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Nora commented on Jesse's Mom's group Signs from Our Loved Ones
"I find this interesting. Signs from our deceased ones. Can Our Deceased Loved Ones Still Hear Us? Please read comments also."
Jul 17
Nora added a discussion to the group How to move on...
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Letting Go of the Worry That Weighs Us Down-By Lisa Jeffs

I find this calmingWe worry too much and I am sure some things we worry about even dont deserve our attention but we worry and they drain our energy that we already dont have right now...“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.” ~Eckhart TolleAs a child, I remember my daily walks to elementary school. It was an uphill walk for the most part. Quite symbolic of later years, now that I…See More
Jul 14
Nora replied to Jackie cooke's discussion Moving on in the group How to move on...
"Moving on is not forgetting. Moving on for me right now is only taking myself to some other level - better to say moving out of pain. Guilt. Jakie sent me some time a site where they say - you did not cause his death, you did not kill or hurt…"
Jun 26
Nora replied to Nora's discussion No Nesting In My Hair in the group How to move on...
"Today was the day when they nested in my hair. I failed today. At the same time I did many things - only decided not to go anywhere as I cried and my eyes hurt. My condition is not healthy, it is exhausting. I am getting very tired and upset. It is…"
Jun 25
Nora added a discussion to the group How to move on...
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No Nesting In My Hair

"You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair". ~ Old Chinese ProverbI have one more member of the group now so its better to make discussions.This is how I feel right now. Fetus? Egg? it's against nature to stay like this... Broken wings, broken heart, broken hopes, broken life... For 3 months I was tempted to lessen this tragedy in your life by numbing your mind with alcohol or drugs or escape from it by reading…See More
Jun 24
Nora and Lost with out him are now friends
Jun 24
Nora commented on Steph's group How to move on...
"This is my meditation that I use in the evening. Coping with Grief: Guided Spoken Meditation for healing after a los... Day number 1 - today I decided to notice more positive things around. Cannot say it worked but at least I started. Went shopping…"
Jun 24
Nora commented on Steph's group How to move on...
"I have decided to create a Moving On group today but then I found that Steph who is not a member anymore already created this group so I am reincarnating it. I have the same pain as anybody else here ut I want to slowly work back to some other…"
Jun 24
Nora joined Steph's group
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How to move on...

How to move on after the loss of your significant other? Is this possible? When? Navigating through this process while also dealing with your grief. See More
Jun 24
KIM Montgomery left a comment for Nora
"Nora,  Our group is run through Kaiser and we meet every week.  It helps. I am actually thinking about individual counseling as well. Today was a really rough day.  I do know I have to come to work. Working from home I just want to…"
Jun 22
Nora replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Kim, How often do you have meetings? I found a group but they only meet eery 3 weeks. I am not sure yet. Thank you for sharing your daughter's experience. Steve's daughter was really grieving at the beginning but now she only…"
Jun 22
Nora replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Kim, ladies, I just found some thought that actually explains how I feel now: Sounds familiar? Grieving and trying to be nice, crying and smiling to look nice next minute... It is a great movie anyway - watch when you can."
Jun 21
Nora replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Thank you, Jackie. Those horrible panic attacks just visit us often. Suddenly the whole world is turning black and no oxygen anymore. Jackie, I accept you as acting Steve - I hope he does not mind - and I really appreciate your support - I know you…"
Jun 20
Nora posted a status
"Hi, Pumpkin! 3 months without you today. Started looking for a job. I know you are proud of me now. But it is so hard without you. Love""
Jun 20
Nora replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Ladies, I just had one more pain caused by simple actions that I even did not pay attention to before. Well, I sat to start looking for a job. It was already hard as I have a "meeting people & leaving the house" anxiety. Also, it…"
Jun 19
Nora replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Missing my Best Friend in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Kim, If I could I would just copy each word of yours and paste it here. I am exactly in the same boat. I know how you fell and what is going on with you. I will have 3 months tomorrow and today is 13 weeks since my Steve just gone, disappeared into…"
Jun 19

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About Me:
Sitting alone and crying over my loss. Completely lost and have no idea where to go or what to do. I have no friends or family - came here looking for support and advice.
About my Loss:
My beloved husband of 11 years left me on March 20, 2017. He was my everything and I called him Pumpkin because he loved the bright orange color (look at the photo) and was bald.... Also, he was very kind and very funny. Life is so empty without him and our house turned into some empty building.

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61 tips on the experience of Grief and how to help people through it

This is the book - you can save in pdf format

The first 3

1. Grief is the normal and natural reaction to a significant emotional loss of any kind.

2. Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of, or change in, a familiar pattern of behavior.

