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Alice Thompson commented on Nora's status
"That is exactly right! Just what it is like for me."
Sep 15
Nora posted a status
"from The Book Thief, by Markus Zusak:"Imagine smiling after a slap in the face.Then think of doing it twenty-four hours a day.""
Sep 12
Nora replied to Richard Rivera's discussion FIRST BIRTHDAY ALONE...
"Richard. Its your birthday today. I know how you feel - my birthday was a month ago. I understand all your thoughts and feelings today. I know how badly you want Annette to be beside you right now but she cannot. I looked at my birthday differently…"
Sep 6
Nora added a discussion to the group How to move on...
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25 Habits of Happy People - Something I Should Start Learning Again

It was so natural to do many things before. Now many things look so unnatural. I have to learn how to smile and be happy. It feels like I never knew.....I have started... First six (without #2) I already can do. My dear, Steve, please help me to start smiling again!Urban Jungle Co. - Link25 Life Changing Habits of Happy People …See More
Aug 7
Nora commented on Jesse's Mom's group Signs from Our Loved Ones
"I find this interesting. Signs from our deceased ones. Can Our Deceased Loved Ones Still Hear Us? Please read comments also."
Jul 17
Nora added a discussion to the group How to move on...
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Letting Go of the Worry That Weighs Us Down-By Lisa Jeffs

I find this calmingWe worry too much and I am sure some things we worry about even dont deserve our attention but we worry and they drain our energy that we already dont have right now...“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.” ~Eckhart TolleAs a child, I remember my daily walks to elementary school. It was an uphill walk for the most part. Quite symbolic of later years, now that I…See More
Jul 14
Nora replied to Jackie cooke's discussion Moving on in the group How to move on...
"Moving on is not forgetting. Moving on for me right now is only taking myself to some other level - better to say moving out of pain. Guilt. Jakie sent me some time a site where they say - you did not cause his death, you did not kill or hurt…"
Jun 26
Nora replied to Nora's discussion No Nesting In My Hair in the group How to move on...
"Today was the day when they nested in my hair. I failed today. At the same time I did many things - only decided not to go anywhere as I cried and my eyes hurt. My condition is not healthy, it is exhausting. I am getting very tired and upset. It is…"
Jun 25
Nora added a discussion to the group How to move on...
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No Nesting In My Hair

"You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair". ~ Old Chinese ProverbI have one more member of the group now so its better to make discussions.This is how I feel right now. Fetus? Egg? it's against nature to stay like this... Broken wings, broken heart, broken hopes, broken life... For 3 months I was tempted to lessen this tragedy in your life by numbing your mind with alcohol or drugs or escape from it by reading…See More
Jun 24
Nora and Lost with out him are now friends
Jun 24
Nora commented on Steph's group How to move on...
"This is my meditation that I use in the evening. Coping with Grief: Guided Spoken Meditation for healing after a los... Day number 1 - today I decided to notice more positive things around. Cannot say it worked but at least I started. Went shopping…"
Jun 24
Nora commented on Steph's group How to move on...
"I have decided to create a Moving On group today but then I found that Steph who is not a member anymore already created this group so I am reincarnating it. I have the same pain as anybody else here ut I want to slowly work back to some other…"
Jun 24
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How to move on...

How to move on after the loss of your significant other? Is this possible? When? Navigating through this process while also dealing with your grief. See More
Jun 24
Nora posted a status
"Hi, Pumpkin! 3 months without you today. Started looking for a job. I know you are proud of me now. But it is so hard without you. Love""
Jun 20
Jesse's Mom commented on Nora's blog post Lessons of a Late Friend - inspire3.com
"Thanks Karl...your list is so true. "
Jun 18
Brian P Mulkerne and Nora are now friends
Jun 18

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About Me:
Sitting alone and crying over my loss. Completely lost and have no idea where to go or what to do. I have no friends or family - came here looking for support and advice.
About my Loss:
My beloved husband of 11 years left me on March 20, 2017. He was my everything and I called him Pumpkin because he loved the bright orange color (look at the photo) and was bald.... Also, he was very kind and very funny. Life is so empty without him and our house turned into some empty building.

