Shane B Crone
  • Male
  • Beverly Hills, CA
  • United States
Share
  • Blog Posts
  • Discussions
  • Groups (1)
  • Photos
  • Photo Albums
  • Videos

Shane B Crone's Groups

Gifts Received

Gift

Shane B Crone has not received any gifts yet

Give a Gift

 

Shane B Crone's Page

Profile Information

About Me:
I am a publicist and I live in Los Angeles.
About my Loss:
My partner fell off a four story building. He was taking photographs of one of our friends on her roof. We have been on her roof over a hundred times. He was taking some photos and stepped backwards and lost his balance and fell. There isn't a railing on the roof because it wasn't designed for people to be up there. He landed on a cement patio below.

I wasn't there. I found out that it took over 30 minutes for an ambulance to get there and when they finally arrived they didn't even run over to him. They asked my friend if she had his ID's. My friend yelled at them to help him. So eventually they took him to the ER.

When I got to the emergency room no one would tell me what was happening. Eventually a nurse told me that they had everyone working on him. After an hour a doctor came in and told me they couldn't save him.

A few hours after he passed it brought us to Sunday, which was Mother's day. There were so many things that happened while his mother was her....but in a nutshell she didn't do one that my partner would've wanted and she was only concerned about bank accounts and life insurance policies. While my family stayed in hotels and had to rent cars, his mom forced herself into my home. She tried to take everything and eventually she went to a hotel and I never heard from her again. I flew to Chicago to go to the funeral because she was having his body flown so he could be buried back home (Which he no longer considered his home) and I got a phone call from my partner's aunt telling me that his parents will physically hurt me if I try to show up to the funeral. I wasn't able to attend his funeral. I didn't get to see the burial.

There were so many other things that took place but the most important thing is I lost the love of my life, the one person who truly got me. We lived together and worked together. We literally spent almost 24 hours a day together for over seven years. I can't do one thing without it being a part of my life I shared with him. I run our company alone now and for the most part I still don't feel like he is gone. I mean I know he's no longer here but it feels like I can just call him or text him.

It's hard to relate to anyone. Most people don't know what to say and they give advice when they don't know what the hell they are talking about. I mean I didn't get to say goodbye and I don't want to say losing a mother to cancer is not as bad as a tragic death for a young person because you had time to say goodbye.

All I know is I hope to see him again someday...and the idea of not seeing him again makes me question life. What's the point of life? Why does stuff like this have to happen?

Comment Wall (1 comment)

You need to be a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community to add comments!

Join Online Grief Support - A Social Community

At 12:58pm on September 5, 2011, Roy Edward Hunt said…
Shane...My heart feels your pain, the same pain that I feel over the loss of my beautiful partner, Brad, who was only 35 years old. You and Christian should have had many wonderful years together and now you are suffering this traumatic loss at such a young age. But your youth is a benefit - you will move on with your life when you're ready. I'm not so sure about myself. I am not a religious person, but I do believe that God = love = energy and energy can't be destroyed. That energy (soul if you will) exists outside the body (contrary to Christian beliefs) and so the attachment we have to the other people in our lives is never lost. I feel Brad's energy around me all the time and I often connect most strongly with it in my dreams.  A friend of mine created a small, Buddhist-like shrine on the lanai where Brad lost his life in our pool.  Just a bouquet of flowers, a candle, and a few personal items that had meaning for the two of us. I can't tell you how much peace that shrine brought to me those first few days after his death. The shrine is gone now, but I still feel his presence whenever I go out to the lanai. I am gearing myself up for a memorial service on 9/17, when our friends will get together and tell Brad stories and talk about the influence he had on our lives. Then we'll float his ashes out to sea in a rice paper "boat." It might help if you and your friends have a similar service and though you won't have his ashes, perhaps a nice picture of him (you have so many) would be a substitute. I think that all of these little memorials are very helpful in the grieving process. But the most important thing to remember is that it's only his physical body that is separated from you. If you calmly reflect on all the wonderful moments you two shared, I think you'll feel his presence surrounding you like loving arms. At least that is my experience. Know that you are not alone - we all share your loss, as you share ours.
 
 
 

Latest Activity

BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I tried Lexapro Theresa. It made me sick, unfocused, fatigued, gave me motion sickness, and made me sleepy as H E double L. It was not the drug for me. I had an abnormal reaction to it. But it is a good antidepressant for others.  My head hurts…"
11 minutes ago
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Congratulations Avi!!!! Enjoy!!! Brett, I am anxious even before I get out of the bed and that starts everything my IBS, anxiety, headache, I will be honest I have taken Lexapro 5mg for a while after my mom passed, I stopped, I felt like a bloated…"
3 hours ago
Virginia G commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brett do you not work regular hours since you’re up late always?   Today when I got up I said I was afraid to be awake.  This is how messed up my mind is."
7 hours ago
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Avi, your mom knows exactly how much you love her. She knows now more than ever."
7 hours ago
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Virginia, I think we would all want a do-over even if we had done everything right. I did cry in front of my mom on many occasions. I can't say that I regret that. I think all of that was an affirmation of love, though I am sure that it caused…"
7 hours ago
BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"My car is red too. It is such a happy color."
7 hours ago
BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Awesome car Avi Bluebell"
7 hours ago
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Guys this is my first car, bought specifically as a wish of my deceased mother. She loved red. "
7 hours ago
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
7 hours ago
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Virginia, that is the biggest setback. We do not get a second chance. Yesterday my father told me something that is causing lot of pain, regret but I am still holding up my emotions. He told me about few gestures of me and my wife which used to hurt…"
7 hours ago
Virginia G commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brett,  I cried in the oncologists office many times and in the radiologist office so I guess I’m really bad.  I am not strong like her. I should’ve thought of how she felt instead of my own fear.  I did this the whole…"
8 hours ago
Virginia G replied to Virginia G's discussion Daylight
"Britt, I think I am more jealous when I see other people, in particular families, because I don’t have mine now.  My world is upside down and I dont belong in it now.  I don’t feel as though I deserve to be happy because I have…"
8 hours ago
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"That's just not what I pictured at all. No blue hair. No cat glasses. You probably don't even have a leopard print jumpsuit."
10 hours ago
Britt Steele replied to Virginia G's discussion Daylight
"Hey, I read your post.  I think I've gone through some of what you've felt.  Why do you feel as if you shouldn't live a happy life?  Have you removed yourself from some aspects of the reality of life to dull yourself of…"
10 hours ago
Britt Steele replied to Virginia G's discussion Daylight
"Virginia, I thought of some things, but I wanted to ask you some stuff, without making any presumptions.  Do you feel like you don't deserve to be happy like what you are seeing of the people you are seeing during the day?  Do you…"
10 hours ago
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Great photo Bluebell!"
18 hours ago
BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
21 hours ago
BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I did not fall. I do not have high blood pressure. It was just a fluke with no apparent cause at this time. I am thinking of you all and wishing you the best. It makes me dizzy to read very much, so I have to keep it simple. I love you all. I am…"
21 hours ago
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Virginia, I had numbness when my mother took her last breath in ICU. I did not know what to do and doctor told me that she is not in good condition and just let her go. I requested them to try their best but did not ask too many questions. This was…"
yesterday
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Sorry my computer is a little behind everyones posts are not showing up unless I click on them  sorry"
yesterday

© 2018   Created by Jarvis.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service