3. Grief is the feeling of reaching out for someone who has always been…

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Posted on June 18, 2017 at 9:49am

Lessons of a Late Friend - inspire3.com

I knew he didn't have long to live.



I was sitting next to him on a cold bench at Brighton beach, staring out at the ocean.







"I want to tell you some crap," he said. "Pass it on."



And then he began telling me the things he'd learned in his short time on this planet. The kind of things we all need reminding of from time to time, but we oh-so-easily forget.



He…

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Posted on June 17, 2017 at 1:43pm — 3 Comments

If Tomorrow Starts Without Me

YouTube Video - Still hurts and I dont believe in Jesus but feels like my Steve is talking to me......

"IF TOMORROW STARTS WITHOUT ME"



When tomorrow starts without me 

and I'm not here to see... 

If the sun should rise and find your 

eyes filled with tears for me, 



I wish so much you wouldn't…

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Posted on June 16, 2017 at 7:30pm — 1 Comment

The Guide - Great Online Book for Grieving

The Guide

And this is just one of its chapters - Number VIII

 Sad, Mad and Dangerous to Know

One thing that you will almost certainly find is that you need help to sleep. I found it impossible to sleep in the first couple of…

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Posted on June 15, 2017 at 6:46am

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At 2:45pm on June 22, 2017, KIM Montgomery said…

Nora, 

Our group is run through Kaiser and we meet every week.  It helps. I am actually thinking about individual counseling as well. Today was a really rough day.  I do know I have to come to work. Working from home I just want to cry.  I really like this group so far and I am hopeful it will help me get through some of this.  I feel like I am just going through the motions.  Doing everyone suggest that are good for me, the things I use to do that I enjoyed.  I do them but I don't find the joy I had before.  I am trying to find me again. 

At 5:31pm on June 11, 2017, Billy Jo Colt said…

Grieving is a very personal thing. It also depends on the ammount of love involved. The stronger the love the more painfull the grieving process is. In time some come to accept it, others never accept the loss. Friendship, true friendship, understanding, sharing and a sense of each others feelings is important to get through the grieving process. That may not be the answer for everyone, I accept that. At least we may have made a genuine friendship and that is a positive and not a negative. My song should be recorded some time this week. Take care and hope you are enjoying your vacation.

At 1:55pm on June 9, 2017, Millison Reid said…

Hi Nora I want to thank you for your words of encouragement I needed so much to hear that

At 9:34am on June 8, 2017, KIM Montgomery said…

I had to work yesterday and didn't make the support group.  I am going next Wednesday with my daughter.  Honestly I live about 25 miles away and figured I wouldn't  be able to drive home.  I didn't want to go alone.  My daughter and I were the 2 that his primary care givers through the end with some hospice help.  Today is another hard day and wish I would have forced myself to go.

At 3:55am on May 29, 2017, Billy Jo Colt said…

Hi Nora, Thank you for a wonderful and heart felt reply. I understand as much as is possible your horrendous childhood and growing up, your bitterness towards your Father and three temporary mothers. That must have been hell for you. Yet through it all I sense a genuine loving, caring person inside you. Only shining through at times. I taught myself to forgive easily. That way I don't live with the trauma as much. I also try to understand people and not just their actions. I look at why things happen. I am still close to an x girlfriend of mine and she fell out of love with me, she asked me to give her away at her wedding. Which I did. I was proud to do that for her. We are still very good friends and have made a promise that our friendship would last forever. I was older than she was and that didn't make any difference with her. Yet I remember the pain and hurt at the break up. Again I forgave her and don't regret the time we had together. Again forgivness has to come from the heart and not just esthetically meant. Because I can forgive people, not everyone can do that. We are all very different and none of us are the same. When you wrote Hello Bonnie, you made me smile. I have a friend on facebook who always refers to me as her Bonnie Lad, she lives in England and I in Scotland. I refer to her as my bonnie lass.lol I have a song on youtube that I wrote for my x girlfriends wedding. I am playing the song live at the Wedding reception. A minute before the song was recorded I was in a kilt and Scottish outfit. I changed quickly to my cowboy shirt and boots.lol If you look for bjcolt001 the song is called special day and it is on youtube. My stage name is bjcolt hence the billy Jo colt. I intend making it to Texas in the next few years, as that is where Country music is nowadays. Nashville is not the same any more. The only problem with youtube is that I have to upload either pictures or a video with the audio track. I am not able to do that and i'm trying to find a web site that just uploads the audio track. Thank you so much for replying you have made me smile today. sending you hugggs from Scotland, xxx