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61 tips on the experience of Grief and how to help people through it

This is the book - you can save in pdf format

The first 3

1. Grief is the normal and natural reaction to a significant emotional loss of any kind.

2. Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of, or change in, a familiar pattern of behavior.

3. Grief is the feeling of reaching out for someone who has always been…

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Posted on June 18, 2017 at 9:49am

Lessons of a Late Friend - inspire3.com

I knew he didn't have long to live.



I was sitting next to him on a cold bench at Brighton beach, staring out at the ocean.







"I want to tell you some crap," he said. "Pass it on."



And then he began telling me the things he'd learned in his short time on this planet. The kind of things we all need reminding of from time to time, but we oh-so-easily forget.



He…

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Posted on June 17, 2017 at 1:43pm — 3 Comments

If Tomorrow Starts Without Me

YouTube Video - Still hurts and I dont believe in Jesus but feels like my Steve is talking to me......

"IF TOMORROW STARTS WITHOUT ME"



When tomorrow starts without me 

and I'm not here to see... 

If the sun should rise and find your 

eyes filled with tears for me, 



I wish so much you wouldn't…

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Posted on June 16, 2017 at 7:30pm — 1 Comment

The Guide - Great Online Book for Grieving

The Guide

And this is just one of its chapters - Number VIII

 Sad, Mad and Dangerous to Know

One thing that you will almost certainly find is that you need help to sleep. I found it impossible to sleep in the first couple of…

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Posted on June 15, 2017 at 6:46am

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At 5:31pm on June 11, 2017, Billy Jo Colt said…

Grieving is a very personal thing. It also depends on the ammount of love involved. The stronger the love the more painfull the grieving process is. In time some come to accept it, others never accept the loss. Friendship, true friendship, understanding, sharing and a sense of each others feelings is important to get through the grieving process. That may not be the answer for everyone, I accept that. At least we may have made a genuine friendship and that is a positive and not a negative. My song should be recorded some time this week. Take care and hope you are enjoying your vacation.

At 1:55pm on June 9, 2017, Millison Reid said…

Hi Nora I want to thank you for your words of encouragement I needed so much to hear that

At 3:55am on May 29, 2017, Billy Jo Colt said…

Hi Nora, Thank you for a wonderful and heart felt reply. I understand as much as is possible your horrendous childhood and growing up, your bitterness towards your Father and three temporary mothers. That must have been hell for you. Yet through it all I sense a genuine loving, caring person inside you. Only shining through at times. I taught myself to forgive easily. That way I don't live with the trauma as much. I also try to understand people and not just their actions. I look at why things happen. I am still close to an x girlfriend of mine and she fell out of love with me, she asked me to give her away at her wedding. Which I did. I was proud to do that for her. We are still very good friends and have made a promise that our friendship would last forever. I was older than she was and that didn't make any difference with her. Yet I remember the pain and hurt at the break up. Again I forgave her and don't regret the time we had together. Again forgivness has to come from the heart and not just esthetically meant. Because I can forgive people, not everyone can do that. We are all very different and none of us are the same. When you wrote Hello Bonnie, you made me smile. I have a friend on facebook who always refers to me as her Bonnie Lad, she lives in England and I in Scotland. I refer to her as my bonnie lass.lol I have a song on youtube that I wrote for my x girlfriends wedding. I am playing the song live at the Wedding reception. A minute before the song was recorded I was in a kilt and Scottish outfit. I changed quickly to my cowboy shirt and boots.lol If you look for bjcolt001 the song is called special day and it is on youtube. My stage name is bjcolt hence the billy Jo colt. I intend making it to Texas in the next few years, as that is where Country music is nowadays. Nashville is not the same any more. The only problem with youtube is that I have to upload either pictures or a video with the audio track. I am not able to do that and i'm trying to find a web site that just uploads the audio track. Thank you so much for replying you have made me smile today. sending you hugggs from Scotland, xxx

