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I'm having a rough night. Would like to talk to someone.
Started this discussion. Last reply by Kayla Feb 25.
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if you need someone to talk to comment on my profile page okay? we all need someone to talk to.
Me too. I just found this site tonight. It looks amazing, if its anything like facebook except for people like us. I need somebody to talk to too. I watched my husband die of a heart attack 15 months ago. It haunts me some nights, other nights its j…
I'm having a rough night. Would like to talk to someone.
If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....
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- About Me:
- I'm 30 yrs old . I'm struggling with the death of my mother & Girlfriend. I thought maybe this site might help.
- About my Loss:
- My Girlfriend died in a auto accident on Thanksgiving Day 1999. My Mom died of a massive heart attack on July 23 2006. My Mom died right in front of me. We were eating breakfast & she looked at me & said Jeremy I'm dying. That's the last words she ever spoke. I've never felt so helpless there was nothing I could do to help her. Mom was my best friend. She helped
me out during the most trying time of my life when Heather died. I miss her
alot. I think what I miss the most is just acting like a kid around her. I would tell her some of my stupid jokes & mainly just act like a total goofball around her.We were always joking around & I really miss that. When
Heather died that really changed me. I was not a very good boy friend. I
regret that so much. Everybody says that time will heal your pain ,I don't believe that. It's been 10 yrs since Heather passed away & I don't feel any better. I can remember that morning like it was yesterday. Heathers death has affected my relationship. I've had a couple of girlfriends since her death but it just doesn't feel right. I'm angry with God for putting me thru all of this. He took the two most important people of my life & left me here alone. My Mom would be very disapointed in me if she knew I was thinking like this she was a firm believer in God. It's just hard for me right now to understand why he would put me thru all of this.Maybe this site will help me better understand my situation.
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- At 11:54pm on March 16, 2010,
Lara said…
- Hi Jeremy, thanks for your friend request. I've found the people on this site to be very understanding because they know how I feel. I'm so sorry for the losses of both your girlfriend and your Mom. I miss my boyfriend so much. I've been getting angry with our friends lately because they're adjusting to life without Pete, and their lives go on. While I understand that that's what has to happen, I'm not even close to moving on yet and I feel so alone. To me it feels like they're betraying Pete. I know they're not really but I can't help how I feel. The people here understand, so talk about how you feel. It really helps.
- At 1:21am on March 16, 2010,
Angela Beaver said…
- Thank you for sending me a friend request. Im sorry for your losses
- At 5:04pm on February 25, 2010,
Kayla said…
- Hey jeremy, I know how you feel. But it's so important that you don't give up. I know that being alone is the absolute worstfeeling in the world, but you can get through it. The key is to have a strong support system. Find a friend and try and getclose withthem. I met my bestfriend because she noticed that ii was always so sad, and now we are never apart. Try and find a hobby to keep yourself occupied. You might findnout that you love painting or drawing.
- At 4:49pm on February 13, 2010,
Stacy Ballard said…
- Jeremy,
Your story is quite similar to mine. I lost my best friend in an auto accident in 1997. She was my roommate in college, high school best friend, and maid of honor in my wedding. It was sudden with no warning. I did not get to say good bye. My father was my best friend. He died suddenly of a brain hemmorage from misadministartion of the drug TPA. He lived next door with my mother to my family. I watched him lay on the bathroom floor and the look on his face will never leave me. my mom and I now have to live with the fact that we allowed the Drs to give the TPA 6 hrs laterwithout understanding the deadly side effects it can have. I feel so much sorrow for you and please know that your sadness is understood on both levels by me greatly. I am not a spell checker so sorry for the mis spelled words.
Stacy
- At 4:58pm on February 4, 2010,
Dana LaPaglia said…
- Hi Jeremy my name is Dana, oh how I understand what You are going through both my Parents passed away my Mom in march 6 2009, and My Dad April 19 2009. I had to watch my mom slowly die with a breathing tube shoved down her throat. I was the one who had to make the decision to take her off life support, but when she was in the ER her last words to me was I Love You Dana, I can still hear her saying those exact words it broke my heart then and it breaks my heart now. Then 44 days later I had to watch my Daddy die in his room at our home and in front of me I felt him leave, I know he missed my Mom so much he had to be with Her but I was not ready it was to soon. I am a christian and I too was mad at God, why did I have to go through all of this taking care of them only to watch them die! my Mom was my Best Friend so not only did I lose a Mother but my Best Friend. some days I do not know how to go on but I do, for my Husband and my kids and my granddaughter. I hope that it gets easier because the pain is just to much.
- At 12:16pm on February 1, 2010,
Money Jensen said… - thanks for adding me as a friend, i am so sorry for your loss. i know that it's hard to deal with all of these emotions, i am dealing with them as well. i hope that me listening and sharing my thoughts will somehow help you. this site has been pretty good so far for me. :)
- At 9:45am on February 1, 2010,
Rochelle Kramer said… - Hi Jeremy,
Thanks for adding me as a friend. I hope you can find what your looking for on this cite. I feel your pain for the loss of your mother. Mine has been passed for 3 years now as well. I miss being able to act like a kid too, just to be my complete self around the person who knew me the best. I dont have many people in my life that I can talk to about this, thats why I am here. I am sure that is why you are here too. You had two great losses, and I am so sorry for that. No one should have to deal with this type of pain. I have an ex boyfriend in Afghan right now, despite the fact that were not together, I still hope, every day, that he comes back alive. I dont want to loose a best friend in the midst of everyhing else. Even if your angry with God, that doesnt mean tht your faith is gone.You have every right as a person to question what has happened to you. Feel free to chat with me whenever you need to. Dont give up, it can be hard, but it isnt the end.
- At 11:20pm on January 31, 2010,
Angela S. said…
- Listen, Jeremy, talking, and talking and talking will help. I can't do anything but talk those days and try to understand life. Pavlos death also affected me and also change me too. I will never be the same again. It's so hard to lost the person we love. Just remember, this group is here to talk and listen when you need it. Including me.
- At 11:20pm on January 31, 2010,
- Hi Jeremy,
Oh my... I read your wall and I can't belive it. I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know know it feel to have someone telling you they are dying and to die in front of me. I'm so sorry. as for your gf, that I would want it is to loss that special person in your life. My bf was planning to ask me to marry him this year, from what he told him family and they tells me this after he pass away. I go to the cemetery and when I leave I can't stop crying and vomiting. Yet I can't not go. I understand you want question. me I try reading the bible but I got furious. Why him. Why was I not in the car at that time. Why now. I decided to join a church discussion group at the church my boyfriend went to talk and to try to understand why he had to die. I also speak to the church 3 times a week or 4times a week if they are free about my feelings when I'm totally overwhelm and of course a psychologist, plus a doctor. Yet that Friday night that he died ( and every Friday since I heard he died)I keep replaying that last night in my head of what I could have done differently or have said something differently. The weekend is hard. satursday is bad since that is when I found out my bf died by his father telling me that it's my fault he was dead. Those words will never leave my head. No matter how many times I'm told it's not my fault, even with me trying to believe it, it will haunt me for the rest of my life. I even had the police call me to tell me that the parents are grieving and it's not my fault. So I understand your grieve. I don't think we will ever understand why till it's our time but to try to understand enough to contiune living, that is what I'm trying to do. To put one foot in front of the other without falling down and screaming my head off.
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