
6 minutes ago
Angela smith commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Today  was  a rough day. I literally  counted the minutes of my day that seemed so long without  my mom here  with  me and my siblings .  I have so much to  do  yet could not  accomplish  much…"
8 minutes ago
Angela smith commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Hugs to  you  charity and all  those who  suffer from sadness and loneliness  without  their  beloved  mom's  to find  comfort . "
12 minutes ago
Denise commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"(((((hugs to you all))))) and thanks for the help here even though I've only been on here very little in this past year it's a little easier talking to some that know how you feel. I don't visit the graveyard very often at all and is…"
33 minutes ago
Bill Smith replied to Debbie's discussion Help please in the group Losing Someone to Cancer
"I'm very sorry for your loss and all your troubles.  I lost my beloved to cancer at just a slightly older age.  Anyway, a few thoughts...... - Maybe you should stop "trying to be brave," which sounds like it means…"
52 minutes ago
ditab posted a status
54 minutes ago
ditab posted a status
54 minutes ago
Bill Smith replied to JO B alexio's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Losing Someone to Cancer
"Brilliant posts like this why a license should be required to use the internet.  "
1 hour ago
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B alexio's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"I CAM IMAGINE HOW YOU FEEL AND GETTING SICK ABOUT THESE SCAMS ARE THE PROBLEM AND IT MAKES ME SICK AND A LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE SICK.I WISH SOMETHING OULD BE DONE.I WILL DO SOME PRAYING FOR YOU .YOUR GOOD FRIEND STANLEY"
1 hour ago
ditab posted a status
1 hour ago
ditab posted a status
1 hour ago
JO B alexio replied to JO B alexio's discussion mad at god
" i no coz lfe 2 shrt why not cry cums gos on me yea i no imnot evn if i say i am yep its hrd nott 2 i hng evry 1 wud be happy if i wz nt hear yep thy do yea cz we miss evry 1 nt slf pity its coz of loss wish is so nastyyy"
2 hours ago
JO B alexio replied to JO B alexio's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"i god sic of it stan i postd on grps on hear so we cud do sum thng abot it i god so sic coz i cud of dun wth chat on hhear fr lastt few days u cud say nt spams scams killed it thy hav "
2 hours ago
Sharon commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Denise, so sorry for your loss. I lost my son in February. I think the same thing everyday... how can I go on without him. Will I ever be happy again?  If we could only go back to happier times.... Vasanthi.... I do believe that your son heard…"
2 hours ago
Connie K commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"So wonderful to hear from you Vasanthi. Beautiful picture and beautiful heart as always...."
2 hours ago
JO B alexio replied to JO B alexio's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"yep we do"
2 hours ago
JO B alexio replied to JO B alexio's discussion no 1 can get on in the group dreams
"i no iv reprtd i hav we all hav stan "
2 hours ago
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B alexio's discussion no 1 can get on in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
" I just can not believe that this is happening .We all need you to continue Stan"
2 hours ago
Stanley Ruiz replied to JO B alexio's discussion no 1 can get on in the group dreams
"IT IS A SHAME YOU CAN NOT GET ON LINE  and you have the support of so many people.Stan"
2 hours ago
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"It will be a year in one week.  A year since I saw Diane and talked to her for the last time.  The past 12 months have been like a bad dream.  If I wasn't sobbing for the first 8 months, I was numb.  As this anniversary…"
3 hours ago

© 2015   Created by Diana Y.

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service