"I know Christmas is hard on all of us who have lost our beloved spouse but I try to keep in mind that they are in a good and beautiful place. I know that someday I will join Jim when God is done with me here on Earth. I truly believe that I have…"
You have hit the nail we all wanted to miss. Nothing can hurt this bad. Nothing. I could never have imagined I would be as devastated, and for as long, as I have been. I have yet to be able to reconcile the anguish.…"
I wish I could give some comforting advice, but I know it's going to be hard. I lost my wife Jan. 21, 2018 to cancer. Join the "Lost My Spouse" group and read through some of the posts there. We share our feelings of…"
I lost my husband and life partner to cancer on Oct. 31. We had been married for 43 years and had never been apart for more than a week in all that time. I miss him so much and it hurts like nothing I have ever known.
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You have hit the nail we all wanted to miss. Nothing can hurt this bad. Nothing. I could never have imagined I would be as devastated, and for as long, as I have been. I have yet to be able to reconcile the anguish. I don't understand how its possible to be so shattered when I was living a life with joy and happiness, comfort and contentment. The early years of grieving are so raw and will consume your strength daily. No one really wants to admit it but there is no timeline for when the pain is supposed to ease. When you experience the pain of the greatest loss ever it is impossible to describe to anyone who has never lost their spouse and had a good marriage. Here we know the pain. We are all too familiar with it. Each of us are in a different timeline but I can advise you to not expect too much of yourself. As for the holidays, it depends.
My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 on the day after Xmas so I've just decided it is easier for me not to celebrate the season, at all. I have no children so I have no obligatory events to go to. Even so I still spend from before Thanksgiving up through the end of January when he died, crying and trying to bear with the noise of everyone else who still have something to celebrate.
Just go easy on yourself. Dont do anything you don't want to do Don't feel pressure. Hang onto what Joe says if you can...... "(your husband)will be there for you when your time comes and you both will spend eternity in joyful bliss." Just keep telling yourself that over and over and over. And do whatever you can to distract yourself from thinking. Its about the only way to get through the moments of each day. We all post periodically and come here to read. You may end up doing the same thing. But guaranteed each of us know your pain and we are all sorry you have had to find us here.......
I wish I could give some comforting advice, but I know it's going to be hard. I lost my wife Jan. 21, 2018 to cancer. Join the "Lost My Spouse" group and read through some of the posts there. We share our feelings of grief and hopes of someday being reunited with our Loves when it's our time to join them. That will happen someday. Believe it. He is still with you but in a different realm that we can't see. Trust that he is watching over you and will be there for you when your time comes and you both will spend eternity in joyful bliss.
"Hello to all of you who are here for the same unimaginable reason as I am. I found this website last night after another night of going to bed where instead of sleep, pain sets in that I was able to escape from all day by being busy. Jess's…"
"Joe, I have seven tattoos one for each year Julian has been gone. It is my way of honoring him People make fun of me saying I am too old (71) to have them. Glad to hear I am not the only one still honoring their spouse after death."
"Wow..you suicide yourself there us no place for you in heaven. You will find yourself again and life will go on without your dearly departed. Learn to love yourself find what you like to do there has to something. Think of it like this he…"
"It is a tradgedy to lose a loved one. But it does get better. Not everyday will be the same some days burn to the core more than others. Find a hobby or volunteer or help someone basically find something to do to ease the monotony of the day. In…"
"Thank you Linda. It's beautiful for you to had done that. I have tattoo of our names in a heart. I wear two sets of our wedding bands on both pinkys and ring fingers. We're still married and always will be forever.…"
"Yes I still miss her terribly. I am still sad and angry. I was left with two boys ages 12 and 8 at that time. What kept me going was making sure they were provided for and raised well. I still have full on bawls when the…"
I am curious because I am within a week of being a widow of seven years how you are doing it allotter eight years? Today, and more often lately (lets say for about the past six months) I have become more angry and more hateful of having…"