At 5:47pm on May 28, 2017, Billy Jo Colt said…

Hi Nora, losing your Mom at such a young age is honestly devastating. Sadly my Mom was very abusive to my brother and myself. I lost my sight at 18 years old and she made me clean the house and do everything, including theironing, washing. Even down to cleaning the carpet with a hand brush, polishing the furniture and more. Again sadly using the threat of violence if it wasn't done properly. After she died I found out that as a child she was both sexualy and physically abused. I had long forgiven her for what happened  with my brother and I. Inside she was a lovely person and loving as well at times. I still love her very much and she made me the person I am today. I can do things that a stereotypical blind person is not supposed to be able to do. I've just finished writing a song about grief and in the next week or so I will record the basic song and try to find a site I can upload it to so members on here can listen to it. I picked up my guitar after 4 years. When my girlfriend died, I lost my heart and soul. I'm slowly getting it back. The song isn't perfect yet but I think it is, hopefully those in our situation can listen to and appreciate, they are not alone in their grief. sending you huggs, from Bonnie scotland. xxx

At 10:23pm on May 21, 2017, Connie Steidl said…

Thank you for your kind words....

At 8:37pm on April 8, 2017, Jerry said…
HI Nora, sorry you too are here now, things just never be the same and you will feel miserable. We all chit chat to and fro here so as they say, "welcome", to what I believe is the dark side of the sun. When you get overwhelmed, stop and take deep breaths to relax your anxiety,it helps me to get through those reoccurrences and very often. I unexpectedly lost my soulmate wife Jan 28, very hardest thing ever to now endure. Take care and be extra careful. She was my "shalinka".
 
 
 

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Panda commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Really missing my mom right now :/ she was the only one in my fd up family. And what hurts even more was I only really knew her for two weeks before she died cuz I got taken from her when I wasnt even two years old and when I turned 18 and had the…"
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KIM Montgomery commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Today is an especially rough day, can't really nail it down to one thing.  So many things going through my head.  I have had 2 weeks to my self to process everything that has happened in since my husband's diagnosis and passing.…"
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Linda Engberg commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
"Morgan, You said it perfect, there is nothing worth living for without my Husband to share it with."
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Its been one year and seven months it has not changed, but it does get "softer", you'll know what I mean. Every night I tell her I love her and I would love to hear her voice one more time.  "
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BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"And same here. I have bad days and tolerable days. I am having a real hard time without my Mom right now. Life just does not make sense anymore. But I keep going on through the motions of  living, hoping this deep sense of loss will ease…"
15 hours ago
KIM Montgomery replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Grief in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Nancy, yes it sounds like there were a lot of similarities in our situations.  I married late and so we would have celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary on August 16th of this year.  Jack's birthday was 12/29/2017. Cancer took my…"
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Doug replied to Cathy 's discussion My brother's death cirrhosis
"Hello Nancy, I don't know how both you, and Cathy, can carry on as well as you have after losing someone you loved so much? It's unbelievable to me that your husband's doctor could be so inept as to never test his liver function,…"
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Esther commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
"Today has been waves of numb detachment for me... I try to be positive and hopeful but sometimes we can't force it and must just tolerate the sadness"
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JO B commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
"sorry for evry 1 it goin thru hell i am  i feal k im livin in hell coz of all bad shit wev had coz of loss"
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Michael Thompson commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
"Morgan, how beautifully written...And spot on!"
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Joy commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Same here. As you said some days are tolerable while others are still bad. I try to keep myself distracted, but memories of my mom invade my thoughts throughout the day."
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morgan commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
"I have been struggling along trying to improve upon what I was left to deal with without my husbands unfailing support for four and half years.  I still want to die.  Everyday.  And of course he would want for me to not have to suffer…"
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Just wanted to see how everyone is doing, I have bad days and tolerable days. Its still very difficult, I miss her so much."
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Nancy replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Grief in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi Kim.  We have a lot of similarities.  Lost my husband to an aggressive cancer May 10th.  We had his celebration of life May 19th and it was truly a celebration with music, stories, food, a bonfire.  Just what he would've…"
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Nancy commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
"I don't think you are being an A hole.  I just think maybe you've had more time to clearly think and grieve.  I hope to get to the point where I can live my life without despair every waking moment as well.  I appreciate…"
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Michael C. Ramsey commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
"Not trying to be an A-hole here folks but, C'mon waiting/wanting to die? My Andrea is gone almost 3 years and she is always on my mind. I have good days and bad days BUT I try to live whatever days I have left the way she would want me to. She…"
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