At 5:47pm on May 28, 2017, Billy Jo Colt said…

Hi Nora, losing your Mom at such a young age is honestly devastating. Sadly my Mom was very abusive to my brother and myself. I lost my sight at 18 years old and she made me clean the house and do everything, including theironing, washing. Even down to cleaning the carpet with a hand brush, polishing the furniture and more. Again sadly using the threat of violence if it wasn't done properly. After she died I found out that as a child she was both sexualy and physically abused. I had long forgiven her for what happened  with my brother and I. Inside she was a lovely person and loving as well at times. I still love her very much and she made me the person I am today. I can do things that a stereotypical blind person is not supposed to be able to do. I've just finished writing a song about grief and in the next week or so I will record the basic song and try to find a site I can upload it to so members on here can listen to it. I picked up my guitar after 4 years. When my girlfriend died, I lost my heart and soul. I'm slowly getting it back. The song isn't perfect yet but I think it is, hopefully those in our situation can listen to and appreciate, they are not alone in their grief. sending you huggs, from Bonnie scotland. xxx

At 10:23pm on May 21, 2017, Connie Steidl said…

Thank you for your kind words....

At 8:37pm on April 8, 2017, Jerry said…
HI Nora, sorry you too are here now, things just never be the same and you will feel miserable. We all chit chat to and fro here so as they say, "welcome", to what I believe is the dark side of the sun. When you get overwhelmed, stop and take deep breaths to relax your anxiety,it helps me to get through those reoccurrences and very often. I unexpectedly lost my soulmate wife Jan 28, very hardest thing ever to now endure. Take care and be extra careful. She was my "shalinka".
 
 
 

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Trina Mamoon commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Dear bluebird, There are no words to offer you as you mark the fifth anniversary of your beloved husband's passing. I can only say that I feel deeply for you, and my heart aches at your pain. I know the feeling you are describing only too well.…"
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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....
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MIchael Ortiz commented on Bethany's blog post Drowning...
"Its been 3 months since I lost my love. I had to do it alone. I hope you have family or someone you can just vent and they just listen.I still feel pain and ups and downs.One second I think I am better and boom.Have no clue what sets it off. Do what…"
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bluebird commented on Bethany's blog post Drowning...
"You aren't doing it to yourself -- your grief and your loss are doing it to you.  It sucks, but that's what grief and loss do.  It's quite common to feel that things are getting better for a while, and then find yourself…"
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Alice Thompson commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I'm so sorry, Bluebird. The mornings are a nightmare, I agree, but the late evenings, that prospect of slipping into unconsciousness (if only it could be permanent)can be such a relief. Your steadfast, committed love for your husband shines out…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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Nancy commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Exactly bluebird."
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bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I have to say, Nancy, I envy you the 43 years. My husband and I were together for nearly 13 years, but married for only one week when he died (massive, unexpected heart attack).  But no matter how long a couple is together, when they are truly…"
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Nancy commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I'm exactly where you are bluebird. Only it's only been 4 months. We were married 43 years. Got married young. I know no other life."
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bluebird commented on Mike H.'s blog post Repost: Is It Wrong to Grieve?
"No, of course it is not wrong to grieve.  My husband died 5 years ago today, and I will never stop grieving.  The course of grief and the response(s) to it are different for each person, and no one should ever tell another that…"
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bluebird commented on Beckie Preston's blog post Lost
"Do you have family and/or friends you can turn to for help?  Do you intend to continue with your pregnancy, and, if so, do you plan to keep and raise the baby? I think the emotional support of loved ones would be very helpful to you right now,…"
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bluebird replied to Gabby Freeland's discussion I gave up before everyone else did
"I don't think you should feel bad.  When someone is ill for a long time, it's natural to start grieving quite a long time before that person actually dies.  Besides, you felt that way in part because you didn't want your mum…"
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bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Today marks exactly five years since my husband died.  I still wish I had died when he did. For me, it's not the nights that are the worst part, it's the mornings.  Of course I do miss him at night -- I miss cuddling with him, I…"
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Crystal K commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Had better days than today.  My sister decides to move to my mom's native home for six months with her kids to renovate the house and in my head I'm yelling at her 'what's the use now. she's dead.'  My mom…"
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Patty replied to Karen's discussion STUPID things people say... " Vent Here " in the group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Wow, that is one of the stupidest things I have ever heard.    "
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"I just passed 7 years.  Everything Karen said below is ditto for me :'("
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